Penguin huddle 🐧🐧🐧 TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 35 - time for some sticky BFP's

I'm so sorry you're feeling so low @Mumlili9 ❤️ I don't think there is anything I can say to help, but I'm here to listen. Sending you a big hug xx

Welcome @Internetaddictgirl, I'm sorry for your losses and your husband's illness. I'd chat to your GP - I was lucky that I was referred to a recurrent miscarriage clinic after 2 losses. Sadly I still don't have a reason (no sticky blood etc). I have since had 2 more losses. I tried progesterone with my most recent and sadly I still bled. Aspirin has not been recommended for me yet (although I suspect it might be suggested longer term). My GP was reluctant to prescribe the progesterone despite a consultant letter and I sent them the Tommy's research, I got there in the end though. Hopefully your GP is a bit more understanding.

My update is that we've booked to see Dr Shehata down in Surrey, he runs lots off immune tests. I just don't feel I can risk ttc without doing more tests now, it feels like we're playing Russian roulette. Tommy's have told me just just keep trying and hopefully we'll get there but I don't know how many more times I can do this. This last loss nearly broke me. It's too much of a coincidence to me that my babies don't grow beyond 6 weeks and my body doesn't recognise it. Even if my tests on the baby come back with a genetic issue, the statistical likelihood that my others were chromosinally abnormal is really small and both Tommy's and the nk cells cobsuisaud they believe my babies were genetically normal 💔 So we're throwing money at it now. I was surprised my dh went with it, but this last loss has really impacted on him too. The doctor we're seeing focuses on pre-conception and puts a plan on place dependent on my test results. So by mid-November I should have an idea of what we can try.

Did anyone watch Miscarriage - our story on channel 5 this week? I had to tape it as it was too raw on Thursday. I cried all the way through but its definitely worth a watch if you can.

I hope you're all doing OK @EatPrayYoga @kim80 @Kiki275 @Marshmallow123 xx 💖

@Internetaddictgirl ahhh okay, I see what you mean. I took aspirin for my twin pregnancy but also had many bleeds. Progesterone makes sense, maybe discuss it will your GP? It might be something that they can advise on without referral x

Thanks @Marshmallow123 and @Kiki275
I’ve heard that some people take progesterone shots to help the baby stay in (I think of you go through ivf they do this). I’ve also heard that some people take low dose aspirin and / or warfarin to help stop clotting but I guess that depends on your issues.

@Internetaddictgirl I'm sorry to hear you've had a really bad few years. I've not experienced MC so have no advice. That said I don't think there is anything you can do to prevent it and please don't think that it's in any way your fault because you didn't do something xx

What a thoughtful message @venusstarr ❤ its so nice to know that there are people who fully understand how we all feel and can support one another through these times. Thank you

Hi @Internetaddictgirl. Sorry you find yourself here and that you and your husband have been so much recently. I have to say that all the ladies here have been so supportive and lovely that they've made a rubbish time a bit better, it's good to know we're not alone in this. I don't have any tips but if you learn any please let us know! Xx

Hi ladies, hope I can join the thread. I was on a penguin thread a year and a half ago after a MMC at 9 weeks, which passed naturally but had some retained tissue, so I had to have a D&C.

Then my husband was ill and going through chemo, but now all better and the chemo is out of his system.

We've been TTC since April and I've sadly just had a chemical pregnancy. So we knew we were pregnant for a couple of days but lost it at week 5. I was really hopeful this time as had sore boobs which I thought was a good sign.

Any tips on things that can help prevent miscarriage? I remember last time the doctor said they won't do anything until the third miscarriage but has anyone had any investigations before the third?

All the best and sending you all lots of love and support

Thanks ladies I couldn't bare to light my candle today, im already rock bottom and that just was to much. But i think about all nine of my babies everyday. Im sending you all love and support ❤

@Kiki275 Yes it's good to have things planned. We have been doing some work on the house too and that has helped lift my mood.

It was lovely of her. We weren't very close when she worked with me but she's been very thoughtful more than once x

@VenusStarr 💗

I was thinking of you all when I lit my candles tonight, we've all been through so much. Lots of love @EatPrayYoga @Mumlili9 @Kiki275 @kim80 @Marshmallow123 @Yellowbaby1 @Jaysdream7 💖💖💖

@EatPrayYoga I think it's a glitchy app thing. I just check Watching now and I'm pretty sure nothing has dropped off. I'm good though, thank you for asking. Really busy getting our house refurbished and cracking on with looking forward/ planning ahead. I get very depressed when there's nothing on the horizon.

That's really lovely if your colleague. It's days like today that make you appreciate those who truly care x

@Kiki275 I thought it was strange and wondered if it was just me as it hasn't happened before. How are you doing?

I have NC again BTW

I hope you are okay @Mumlili9 @VenusStarr

I was touched tonight by an old colleague texting me to say she was thinking of us and our DD tonight with a lit candle and a few people on Facebook have lit one

I didn't light one as it was 7:30 when I realised the time but I might light one when I go to bed

💙🕯💗

@EatPrayYoga I can only see it on the App under Watching. It's disappeared off I'm On x

@mumlili9 it sounds like you did. Try and keep positive.

I know how you feel I'm currently waiting to ovulate after 2 x erpc's and don't seem to be seeing any movement on the opks.

I do wonder if all the worrying makes it worse.

Sending a hug 😊

I lost this thread until I just found it on active...

I hope everyone is okay

Lots of love to all of you today xxx

Thinking of you all tonight x
#waveoflight

@Kiki275 heaven knows tbh ive just about given up. I got really good positive opks and really good ewcm and then realising then nothing its like it just stopped

Oh @Mumlili9 that must be so irritating. No advice on the temping but I'll keep fingers crossed for you. Do you think it'll happen later?x

Hello ladies can I get some advice. I feel I ovulated on Sunday. I had ovulation pain and ewfm but it turn creamy the next day (Monday) but no temp rise Monday, Tuesday or today . Do you think I ovulated at all ??? Feeling really gutted with my body right now

Keeping everything crossed for you @Mumlili9 xx

Hi ladies how are you.

I back trying again this cycle. Im trying to delay my ovulation this cycle with EPO hope it works or we will miss ovulation by a day. Stupid work patterns. I really need you all to cross your fingers for me i really need some thing good to happen for a change. In cd 8 and I ovulated on cd9 last cycle. Ive had 2 days of high fertility on my monitor so praying that it holds off for a bit. Really starting to panic now as I'm getting older by the minute and when I was 36 it seemed fine ( im still young) but 39 is now looking like im never going to be able to do this.

Thank you @Kiki275 I thought it may have put a stop to it but nope so all systems go now 🙂

@kim80 that's brilliant news!

@Yellowbaby1 definitely! I can't imagine what it's like to get bad news in this environment and I'm so worried about the possibility of it x

I finally had some good news today my tests came back that it wasnt a partial molar so have finally been given the green light to try again.

Hope you lovely ladies are all OK. Xx