Help a Girl Out - Confused About EWCM & OPKs

AF is due on the 13th - so 10 days from now @Sho2207. I've read that your body can attempt to release the egg following the LH surge, and then try again a few days later if failed, so possibly what could have happened, although CD20 was late for ovulation anyway. I have spoken to a few people who after coming off the pill ended up with 60+ day cycles and finally got an LH surge towards the end, so I guess it can come any time, but my cycle was 30 days last time. I'll keep testing anyway just to be on the safe side ☺️

I guess you're not our untik AF arrives and still have a few days to go, will you keep testing do you think?

@Sho2207 sorry to hear about your BFN, but it sounds like you're being really positive ☺️ When is AF due?

I have no idea what's going on with me - my temps are still going down, and I skipped doing an OPK yesterday as thought I ovulated a few days ago, but because of the temps I thought I best double check and carry on with OPKs for now and I seem to be having another surge today! Not as high as last one so will do another this afternoon. OH is out all day and not back until late tonight, already mentioned to him DTD and he said it might be too late and maybe tomorrow instead, so frustrating!

@Sho2207 I was thinking about getting the clear blue digital OPKs, have you had any experience with them? I was thinking I might use the cheap ones throughout the month, and then around when I think I might ovulate use the digital ones, or perhaps keep on with the cheap ones and then when the line starts to get darker switch to the CB, although like I said I had no warning of my darker line this time around!

Ah I'm so glad you said that as I feel the same now I'm in the second half of my cycle. Must be tricky for them to have it loads for a few weeks and then hardly at all eek. I'm going to try and keep it up throughout the month, but not as much in the second half as think it'll be too much for him otherwise if we go at it like crazy for a week and then nothing ha. This cycle we started from CD6 as soon as AF was finished as I had no idea when I would ovulate, may start going for every other day a little later this time.

In a way it's good to know what to look out for, but your body could respond differently next time in terms of symptoms. At what point did you start getting pelvic pain and spots?

Thanks so much, will keep my fingers crossed for your next test, let me know how it goes xx

@Sho2207 I'm just thankful I got some sort of a surge as must mean my body is doing what it's meant to be doing...or at least trying!

Sorry to hear about your BFN. Are you going to keep testing for a few more days? It's funny isn't it but I'm sure you must get an intuition as to whether you've been successful or not. I just have a feeling we won't have managed this time. I'm only 3DPO so I know I wouldn't have any symptoms or anything, but I just feel like it probably won't be our month. We DTD the two days before ovulation day, but then by ovulation day after two days in a row OH ended up saying he felt too under pressure and we didn't manage. Otherwise we've been going for everyday day, but did miss a couple of days out. I'm not sure how to manage the feeling under pressure thing, as even if I told tell him it's my fertile week he will know as I'm aiming to DTD everyday then. Think maybe we might be better sticking to every other day throughout my cycle so then he won't be aware of when I'm ovulating. He just said he became very aware of the fact that 'it mattered' and then felt under pressure x

@Sho2207 forgot to attach the photo xx

Hey ☺️ @Sho2207 thanks for checking in. I did, sort of! I got a dark line on CD20 at 10.30am - I wasn't testing until 2ish before, but OH and I were going out for a long walk with the dog that day so did it quickly in the morning before I went. By the time we got back home it was gettinf fainter again. It crept up on me as I didn't have lines getting darker or anything, just all of a sudden that morning.

Have attached a photo - it was so close to being just as dark as the control line, so think I possibly missed the peak. Although I started temping about a week ago and my temp hasn't risen, so not feeling certain I actually ovulated, but who knows. If I did I'm 3DPO now. How are you getting on? Xx

@Sho2207 message above x

Oh wow, maybe that's where I'm going wrong! I'm probably only managing to hold my wee a couple of hours before testing, sometimes less :/ I might go now and then not again until 3ish and test then...I usually workout around midday, so not sure how that'll go with a full bladder ha. Glad it's not just me that is finding things tricky after stopping the pill. Thanks so much for all your help so far :) feel much better about things x

@Sho2207 this is what I had yesterday too - darker at 3pm, light again at 9pm...really hope I get a darker one at 3ish today!

@Sho2207 oh thanks so much for sharing your tests! That's really encouraging that you go from light to dark like that, as I've been stressing that mine aren't getting any darker, but maybe they will just get dark suddenly, fingers crossed xx

I think I thought because I was doing everything I could to track my cycle that I would be sure of when I ovulated, but I have no idea what's happening and it's just making me super frustrated. I really hope I get a darker like on OPKS in the next few days. Oh thanks for the tip, will look into that :)

Ah well good for you, that's a good idea not to count down the days! Right now I feel like I'm not going to have a clue when my TWW even begins.

Will let you know if/when I get my darker lines on OPKs, and you'll have to let me know if you get your BFP :) x

@Sho2207 alas I got excited too soon - it went back down again last night 🙄 I've done my first BBT reading today so hopefully tracking my temp too will help me work out what's going on. My last cycle was 30 days, so according to my app ovulation should be tomorrow. But I've only had one natural cycle since coming off the pill, so I guess they could be irregular, but was hoping seeing as AF came exactly 30 days after the first day of my withdrawal bleed that might be a sign my cycle was going back to normal. I'm taking vitamin d and folic acid.

Are you currently in the two week wait? Hope all is good your end ☺️

@Sho2207 well it's nowhere near a positive, but LH levels appear to be going up, which I guess could mean surge is coming, fingers crossed I get a positive later today or tomorrow.

That's very true. Haha that's now I felt yesterday, that I just needed a night off 😂

That was our exact thinking with planning to TTC, as it gives us something positive focus on, rather than constantly fretting about the wedding x