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Starting TTC again after missed miscarriage

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Smilingdonkey · 15/05/2020 20:02

Hi,
Just ovulated for the first time after my missed miscarriage at 13 weeks (baby had stopped growing at 6-7) and wondered if anyone wanted to keep me company while we go through the ups and downs of ttc all over again! ! Xx

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Smilingdonkey · 20/05/2020 20:26

Excuse the typos I'm on an old phone and it's impossible to type and so so slow!

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Smilingdonkey · 20/05/2020 20:24

@workingmama1 how are you feeling? Are they antibiotics kicking in yet? The tests all look the same to be fair. I suspect they will start tailing off soon.

@SkyBlue20 thank you. I do need to be nicer to myself and not let this make me feel less in control. It's so hard isn't it?!

I also feel quite periody - All sorts of cramps and things. I guess out bodies are also just swimming with hormones at the moment too. Fingers crossed for a BFN... Seems so weird to say that! Only two more days. I will try not to test until Friday SmileXxxxx

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SkyBlue20 · 20/05/2020 19:11

@Smilingdonkey Be gentle on yourself - they’re not fuck ups and you weren’t to know, we get so little advice after everything we’ve been through, it would almost laughable if it weren’t so serious and frustrating. I can only imagine how frustrating it must be, I hope you get answers soon 💕

I’m wondering if maybe my period is coming soon - this may sound ridiculous but the week before my period I usually have a lot of self loathing, thinking I’m fat and flabby and basically being really mean to myself and I’ve realised I’ve been doing that the last few days. It may be nothing (especially as I’ve not really been craving junk food which I usually would, though I have been eating a lot through lockdown anyway!) but equally it may mean my period is on its way. I’ve never wanted it so much! My willpower is being severely tested to not do the pregnancy test, too. Though as much as I want to do it, I’m also scared to, which is why I think I’ve been able to wait. Friday is the day, fingers crossed for a negative! 🤞🏼

Workingmama1 · 20/05/2020 18:39

@smilingdonkey so glad they didn't find and retain products. How are your tests looking, are they getting any stronger? Would you dare a CB weeks one so you can see if it goes up?

Hi @rutennotou sorry you find yourself here but welcome!

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Smilingdonkey · 20/05/2020 18:37

@SkyBlue20 @33Carr i'm so relieved all is ok! Was dreading being told bad news.

But just looked it up and it says that hospitals use normal sensitivity tests for 25 whatever it is of Hcg and my tests are First Response which can detect as low as 6.5. So basically they were lying! Just used these initially as I had one left and then wanted to use the same brand for comparison... Had no idea it would be so different! I've made so many fuck ups! Should have just used the cheap crappy ones! Why don't they just give us some proper guidance??!!

So either these positives are the tail end or the very very beginning of a pregnacy - you can't see a pregnancy on an ultrasound until Hcg reaches 25/30.

Guess I will test in a couple if days and see if they get lighter or darker! I suspect lighter but either way the waiting should be over soon.

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SkyBlue20 · 20/05/2020 13:36

@Smilingdonkey Glad there’s no retained product to worry about ☺️ When do you think you’ll next test? Their tests must definitely have been a different sensitivity to yours! Hope you’re feeling a little more at ease now having had some answers 💕

33Carr · 20/05/2020 13:27

@Smilingdonkey At least you're don't have to worry about the retained products anymore, I'm sure that's a great relief. Very strange about the negative tests though. Yours must be more sensitive regardless of what they say, it's so bad that they made you feel like you were lying 😖 Hope the scan has brought you some peace of mind

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Smilingdonkey · 20/05/2020 13:02

Right so had the scan. Bit weird. Firstly there is no retained product which was main worry so thats fantastic to know. But they then did a test and it was negative - even though I had had another postive one this morning! They acted like I was lying and said that their tests were the most sensitive you can get. Clearly not! I have had 4 positives at home now. He said he couldn't see another pregnancy but it's not always possible this early and I have fibroids which were causing problems in scans (or have done for me before) I am assuming just still positive from miscarriage but It's weird how their's said negative. Don't think I'll relax until I get that negative at home now!

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33Carr · 20/05/2020 07:06

Hi @Rutennotou Sorry to hear about your loss!

Good luck today @Smilingdonkey with your scan xx

Rutennotou · 19/05/2020 20:45

Hi ladies, hope you don't mind me joining in. I had a MMC in February, next period arrived right on schedule and have been regular since. Have been TTC since then too. I've tried OPKs and have started BBT. I've gotten peaks but just not sure I've ovulated. BBT I've only started but not done a full month yet. Had a drop in temp around CD14 and it went back up again and pretty much the same temp since that. First month since MMC I've had good watery and ewcm though so I'll see what happens. Have 26/27 day cycle.

