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Penguin huddle 🐧🐧🐧 TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 35 - time for some sticky BFP's

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SomeBunnyovertheRainbow · 19/05/2020 15:36

Welcome to the 🐧 huddle. This a safe place to give and receive support for everyone who has experienced the loss(es) of a pregnancy or baby. Pregnancy and child loss is one of the most difficult things we can experience and it can also be the most lonely time too. I hope you find this thread to be of some comfort.

I have found so much comfort from the lovely ladies on this thread and I’m hoping for lots of BFPs in coming months!

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Kiki275 · 08/09/2020 19:11

@VenusStarr 4 losses does not sound like bad luck. I sincerely hope that you're given the attention you deserve and that there are some answers to be had. If there is a genetic explanation then there will be potential workarounds x

VenusStarr · 08/09/2020 18:19

Thank you @Semele5069 ❤️

Thank you @Kiki275, my sister came round earlier to sit with me. I've got a scan booked for Friday. The Tommy's recurrent miscarriage clinic have been awful to be honest, no empathy or advice, just very dismissive. I've got a GP appointment in the morning and hoping they'll refer me to Professor Quenby at Coventry. I can't believe after 4 losses that it's just bad luck. Not that this one is confirmed yet, but I can't see me having a happy ending.
Dh is just numb, still holding onto hope 💔 I'm just exhausted xx

Semele5069 · 08/09/2020 17:13

So sorry to hear that @VenusStarr. Lots of love.xx

Kiki275 · 08/09/2020 13:25

Oh Venus, I'm so incredibly sorry to hear this. Massive hugs from me. Is OH at home to support you or are you alone?xx

VenusStarr · 08/09/2020 12:56

So I thought I'd update, I was hoping to have better news (hence the quietness and anxiety). I am pregnant but I've started bleeding quite heavily at 6+1 so think it's over. I'd booked an early private scan next week to avoid the epu, but think I might have to call them. I'm on the progesterone suppositories so shouldn't even bleed. So this is likely miscarriage number 4. I think I'm just in shock. I really thought this could have been the one. Typically an orchid flower shrivelled and dropped off yesterday and I told myself I was silly for believing it was anything, but here I am waiting to miscarry my 4th baby 💔

VenusStarr · 08/09/2020 08:43

Hi everyone, sorry I've been off the radar, thanks for asking after me. I'm not doing great at the moment - really bad anxiety. Today is the anniversary of my second loss 💔 I hope you're all OK xx

Kiki275 · 07/09/2020 21:07

Hi @Mumlili9 it must feel so strange but hopefully it means you're one step closer to some much needed answers and 🤞 a solution x

Mumlili9 · 07/09/2020 20:06

Hello ladies how are you?

@venusstarr how is ivf going?

Mumlili9 · 06/09/2020 20:43

Well today was strange im 12dpo and for the first time in 3 years I've not tested on 12dpo. There's almost a sadness about it. Though its saved me the heart ache of that BFN. It feels all wrong though 😪

BunnyLovesBananas · 04/09/2020 23:23

I'm sorry it's so hard @Mumlili9 I feel fed up right now tbh.

Hope everyone is doing well

Kiki275 · 04/09/2020 17:25

@Mumlili9 all I can offer are huge hugs 😢. I hope both investigations offer up some answers for you xx

Mumlili9 · 04/09/2020 17:04

Hello ladies just checking in. Ive got my hysteroscopy on 26th and my brain scan (mri) on 16th. So its actually worked out well that I'm not trying this month or next because of the mri. Im at end of my rope with all this now. Why can't I just get pregnant and have a baby like most other women do why have I had to say good bye to 9 babies , its just so unfair 😥

Kiki275 · 02/09/2020 07:11

AF has made another scheduled appearance, with extra cramps for the fun of it ☹️ x

Kiki275 · 31/08/2020 20:58

@Semele5069 that's lovely news. I hope all goes smoothly though I can fully understand why you're hesitant xx

Semele5069 · 31/08/2020 20:36

BFP this morning!!! Typical just when I have another blood test booked for tomorrow, thinking I'd be between days 2-5 of my cycle. Not complaining though!

