Starting TTC again after missed miscarriage

@Smilingdonkey my app changed its mind about when I ovulated after the event so I only had sex I think three days before ovulation maybe - but it was all so up and down I am sceptical that either one was right to be honest so fingers crossed for you and you never know 🤞

@smilingdonkey when we conceived the one weve just lost we literally did it on CD 8 and 9 and that's it's so you never know. I Didn't what day I ovulated though

@Ranoutofgoodnames I am so happy for you, please do stay and keep us updated! I hope there will be other positive stories soon :-)

I have been doing my OPKs and no sign yet of ovulation this cycle, my app keeps telling me "Ovulation day! High chance of pregnancy!" but it's just basing that on last month's wacky cycle. I read about the SMEP and think we will do that this month, see what happens. Part of me thinks maybe I'd get on better if I stopped thinking about it, stopped testing and reading and joining in these conversations but it's hard to find much distraction at the moment. So I'll allow myself one obsessive month and then try to cut back!

@Starfish762 that's good news about partners at scans. I don't think our hospital is doing that yet. I think I'd want an early scan, though I think baby stopped growing at 10 weeks, so I suppose it wouldn't have picked up if I'd had one before that. I don't really know.

@Ranoutofgoodnames yes please do stay here! It’s lovely to have some good news, and gives the rest of us hope :)

I definitely think I’d have an early scan if I fall again as 12 weeks is ages to wait even if you haven’t gone through what we all have, but totally understand the anxiety & worry having to go for that. My local hospital is now allowing partners at scans, so that’s 1 positive change for us. Hopefully be the same for your viability scan.

Hello ladies, lots to catch up with!

@Ranoutofgoodnames great news, would love you to stay on here and keep us updated!

@sabtom welcome, and sorry for your loss.

@SkyBlue20 I'm the same, constantly symptom spotting in the back of my head even though it's ridiculous!

Af just finished, so I'm feeling like I want to ttc, even though we'd agreed to wait until next month. I've only got 3 pounds left to lose to reach my goal pre-ttc weight, and I'm feeling very impatient. But if we did get pregnant and everything was ok, baby would be due on my son's birthday, and we wanted to avoid that, partly because it was on his birthday this year that we found out about the MMC, and I feel like that month has enough going on in it.

@ranoutofgoodnames yes please do stay.

@skyblue20 I've got really bad period pains so hopefully shes on her way. Hope So then we can crack on with TTC

Oh @ranoutofgoodnames I'm so thrilled for you, must be a bit of a relief (albeit I understand you're probably still anxious about it all!) Take care of yourself and that little bean, hope it's a sticky, stubborn one for you. How many weeks are you at the moment?

Absolutely stay here and hang out with us - it's so nice to hear from you and hopefully some of us will be joining you soon, too 🤞🏼

Morning ladies!

Thank you all for your positive vibes! Got the results back - all ok hormone levels are rising slowly but consistently so all good! I am to keep taking the progesterone (think this is just a precaution) avoid sex and physical exercise 😳😳

Will have an early viability scan in a few weeks (week seven I think)

I am not sure if it is good to do all this extra stuff or if I should just crack on and wait for 12 week scan - both routes seem quite stressful

Will it upset anyone if I hang out here for a bit? There is another lovely thread for pregnancy after miscarriage but I went through some tough times with some of you and also I am not ready yet to be all “ooh I am pregnant”

Morning all!

@ew1990 If you've had a negative then I'd assume it's AF arriving? How're you doing today?

@ranoutofgoodnames Is it today you get your blood test results back? Good luck!

How's everyone else doing? It's been literally four days since my period ended and this morning I, for a split second, thought 'oooh my nipple just felt sensitive' (sore and hard nipples were my first symptom for my last pregnancy) and had to catch myself and tell myself off. ! I know logically it's impossible - I've probably not even ovulated yet, but off goes my mind, running away with itself 🤦🏻‍♀️ Definitely going to nip that in the bud!