Hettie1981 · 19/05/2020 20:39

Yes I had vaginal swabs. The letter I had said I had aerobe infection. The lady I spoke to thought that those were from swabs rather then blood or urine. When I spoke to the GP she said she thought it could have been a significant factor. But nobody has actually said BV.
I will never know for sure I guess and this would be wierd but I kind of hope that it was that x

Workingmama1 · 19/05/2020 20:33

@hettie1981 yes the doctor said the tablet form is very specific and BV is pretty much all they use it for. Did you have swabs taken where they could diagnose it from? Hormone changes such as pregnancy can cause it, and it also has a small chance of increasing miscarriage risk i think.

@Smilingdonkey I hope your scan goes well tomorrow

Hettie1981 · 19/05/2020 20:18

@workingmama1
I had been prescribed antibiotics (metronidazole) after my MMC, but nobody told me why. It was about a week after my MM. When I tried to Google about what it would be used for after MMC, BV was all I could come up with. Like you I'm hoping that was the problem and now I ve been treated it may not be an issue next time. I read that pregnancy itself can cause BV so will test myself if/when I am pregnant if its safe too.

Hope it goes well xx

Workingmama1 · 19/05/2020 19:36

I remembered that I had the option to speak to a GP through work so did that, and she thinks given I had a clear scan and miscarried naturally the most likely reason is bacterial vaginosis. She said sometimes it can clear up on its own but sometimes needs treatment somis sending me a prescription for antibiotics. Hopefully if that is what it is it will clear it. Although as I'm still breastfeeding she has given me a pessary version rather than tablets so that's probably dtd out the window for the course!

SkyBlue20 · 19/05/2020 16:19

@Smilingdonkey What time is your appointment tomorrow? Not long now and you'll hopefully have an answer, I can understand how it must be sending you crazy.

@Workingmama1 Did you speak to the EPU?

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Smilingdonkey · 19/05/2020 15:07

@workingmama1 how are things?

I did another test and it's the same darkness. Driving myself silly trying north think about it.

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33Carr · 19/05/2020 02:05

@Workingmama1 I spose it's always safter to get things checked out! That's what medics are there for anyway!

Workingmama1 · 18/05/2020 22:32

Noticed it yesterday Confused will see how it is tomorrow and might give the EPU a ring just in case. It's stressing me out!

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Smilingdonkey · 18/05/2020 21:13

@Workingmama1 Oh no! How long has it been like that? Hopefully it's nothing and will clear itself up. Sorry you now have this worry too...

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Workingmama1 · 18/05/2020 20:57

@smilingdonkey so glad you've got a scan on Wednesday, hopefully it will let you know where you stand, it must be so frustrating.

For those debating dtd I'd wait, I'm now 3 weeks since natural miscarriage and bleeding stopped at the end of last week. We dtd Saturday and last night and now have some odd smellong discharge so worrying about infection. Although the intimacy was lovely the worry I've now got isn't worth it!

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Smilingdonkey · 18/05/2020 20:23

Thanks ladies. I'm pretty sure it won't turn out to be anything sinister or exciting but I'm glad they are scanning me as it will allow me to know with confidence all is ok Smile

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Britannah · 18/05/2020 20:03

@littletandme I didn’t DTD until about 4 weeks post MVA because I was desperate for a clear BFN and wanted to ensure all bleeding had stopped. This was in Jan following the op in Dec, but we decided to wait and this month is our first TTC cycle. AF due tomorrow.... Hope you fall pregnant soon but you must do what’s right for you!!

Britannah · 18/05/2020 20:00

@Smilingdonkey so pleased you have a scan booked for Wednesday. I pray that either way you get all the answers you are looking for and I have everything crossed!

@ellenpartridge So sorry for your loss, such a horrible situation to be in and I understand your desire to fall pregnant again soon - sending you baby dust as I am to all these ladies Flowers

33Carr · 18/05/2020 18:54

@Smilingdonkey Aaah I'm so pleased you have a scan on Wednesday! I'll keep everything crossed that it's good news, but ultimately either way at least you'll know and won't be in limbo!

SkyBlue20 · 18/05/2020 18:46

@smilingdonkey You must feel in a sort of limbo, I’m glad you were able to get a scan in for relatively soon and hopefully it’ll be good news 🤞🏼The fact the line is getting darker is a positive sign as I imagine it’d stay the same with retained product but can fully understand why you wouldn’t want to think that way yet. Hope Wednesday rolls around quickly for you xx