Just feeling very nervous about this one after my 2 previous miscarriages. I'm already expecting to see blood every time I go to the toilet 😐

Penguin huddle 🐧🐧🐧 TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 35 - time for some sticky BFP's
Mumlili9 · 29/08/2020 18:50

Sorry I've been awol ladies I've been super busy doing my physical intervention and restraint training, which I passed. Im feeling a lot more confident about my new job

BunnyLovesBananas · 29/08/2020 10:09

Thanks for asking after me @Katie1109

Fingers crossed for you fingers🤞 A

@KerryW87 I hope today goes as well as it can and gives you some closure 💙 xx

Hopefulmummie · 29/08/2020 10:04

@Kiki275 hey thanks been checking up. Sorry I've been so bad at writing on this I've been so busy with work last 2 weeks. We done smep during the week and I think ovulation was yesterday so fingers crossed it happens. I just don't know if I have the energy to go through the trying all again. I think it's worse when you've experienced a loss as you know what could've been. I must have forgot to unsubscribe to a pregnancy email and got one this morning for an 18 week update :(

How are u and everyone else?

KerryW87 · 29/08/2020 09:59

@Kiki275 It's been great fun, so good for me mentally too to be out of the house and outdoors having fun :)

Ah I'm glad you've got things to keep you distracted! And you never know, I had no symptoms before I fell pregnant last time. Keeping everything crossed for you 🤞🤞

We're on our way now to our wee boy's service, been a long wait for it so it feels right that it's happening now. Sending love to everyone and hope everyone has a good weekend ❤️ xx

Kiki275 · 29/08/2020 09:50

@Esssa that's really good news! I'm so pleased  It's only natural to catastrophise, don't beat your self up about it x

@Mumlili9 hope you're settling into your role too x

@BunnyLovesBananas have your cycles settled down since your loss? Keeping fingers crossed for you x

@KerryW87 skateboarding sounds like fun!! Hope your cycles settle down too x

@Hopefulmummie @Sakura54 @Semele5069 @VenusStarr @AliceinBunnyland checking with you all. Hope you're all okay? Apologies if I've missed anyone.

I'm nearing the end of the TWW. Not really noticed any symptoms so not got high hopes this month. Plenty on to distract me until then. Flo says I'm due on Wednesday x

Esssa · 29/08/2020 06:33

Oh @BunnyLovesBananas that's rubbish, still chance it could change but I know you won't be getting your hopes up. I'll do a bit of hoping for you. Love the stamping bunny!

@Mumlili9 I hope you are settling into the job a bit better after your awful first day.

Had my NHS scan yesterday and everything looks good so I now feel a bit more like there might be a chance of a baby at the end of all this. Thank you to all of you who propped me up when I was catastrophising a few weeks ago. It really did help. Might feel brave enough to post on the pregnancy after loss posts now. Never believed I would stay there before so didn't feel like I should. Good luck with everything and fingers crossed you find your way to those threads too.

BunnyLovesBananas · 28/08/2020 13:55

Period is a day late. I usually get a couple of days' spotting and haven't got that yet.

Took a One Step test today and of course it's a BFN.

I have a sharp pain on my lower left side. Not sure what thats about.

BunnyLovesBananas · 26/08/2020 10:56

Dont worry @KerryW87 Yeah it's tough but I'm trying not to think about it, though the fact a year has now passed makes me feel like it's not going to happen for us!

The bunnies are great. Our 4 year old French lop has started stamping his foot when he wants something or if I'm giving the girls attention. I'm being careful to make sure he gets lots of attention but it is quite funny Grin

KerryW87 · 26/08/2020 07:54

@BunnyLovesBananas Terrible at replying without tagging, sorry! 😂

KerryW87 · 26/08/2020 07:53

I know, I really need to try and stop trying to make sense of every bleed or symptom and let time pass and hopefully things normalise...easier said than done, haha but I need to try 🙈

Oh, I'm so sorry :( This month must be a difficult one for you ❤️ You're right, though...there's always a chance and I'll keep my fingers crossed for you.

I'm glad work is a distraction, I find that too. Love hearing about the bunnies also! 💕