Sad - I just got my period

NH101 congratulations to you ! very pleased to hear that, and i sincerely hope that everything goes well, and you have a happy, healthy pregnancy .

congratulations nh101! Really hoping that this time goes well for you

Hi Lulumama! It's nice to "see" you. Guess what? BFP this morning, six months to the day since my MC. So ladies, do not give up hope. Three months ttc after MC is nothing. Try to relax (easier said than done). And I know how hard it is to hear of other people's BFPs, even other people who have had MCs. I spent a long time feeling so, so of people who got BFPS when it was all I so desperately wanted.

Fawkeoff - I didn't tell anyone either (apart from DP obviously) have since told a couple of friends but not family and also feel as though I had no support - but don't really want to tell people now.

abbeville - I could have written your posts - am in exactly the same boat. Mc 3 months ago after 6 months of trying, and have DD. Was really, really gutted this month when AF arrived - I don't know why but I've just lost hope now. Going to see GP on Monday - don't really think they'll be able to do anything but just want to check in case. I just want to be pregnant!!!

it's strange isn't it, i took people getting pregnant as a personal vendetta.when i was going through my last miscarriage i didnt even tell anyone i was pregnant,so i was on my own and had no support from friends or family, just dp...really felt stupid not telling anyone after,but it felt right at the time.i was so sick of ppl feeling sorry for me

I think temping is a bit more difficult when you already have kids! (You don't tend to have the luxury of being able to lie in bed for two minutes before you get up taking your temp!

Fawkeoff that is awful! I find it OK as long as I am in control of the situation re other people's babies. If I am just around a load of people talking about babies or being PG I find it hard. But if I am asking the questions etc I feel fine. When my SIL got PG they kept it secret until 12 weeks (I blabbed to everyone straight away about my PG) and that annoyed me cos I was like "What's so special about your baby that you don't want anyone to know?" Even though I know that is totally irrational cos lots of people like to wait till 12 weeks.

It sounds ridiculous reading it back but at the time it really annoyed me! (I think it was just cos I thought 'you might have more important things to worry about soon if you lose it so stop being so f*cking precious!')

Belgo - temping is dead easy, you get a digital thermometer (£8 from accessdiagnostics), take your temp every morning and input it every day on fertilityfriend.com. The website tells you when you ovulate - it is amazing! (Although obviously it can only tell you after it has occured, but it is good esp if you have BD'd at the right time or to plan for next month.)

yeah it was shite......anyway my point is iknow its really hard at the moment for you to think positive but im sure things will be fine x x x

that must have been very tough fawkeoff.

the day i had my 1st miscarriage my brothers gf was in the hospital witha suspected miscarriage,i had to have a d&c and she was fine.my brother came to see me when i came out of the op and i couldn't even look ay him.i was soangry that she had kept her baby and i had to lose mine.when i was in on my second miscarriage she had just given birth to my nephew and my family wouldn't let me visit him.i was extremely hurt by their actions even though i knew they where looking after me

the thing is I don't really understand how temping would work.

If it takes much longer though I will look into it.

Thanks Belgo - have you tried temping? It is not for everyone but it has been a godsend to me this month.

nh101 - it must be hard losing your first pregnancy. I'm very fortunate to have two dds.

Wishing you luck this month - I will be looking out for you.

nh101 - I do seem to ovulate later or earlier then I think.

My SIL got PG practically the day of my MC (told us about it four weeks later). It was very hard. She is due in Dec. But my other SIL has been trying for nearly 3 years and has never even been PG. There are always others far worse off (though it doesn't always make you feel better)

Chin up, Abbevillemum - why not come and join us on the ttc after MC thread, there are always some kind words from others in the same situation.

It is six months since my MC and still not PG (although hopeful for this month).

Have you tried acupuncture/reflexology? What is your diet like? Are you sure you don't stop BDing too soon (some people don't OV bang on day 14)?

I am sure things will work out for you and, yes, relaxing is a big part of it. I am sure your little one will have a sibling soon.

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thanks fawkeoff.

sorry if your not interested i just wanted to tell you my situation as it might give you a silver lining x

i never stopped stressing about it, it was a constant factor in my everyday life, i tried to forget about it then some bloody preggers woman would waddle towards me then my mind would go in overdrive....i had dd after 2 miscarriages, had a 3rd then had ds.i will not be having anymore though

I was also wondering if getting stressed out about it prevents it happening somehow. But it is very hard not to get stressed out.