TTC after MC - June 2020

@MichT4 welcome ! I'm sorry about your loss! I have noticed that MC is not linear process and we all hit bad moments. I think it is a part of grieving process. This is also what the chat helps me with. I wish you an awesome Healthy pregnancy !
And btw guys seem to go through MC differently. I need to talk to people a lot about it( for those who know), it helps me to process it and I try to somehow calm myself down.

I have also tried to occupy myself with organizing and decorating the house and garden like Collecting Multiple boxes for organizing bits and bits in the process ... seriously how many organizing boxes a woman can have ( I guess not enough). I have even ordered a metal organizer for cutting boards 😅

By the way girls, if you don’t already I recommend following Charlie Launder on Instagram. She suffered 4 miscarriages last year and is now expecting a baby in July. She fills me with all sorts of hope xx

@@micht4 dont be silly hun xx I reckon weve all felt the same at some point .. I know I deffo have xx

@NightDreaming I know what you mean, it’s lovely to have people to talk to.

Sending hugs to you too, and they are here whenever you feel low xx

@VP91x not really. I’ve been working throughout but from home so I haven’t been able to do loads to the house/garden. What an excuse!!
We moved into the new house in October so we can’t decorate yet 🙄. I really want to do the garden so we are starting to look at that now.

I’m into powerlifting so luckily I’ve managed to train a bit from home, when I can be bothered. Amazing how less easy it is to motivate yourself when you only have to go a few steps.

Lots of walks etc too but then my mind wanders again.

I’m a huge overthinker, I need a hobby. Am thinking of dedicating some time to really trying to get in better shape, so maybe I’ll make that a little goal to focus on

I bet your little girl keeps you nice and busy!

What have you done to the house? You might inspire me ☺️ Xxx

Thank you for the lovely welcome. It’s amazing how supportive a few strangers over the internet can feel. I’ve had a little cry. A bit of feeling low, but mostly due to your kind response.

Just want to give a hug to those of you who have had recent, and not so recent, miscarriages. xx

@MichT4 it doesn't matter about Corona you are still allowed to be sad and grieve your loss. Make sure you give yourself to do that. ❤️

My partner is the same he doesn't like to talk about things or finds it hard. I'm sure the Ava will help hard it'll track your temp which is a brilliant indication of when you ovulated.

I've just been decorating or organising the house. This next couple of weeks it'll be the garden. Started repainting the fences etc.

But I have a toddler too who is very demanding. Although she's very good at playing by herself. Just have to set up a new activity constantly and fulfil her snack demands.

Have you done anything nice to occupy yourself during lockdown? Xx

That sounds ungrateful! 👆🏼👆🏼

You know what I mean though - of course we should stay positive, and it WILL be fine, but when someone hasn’t been there it’s just a bitter pill to swallow sometimes.

Argh, I sound like a dragon 😂😂

Thanks @VP91x I'm hoping its something like sciatica and chiropractor can help rather than anything else xxx

@Renna thank you. That’s what made me jump in, it’s lovely having support from people that know how it feels, and don’t just tell you ‘stay positive, it’ll be fine’ (which is nice, but not always welcomed 😂)

Your pup is absolutely heart meltingly gorgeous by the way 🥰

xxx

@VP91x thank you ☺️

To be honest I think I haven’t really grieved much. Suffering the MC just before lockdown meant not being able to process it by talking too much, and I had that weird guilt that the Corona situation meant I couldn’t moan about my own woes. I felt bad crying a lot in front of OH because he hates feeling helpless. I don’t know what your boys are like, but he’s not really processed it either. I found that out when I was sobbing about my sister and he finally said he hadn’t grieved. Men don’t talk though, and he’s always wanting me to be happy so doesn’t really say.

It will be lovely if our turn is soon. I just felt so hard done by that she and her oh did it once, and weren’t trying, and they’ve caught it. I think it’s helped me grieve a little more though so might be a blessing in disguise.

I hope Ava helps. I have pretty long cycles, and Ava and the apps are currently close on ovulation but all slightly different. I felt positive last month and thought we’d caught it, period was late going by the app but nope, just probably ovulated later. Hence the impulse purchase and I really hope it’s wasted money!!

Feeling positive again, aside from the occasional weep, and hoping June is the month for all of us! Let’s empty this thread this month 🤞🏼🤞🏼

How are you girls keeping your minds occupied?

xxx

@MichT4 hi hun welcome to joining in the thread xxx sorry for what you've been through xx hope you feel less lonely here I think we all know what you mean about that feeling xx

@MichT4 welcome! 👋 I'm glad you have had some comfort through our posts and you have decided to join us😊😊

I'm really sorry you have suffered a loss recently. Regardless of how far along you were it really is devastating. I hope you have allowed yourself to feel as sad as you need to and properly grieve? It must be so hard to hear your sister is pregnant now but take comfort in soon you will be too and they will be close in age and you will have support there too.

It is good that you got the Ava to track and get your ovulation. The apps can vary so much with the ovulation date if you don't have the extra bits of info.

