Penguin huddle 🐧🐧🐧 TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 35 - time for some sticky BFP's

Hi all had a confusing day yesterday going by the opk I would have been 7dpo and had a show it was only when I wiped twice very pink blood and nothing since.

I dont want to start thinking this is implantation but cant help it but i know that it would be way to quick and havent even had a period since my 2x erpc's anyone else had this. Iv been on knicker check all day today but nothing since 🤦‍♀️ not sure if ita a early start for my af or something else.

@VenusStarr I didn't know that! Thank you. That probably means I should go later then. Will still go a CD21, have a chat with her & blood test, if I need to go a few days later then they can do the other arm 🙂 although that might put me into the weekend and it can't be done.
My thyroid has been borderline for ages, not quite consistent enough to get treatment. 🤞 it's playing ball that day x

Hi @VenusStarr I'm so glad you are feeling better and the counselling is helping. 4th November is not far way please keep us updated on how you get on.

@Mumlili9 I am sorry you are not feeling good, and can not imagine how hard it must be for you with the worry of the scan on top of the stresses of TTC. I hope the appointments all go well and please keep us informed.

@Kiki275 good luck with the tests and hopefully next month will be your month.

I'm currently 7dpo but not holding much luck. We will all get there at some point.

Oh @Mumlili9 ❤️ I'm sorry. Did the doctor call today? I'm sorry that you've got the worries about your brain scan on top of everything else. I'm glad your hysteroscopy is rescheduled and I hope that can give you some answers.

I'm glad your nurse is being proactive @Kiki275 you might already know this, so apologies, but the cd21 test needs to be done 7 days after ovulation, which might not be day 21 for you. My cycles are shorter so I went on day 19. If you're doing opks, you should be able to pinpoint it. Good you're getting your thyroid checked too - if its over 2.8 I was told I could ask to be medicated, mine was 3.06 in January, so I'm on a low dose of levothyroxine now too. You want it to ideally be under 2 for fertility x

@Mumlili9 oh bless you, I wish there was something I could do ☹️. Do you have a good support network around you? I'm pleased to hear they have treatment plans in mind and hopefully treating one thing will help with other parts.

@VenusStarr you really have been through the mill, I hope the new doctor can connect all the dots and suggest a viable plan of attack.

I spoke to a nurse at my GP following my 8DPO AF. She was sympathetic and said to come in for a blood test on cycle day 21 to check hormone levels. I’ll also get my thyroid levels checked too as been meaning to do it for ages. AF has finished now so I'll be back on with OPKs and DTD very soon xx

@VenusStarr honestly not good. Another bfn at 12dpo so im out again it'll be a year February since my ectopic and not a hint of pregnancy. My hysteroscopy is booked for 20th November and I'm waiting on a date for hsg . Ive an appointment about my brain scan apparently there's some anomalies seen that they want to discuss treatment for but will not discuss over the phone.
Im totally floored now, im not sure I can take much more. Its effecting my day to day life, somedays im sad I woke up , its really not healthy so im waiting for a doctor to call me back today.

Love and hope to you all

Hi @kim80 thank you for asking. I'm definitely better than I was, I've had 2 counselling sessions now and my new counsellor thinks I have unresolved trauma and I'm stuck with my grief. I'm still off work but making a plan to go back next week.
My appointment with the Surrey doctor is 4 November, I'm looking forward to it. I've sorted all my medical notes and sent them over to the doctor. It's made me realise how much I've been through.
I hope you're doing OK. Fingers crossed af doesn't arrive 🤞

I'm sorry you've had such a difficult time @Marshmallow123. My medical management was 3 weeks ago and I already feel like I'm about to start af, getting a lot of painful cramping. It's not unusual for me to get my period back straight away, it's bittersweet to know my body snaps back to normal. I hope you get some clarity soon.

@Mumlili9 @LoveEatYoga @Kiki275 how are you all? 💕

@venusstarr it might be worth an ask it is really fruatrating. In my head I'm back in track but we will have to see if my body agrees in 8 days time 🤔🙈😂😂😂.

Good luck and I hope it sorts out quickly for you. 😊

@venusstarr how are you? have you had your appointment in Surrey if so how did it go.

I watched the miscarriage programme and I'm glad I did I thought it was really well done. 😊

@kim80 ok thank you. I think I might try to speak to my doctor this week to see what she suggests.

