Starting TTC again after missed miscarriage

@JoJo58995 sounds similar to me only longer. My bleeding
Asked from 17th feb to 17th April. I had retained product that was found by an internal scantHt was the beginning of March I didn't get my BFN till beginning of April. It. At be worth checking to see if you have an infection ? I had a swab done but it came back clear but in the past I have had bleeding in between periods that turned out to be an Infection.
I also have a cervical erosion which may have contributed to my bleeding. I've also started spotting a week before AF and after DTD something that didn't happen prior to MMC x

Hi ladies, I had an MVA 3 days ago so early days but will be TTC again ASAP, not really sure how long to wait! Fingers crossed for everyone.

Hi @JoJo58995 I'm sorry to hear about your loss and the prolonged uncertainty. I don't have any advice unfortunately but didn't want to read and run. Hopefully someone else might have some useful advice and the bleeding all settles down soon!

Hello, marking my place too.
Still waiting for first period after mc on 22nd April
Good luck all x

Hey, I'm so sorry to read what you've all been going through :( I really hope it's ok that I've joined this thread, I'm just desperate for someone to talk to about all this. I had a missed miscarriage at 11w end of Feb, after my morning sickness disappeared we found out our baby had died at 9w after having had a normal scan at 8w. I had medical treatment which resulted in an incomplete miscarriage (scan showed retained products) but the EPU said it should pass it just might take some time. I basically just continued spotting and passing bits for nearly 6 weeks after treatment when I finally got a negative pregnancy test. The EPU didn't want to scan me again as I had a negative test they said it should be complete. About the same as getting my negative test I suddenly started bleeding more heavily which was approximately 32 days after miscarriage treatment and appeared to be my first period so I hoped it was things getting back to normal. It got lighter and heavier over the following 10 days but then I continued spotting for another week or so after. After it finished I had no bleeding for a week and then started bleeding again which was roughly 35 days after the last onset of heavier bleeding but I really don't have a clue what would even count as day 1 with all of this being so intermittent. The bleeding was on and off, and after a few days of nothing it was suddenly heavier for a week which again I thought might be more my actual period, but now I have carried on spotting again with intermittently slightly heavier. It is 2 + 1/2 weeks since this round of bleeding started again and is showing no signs of fully stopping. I'm getting quite a few cramps and slightly different pains, nothing 'serious' but I am now nearly 3 months post miscarriage, definitely still bfn and have only had about 10 days in total where I haven't been spotting or bleeding to some degree and I am finding it really difficult as I desperately just want this to be over. I got pregnant straight away after coming off the pill, first pregnancy and we were hoping we would be able to try again, but this is just making it impossible to see how that could happen. I have read about people having to go back on the pill for a month to regulate things and I suggested that to my GP last month but he said it should settle and not to do that if we want to ttc, but I just don't know how long it might take to settle down and it's really hard to find people who have had similar issues post miscarriage as lots of people seem to cycle relatively normally afterwards :( any help or advice would be so gratefully appreciated.

Hi can I join ?
Had a MMC in February I was 9.5 weeks baby measured the right size so had just happened. I chose medical management but had retained product so had to have another lot of meds, so didn't get my first cycle till April so it's been going on a long time. I'm now CD5 of my 2nd cycle and hoping to try SMEP this month it's sad that this is so common in the past I'd thought BFP meant baby but I know when/if I get a BFP again I'll be so nervous x

@SmilingDonkey Try not to worry too much. I was told to take a test 3 weeks after MVA too and it was still positive, was told to take another one a week later and not to use a sensitive brand such as clear blue or FFER and it. I was told that as long as the line was fading then that was a good sign x

@Smilingdonkey I feel ok actually, I'm just really ready to be pregnant again. I feel really empty, if that makes sense. What about you? Are you hoping to get pregnant again straight away?

@nizo1245 hey! Glad things are getting back to normal for you. I keep reading/hearing that we are more fertile after a miscarriage so hopefully it happens quicker for you this time 🤞🏼

Hi all, sorry to hear about what everyone has gone through.

I had a mmc at 12 weeks on April 13th.
I think AF has just started today but it seems very light and has started to turn brown already. We had been TTC since I stopped bleeding but I had a feeling that we wouldn't catch again right away. I was actually quite glad to see AF starting, hoping my cycle gets back to normal soon.

Never used opk's last time and it took about 8 months to get my bfp, so hoping it doesn't take so long this time.

That's odd @Smilingdonkey - is there any chance you could be pregnant again? I was told 2 to 3 weeks for a negative, depending how progressed the pregnancy was. It's hard though isn't it as we are all told different things by different people, and then you throw Dr Google into the mix and it's just 🤷🏻‍♀️🤯. There is no consistency in the medical advice!

@Smilingdonkey After my MVA they told me to test 3 weeks after I stopped bleeding which I did, but told me not to worry too much of it's still +ve as it can take up to 6 weeks in some cases (if the pregnancy progressed longer) to get a -ve.

Hi, can I please join? I'm sorry there are so many of us here but at the same time it's nice to 'meet' people in the same boat.

I had an MVA on 1st May and tested earlier this week and got a negative test. I'm hoping to ovulate any day now really - I used to ovulate around CD18.

Fingers crossed for us all

AF just arrived, earlier than expected but atleast I know where I'm at and no more questioning every twinge I feel! (Untill next month anyway!)

@Princessandthepea1 it's actually early days for most of us here. I only found out about my MMC 3 weeks ago. We've been through such a horrible thing. Know that its ok to get over it quickly and also ok to still cry months after.

We have a thread that was made less than a month ago, which some of us may be leaving soon. Maybe it will help you to read through some of our bitter, angry rants experiences and feelings? Feel free to express yourself there:

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/miscarriage/3887013-Missed-Miscarriage

@33Carr I’m very jealous that you’re on cycle two already - my MMC was also March (albeit the very end) but the hospital kept me waiting and doing all sorts of treatments for so long that I only recently had the MVA. It was COVID-19 that made it longer than usual as all the processes had changed. Glad you’re doing well and lovely news about your best friend - hopefully you won’t be too far behind!

@Princessandthepea1 I’m so sorry for your loss, I know how painful it is but all I can say is that time is a healer - as hard as that might seem at first. Take care of yourself in any way you feel you need to - whether that’s talking or not talking, keeping busy or burying yourself under your duvet for a few days. We’re here to chat if you need any support xx

Hi ladies,

I am so sorry I hear about you all experiencing this heartbreak. I hope you don’t mind me joining your discussion - this is my first post on here, but I am currently in the early days after a late missed miscarriage (13 weeks). I had my 12 week scan last week and was prepared for the worst by the obstetrician, who advised my baby had abnormalities/cystic hygroma. Sadly the baby’s heartbeat stopped within the few days between scans and I had surgical management for miscarriage on Wednesday. I know it’s early days, but I stumbled across this thread and wanted to follow your stories and hopefully gain some optimism about trying again soon x

@Britannah Also a big believer in fate and the good old saying of 'everything happens for a reason'. But hard to swallow all that to start with! Just had a million questions!

@Smilingdonkey it's scary what our bodies can do sometimes! The good as well as the bad!