Fingers crossed this is your month 🤞 xx

@Hayleylou89 hey babe xx excited for your scan xx puppy doing so well shes so clever x I'm liking what ava does but its difficult at mo as my sleep is more broken than usual with pup 😂🐶🙄
I didnt have any pg symptoms in the first few weeks babe so dont panic xxxx

@SmileyT Haha only fair then aye .. 🤷‍♀️I'm feeling positive for you you wont even need ava😘🤞 BFP deserved for you lovely lady , ava is just more data really and you love data so think you'll like it lol x xx probs start seeing stronger lines on cheapies tomo maybe a static in PM if not weds AM :) XX then I'll be joining you xx deffo going quick with pup. I've followed SMEP so far not particularly intentionally though . X

Hi hun @NightDreaming sorry you're having a down day totally normal and hopefully finding some support here can help xxx

Hey girls

I’ve been one of the weird ones, reading and following your posts for a while. It’s helped me a lot, so thank you.
Sorry to be here with you all, and Congrats to those of you I’ve seen get your happy results .

We fell pregnant with our first baby in February, but had a miscarriage confirmed on the 17th March, we were only about 6 weeks but were devastated. I don’t think we realised how much we wanted it until we didn’t have it anymore.
Anyway, we sort of tried first month but I started thinking more about it from the second. I haven’t been tracking much, except for on an app and we have a pretty active sex life so it’s not been too bad. I just know I’m getting more stressed by it now, especially since last Thursday when my oldest sister called me to tell me she was pregnant!! She felt terrible but it just hurts so much. It was a one off and a complete accident and she’s probably now about 10-12 weeks. I can’t stop crying!! I feel awful that I should be happy for her but I’m heartbroken. I keep thinking we should have been ahead of her and that she’ll be buying all the stuff and doing the things we should be

Anyway, that’s me in a nutshell. Hope you don’t mind me appearing after being a silent peeper for a while. But you all drew me in with your loveliness.

Oh, I bought an ava a few weeks ago so this month might give more insight. I’m trying so hard not to let it all get too stressful but it’s hard when you can’t think of anything else (stupid lockdown!)

If I’ve missed anything, ask, but I’m looking forward to being able to vent a little. It’s quite lonely sometimes xxx

@HopeForRainbowbaby I've been the opposite those flashing smilies have taunted me for the last two cycles but last month got my peak on cheapies and then confirmed with BBT but I kind of want the satisfaction of finally getting that static 😂😂

I always get judged for yet another Amazon delivery, haha xx

Welcome @NightDreaming . I'm sorry to hear about your journey. Having the support and ladies to relate to in ttc journey is feeling great. Very warm welcome to you and baby dust to you 😘

@Hayleylou89 to me it sounds like you are the lucky one with no symptoms😘I'm so excited for your first ultrasound. Thank you for continuing to share your story. It gives me hope for more BFPs in this group ☺️

@VP91x I would definitely go for CB as with cheapies you can be guessing but once you get the smiley, then you know.

@SmileyT a good way to convince DH about Ava bracelet 😂 mine is not a shopper that's why I'm being judged every time there is a package delivery 😅

Thanks ladies 💕not a journey any of us would have chosen to be on but so glad that we have each found such a supportive and positive group of ladies to share it with . Lots of love and luck to each of you waiting for your bfp I really hope this is your month 🙏 and can’t wait to Share in the joy with you . To those who have already been blessed with that moment a huge congratulations and all the luck in the world for a happy healthy and successful pregnancy . This is my first time “actively trying “ so I’m looking forward to picking up some helpful tips and advice from you all along the way xx

@Renna yeah it definitely sounds like sciatica. I've had before when I was PG and just normally. I literally used to limp because it hurt so much right down one side. It is quite a distinctive pain! I had to do loads of stretching and take painkillers etc. I'm sure the chiro will be able to offer you good steps to get rid of it.

@NightDreaming I'm sorry you're in the thick of feeling shitty. Honestly, we all have our days and you don't need to worry about bringing the mood down it is what these groups are for! It is horrible to suffer a loss. I am coming up in July to what my babies due date would have been so, I would be so grateful to be pregnant again by then. I also have a little girl and she makes the hard days easier ❤️

@Hayleylou89 so excited for you to have your scan. Don't stress over not necessarily feeling PG it is still technically early days - if anything will be a total win if you don't get any sickness etc and you just sail through the 9 months. Xx

@SmileyT I hope you never have to buy the AVA as a treat! 🤞🤞🤞

Ladies - shall I buy the CB ovulation sticks again this month!? 🤔 I have my cheapies already. Xx

Hey ladies sorry to hear the stories of the newbies in here, so sad but its a great thread to be part of and i wish u all the luck ttc again

@renna ur static face is imminent.. very exciting indeed, really hoping this is ur month! X

My 1st scan is booked for Monday (1 day after what should have been my baby girls due date) ... I feel so so nervous! But glad its only a week away too but it will be the slowest week ever! Hope ur puppy is settling in well and ur enjoying ur AVA :) x

@SmileyT ur dh def needs to treat u to an ava, tell him we said so! X x

Ps: I literally feel ZERO pregnancy symtoms its actually weird and worrying me more...id rather feel something than absolutely nothing atall xx

Hello all 👋
I’ve only skim read some of the messages but you all sound lovely and supportive, so I’d like to join the group.

Have to warn you right now I feel quite low, really hope I don’t bring the mood of the group down. Should start by saying we have two children already, and I feel very lucky to have them. Would love a 3rd. After 3+ yrs of trying, one MMC early last year (was horrible, physically & emotionally) and a MC in middle of last year, I feel slightly lost and in a baby lacking limbo.

And it doesn’t help that for the first time I’m having brown discharge, to do with ovulation I’m assuming. And also for the first time my vagina has been non spot painful for 36hrs. Ouch

Anyone having a better, non-painful day?? x

@ejb86 & @girlmum - cannot imagine the pain & strength you 2 have. Definitely praying for you both! This month WILL be your month 💕💕