@Ranoutofgoodnames Hopefully it's all positive news and you can arrange your booking appt. After what we’ve been through, it’s understandable to feel sad, stressed, scared etc. I stay casual when TTC and pregnant, but even I’m wondering if I’ll be able to be so chilled next time. I might detach myself emotionally even more. Being realistic really helped me protect myself. At the same time, though, I didn’t really believe I would MC seeing as my SIL and brother just had one a few months before me.

@SkyBlue20 Yeah SMEP doesn’t really seem like a method; it just sounds like DTD a heck of a lot lol. We only did it twice on my FW the last time we conceived! I was surprised it happened quickly, but clearly it was too good to be true.

@AlisonLew15 Yes that would still be classed as regular as it’s only a few days difference, but I think people get confused and think it has to be the exact same number of days. Mine seems to be different every single month too but still regular, although it’s been 2 years since I’ve tracked apart from the recent couple of months before I got pregnant.

I’m on CD23 so still patiently waiting for 2nd AF to show...hopefully on time next week. I might then start taking folic acid. That heavy feeling down below I had last week disappeared so who knows if it was ovulation or just a weird, dodgy tummy lol.

@mrsAndeke @PurplePansy05 @Ranoutofgoodnames thanks for the advice. I'll have a read of the SMEP.
I did an first OPK yesterday and got a low, this morning got a flashing smiley on CD6, seems I ovulate early too. Wonder how many days before I get my peak this time. I had flashing for 2 days and then a static last month. My cycles are up and down, apparently a difference of a few days is still classed as regular. 30/25/26 days

Thank you @Smilingdonkey, and yes, good idea! I plan to take a pregnancy test on Wednesday, that'll be a week after my MVA, and I'll keep testing every couple of days to see if the line gets fainter. Once the bleeding completely stops I'll start the ovulation tests and hopefully by then the hcg will be out of my system.

Getting strong lines at 15DPO sounds really positive @ranoutofgoodnames. What is the progesterone meant to help?

My Olvia app said I am entering my fertile window! Though as I wasn't tracking before I'm not sure how accurate it is. Husbamd got antibiotics for an infection from hospital yesterday, he's still feeling pretty rough but improving, though not sure when he will be ready to DTD.

@Poppy10121 I was military about it as decided to follow sperm meets egg to have the best chance, but ultimately it was all screwed up and I don’t actually have a real idea when I ovulated - so I reckon every other day is the safest bet when cycles aren’t settled down

Doing this with a doctor privately - can’t afford to have a private birth all the way through but the next stage for me will likely be ivf of some description as I am 40 and the reason for the miscarriage was a chromosome problem and my eggs are not getting any younger so I am willing to throw a bit of money at it to do all I can now xx

@Ranoutofgoodnames I never thought of taking such a detailed approach to OPKs! But it makes sense - maybe I have missed the surge before as I have only done the cheaper kinds mostly (also had some CB ones and I never ever got a smiley on them, even the month that I got pregnant! But was only testing once a day.) Were you prescribed the progesterone pessaries on the NHS or did you go through private treatment? Good luck and I really hope you get your results swiftly!

Oooh, I just saw ew's message, I see. No space for bots on here either 😂

@SkyBlue20 I'd like to know too, what kind of a troll comes on a miscarriage board to have a message deleted. You got to be nasty to do that, but primarily stupid, as no one on here will take any shit, from anyone.

@skyblue had a negative test last week. I work next door to EPU but I'm off this week so I might pop over next week

And it was a poster asking to decide between the 2 with 2 links to board games 😩

Anyone else dying to know what that deleted message said? 😂

@Ranoutofgoodnames I have my fingers crossed for you, hope the results come through nice and early!

@ew1990 Maybe ring the EPU and speak to them to see what they think? They may want to scan you in case of retained products or may be able to say it’s probably AF. Have you had a negative test?