Penguin huddle 🐧🐧🐧 TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 35 - time for some sticky BFP's

@SomeBunnyovertheRainbow hi hun I'm OK.

I had a blazing bfn this morning at 10dpo so I'm considering my self out this cycle. Totally gutted as it's technically my first "normal length" in years. Bding was perfect for ovulation too. This pesky one tube isn't doing its job. On to cycle 4 😔. The only time I've ever had a later bfp was with my ectopic and that put me through hell so I don't want to see one later because I'll freak out. Does that sound stupid?
@Babytobe lol that was me (cheese). It's true I've been here forever, occasionally I get to leave for a few weeks and jump over to the sister thread (pregnancy one) but I always come back. Sorry you find yourself here.
Congrats and good luck @Rayray17
@marmitecheesetoast I hope your appointment date isn't to far away. I'm hoping for the best outcome under such circumstances (I hope you understand what I mean), hand hold coming your way x

Congrats and good luck @Rayray17

@SomeBunnyovertheRainbow I get spotting for 2-3 days and read that it should be counted as day 1 if it's directly before AF and a nurse also said this. If not then I've been tracking my cycles wrong all this time lol?! I think it's a normal thing though. Yes, deffo speak to your GP to get help.

AF came properly yesterday after 3 days of spotting which I've been waiting for following my MMC so right on time!

@somebunny im so sorry about the loss of your daughter. I cant bear to imagine how difficult that was and is for you and your family. Defo pop along to your Gp, especially after all you have been through and 6 mths of trying. They might do some hormone levels and vit D levels etc ( v important for cycle regulation and ovulation). Progesterone is checked CD3 and CD10 usually so at least this could be done for you now x

Thank you @somebunny. It sure seems like a lovely group, thanks all for having me! And with such similar age groups aswell which helps (smelly cheeses indeed - I had a good old chuckle at who ever said this in previous posts!!)

Ive always had spotting about starting 5 days before AF. Sorry for tmi but just for clarity sake, when I say spotting I mean when wipe only, not enough for a liner. I think thats the distinction between it and AF - if its requiring a pad change then its mother nature in all her glory! I looked into the low progesterone also and sure enough my levels were borderline low.
Also, with me I sadly developed a friable cervix/ chronic cervicitis following surgical interventions for past failed pregnancies. After a colposcopy to confirm it, it now means that I am extra likely to spot when when using the ladies so thats another added confusion. Funny thing is, thats definately related to my menstrual cycle and.only ever in luteal phase

I forgot to say im sorry for all of you ladies that are here and reading through some of your posts and losses really shows what a sh*t time we have all been through in varying circumstances of the same sad outcome.I hope we all get the precious baby we so dearly long for, gotta have hope!!

Aww @Rayray17 huuuge congratulations to you!! Of course you are worried honey, thats totally understandable and prob expected. Sending you calming and healthy vibes for a healthy sticky little jellybean rainbow baby...You totally deserve this to be your time now!! 🌈❤💕

Hi girls, is it okay with you all that I join? Im 37, no children (yet 🤞) A week ago I had an ectopic pregnancy at 7.5weeks, required surgical management & I lost a fallopian tube 😭 This was my third pregnancy in 12 months, the ectopic the same week as my mmc 12 months prior.
1st BFP April 19 MMC 10.5 weeks
2nd BFP Sept 19 MMC 7 weeks
3rd BFP April 20 Ectopic 7.6weeks

The procedure I had was a "salpingectomy" which means I still have two apparently functioning ovaries but only one tube. The surgeon also removed three "spots" of endometriosis which I did not know I had. Hoping this will help our efforts carry a baby to term. Still feeling so so sad to have lost an otherwise healthy bean that implanted in the wrong place. But we are hopeful for the future. Any of you have any positive stories for me after ectopic? If this post is in the wrong thread im sorry, im new to mumsnet and, well, forums in general! 🤦‍♀️

Hi all,

I hope you don't mind me joining this thread, you all seem like such lovely people.

My story is I've been TTC since Sept 17. I had a chemical pregnancy in March 18, then an ectopic pregnancy in May 18. We stopped for a few months as advised after that and then struggled to conceive for many months. I then conceived again in November 19 and miscarried at about 6 weeks and then caught again the next months only to find out that was ectopic and had surgery in Jan this year to remove the foetus and my right tube.

I don't have any children.

The reason I've dropped a message is because I've had a positive test on a FRER at 11 dpo today (I attached the pic) and I'm now super scared for the next few weeks with my history. It's hard as I don't want to get my hopes up but I really want this one to stick.

I'm 36 now btw.

I am just worried it may throw an additional obstacle in our course

Thanks both. I’m still waiting for her to call, might not be til tomorrow as I know she’s in clinic all day. I Imagine the appointment will be over the phone with current covid situation. I will have a think and write down any questions but I imagine most of the questions will come as a result of what the actual PM says

I don't really know what to say in case I say the wrong thing, but I hope you get some answers as soon as possible.

Thanks @peperethecat.
I just can’t believe it can be so soon. I think this must mean they’ve found something?? But who knows. I’ve had to pour myself a wine to calm down

Handhold for you, @marmitecheesetoast.

Fingers crossed @peperethecat !

I’m reeling I’ve just had a call telling me the post mortem results are back, which is waaaay sooner than we’d been prepped for. So of course now wondering what that means. Got to wait for The bereavement midwife to ring me with an appt time with her and a consultant to go through them now. Was completely out of the blue, we were told it would likely be July maybe even early August so a bit thrown now. I hope we don’t have to wait too long for the appointment.

Yes actually lockdown has been officially over since 11th May, although we still need a special authorisation to travel more than 100km (which I wouldn't be doing anyway) and we have to wear masks on public transport and in a lot of shops etc.

Bars and restaurants are still closed but the weather is nice now and people just seem to be recreating them outside. I went for a walk last night and saw lots of groups of people playing pétanque, some people gathered around a park bench having some drinks, huge crowds of people having picnics round the lake, teenagers making out in cars and a group of people who had gathered outside a bar (the doors were open, I think it must have been the owners and their friends) drinking beers and eating takeaway pizza.

Frankly they might as well just reopen the bars and restaurants!

I think the virus is here to stay for a while so we might as well go almost back to normal and just try to keep ICU admissions to a manageable level. But I might feel differently if I was high risk or knew someone who was. The current transmission rate and daily death rate is pretty low in France at the moment but I guess there's always a lag of a couple of weeks, so I guess in the next fortnight we'll see whether the easing of the restrictions has caused a second wave or not.

I wonder whether people are making the most of their relative freedom at the moment because they're worried we'll be back on proper lockdown in a couple of weeks.

Oh no, that's not good. What are the restrictions like there, can you go out for a walk or anything?

Only work, but it's all gone quiet over the last couple of weeks. It's really annoying because my company made us take five days off to ease the wage bill in April (our holiday days get paid from a separate fund that was all paid up last year), and I was so busy in April I was having to take calls on my days off and work crazy hours on the other days, and if I'd chosen to take those days off and hadn't been going away I probably would have cancelled them due to workload, but because of the company policy I had to take them. And now pretty much since the end of April everything has gone quiet and I'm twiddling my thumbs!

It is really hard, have you got something that can keep you occupied today.
You are definitely right, it's actually just a waste of money in these early days to test more than once a day - my logical brain goes on holiday during the latter part of the tww 😂