It’s so frustrating isn’t it!! I’ve never wanted AF more in my life!! Good to hear you seem to be back on track x

Hi @marshmallow123 I had the same over a 4 week period had 2 x erpc I bleed for a full month and after the 2nd one I only bleed for a week I then stopped and had spotting for a few days I was told that I would need a full 20 plus days clear with no bleed before I could count it as my AF I started to do ovulation tests and they were right as a week ago I had My peak so that suggests that in two weeks I should get my AF or hopefully not as we DTD as it had been so long 🙈 that would make this 6 weeks from my 2nd erpc and nearly 10 weeks from my first.

I hope it sorts out for you its been so frustrating not knowing where you are in your cycle and when the dreaded AF will arrive. 🤔

Thanks @Kiki275

I’m not sure it’s not AF but a light one as the lining wouldn’t have had much time to build up to normal after the d&c. Also has some light cramping on Thursday.

I guess I just need to wait and see what happens...

@Marshmallow123 I had stop/start with my lochia over the course of about six weeks in total but I hadn't had any medical intervention with mine so would expect yours to last a much shorter time x

Hi ladies

How’s everyone?

So MMC with the medical management was just over a month ago...D&C as still had tissue remaining was 3 weeks ago yesterday.

After D&C I was lightly bleeding for a week and a bit, then had a week and a bit of no bleeding...now I have light bleeding again.

I am so confused. Do you think this could be AF as it’s a month since the initial medical management? Or has anyone else experienced a stop/start with bleeding that wasn’t AF?

I wish this whole situation wasn’t such a confusing mess!

@kim80 🤞🤞 x

@Kiki275 I also had my rise and it came flown last night but my peak also didn't look like the chart and only hit 0.91 as my peak. I will see how long I have between new and AF.

I feel your frustration so much as its so hard when your TTC knowing there is only a 2 day window to fall.

Well fingers crossed for a better reading for us both next month. 🤞

@kim80 I didn't find them too bad, although it wasn't quite the same steady rise as the example graph.
That said AF has arrived 5 days earlier than expected at 8 DPO. I'm beyond annoyed 😭 x

@Kiki275 they can be confusing lol. How have you found them? I got a high last night so hoping today maybe my peak going by what they say so hoping the next few days will get the time to DTD.

Its hard when you cycle's are not settled I'm hoping its not going to take to long to get a patten.

Fingers crossed yours settle and you gain the bfp you deserve 😊

@kim80 ahhh I see. This is my first month of using OPKs. My cycles haven't settled yet, so it's pretty much making things up for me. As soon as it recognised the peak though it seemed to make a decision. We'll just have to see if AF starts when it says x

@Kiki275 thanks for this I have now downloaded it but trying to set it up is not easy as I have no idea when my last period was and so I put the date of my 2nd erpc but now its running like I should be due AF in 5 days but opks are strongest they have been so far 🙈 think it may take a few months to get the app in my cycle lol.

Thanks for the reply though 😊 hope your OK

@kim80 have you downloaded the PreMom app? It should help make sense of them x

Thanks @VenusStarr I will test again today and see what it says I'm so confused as the app said it was low but looked better then any id had so maybe next few days will get stronger.

It may not fix it but it may give you some answers to questions that havent been answered. It also may give you some options to try to get you what you so deserve. I only see it as any little thing you get from this is moving forward on what you knew before. I so wish you good luck 😊

That's looking pretty good @kim80. I ovulate on the day of my positive (although last pregnancy I ovulated the next day). When I get a positive opk we dtd every day for 3 days. I'd say you're pretty close. I think the standard is you ovulate between 12-36 hours after a positive opk 🤞

I'm looking forward to seeing the doctor - I need to be careful not to think it'll all work out and he'll fix this but I feel confident that this is the right thing for us xx

Hi all,

I so hope @VenusStarr you get the answers you need from the new doctor and this helps you understand more why this has been happening.

I am still trying to work out how to work these opk's and where I am after the ordeal I went through. I have no idea what I'm really doing if I'm honest. Was wondering if anyone could help I got this reading yesterday its the strongest one yet so does that mean I am on my way to ovulate now or could it be like this normal 🙈 my partner thinks I'm sex mad at the moment as trying to keep it going as not sure where I am in my cycle maybe it will be easier next month once I've had my AF lol.

@VenusStarr I hope that your new doctor can shed some light on things for you.

This week was a tough one for me with the wave of light. It was also my best friend’s due date...I’m super happy for her but it’s so hard for me to see at the same time. Also found out another friend is expecting and is due when I would have been.

Hope you’re all keeping well and managing to stay positive.

Xxx