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Starting TTC again after missed miscarriage

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Smilingdonkey · 15/05/2020 20:02

Hi,
Just ovulated for the first time after my missed miscarriage at 13 weeks (baby had stopped growing at 6-7) and wondered if anyone wanted to keep me company while we go through the ups and downs of ttc all over again! ! Xx

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PurplePansy05 · 17/06/2020 13:34

@RosieJess91 Did you test this morning? If you're pregnant and it is progressing then going by your dates, pregnancy tests should be showing clear lines by now. Digital CB should also pick it up now.

Unfortunately there are very limited services offered by GPs and most EPUs right now, very frustrating.

PurplePansy05 · 17/06/2020 13:29

@Ranoutofgoodnames I did in my last pregnancy up until 12 weeks, sadly the MC happened anyway. I didn't feel any different on progesterone, just had the pregnancy symptoms. It might affect you emotionally, early pregnancy is a hormonal and emotional roller-coaster. Nothing to worry about.

ew1990 · 17/06/2020 13:27

@rosiejess hope you get some answers soon. It all sounds very stressful

RosieJess91 · 17/06/2020 13:10

Phoned my GP, they're not allowed to do blood tests at the moment, and EPU have said they aren't allowed to offer early scans at the moment either. Said I can go private, but to just treat it like I am pregnant, and hope for the best. If I did have a CP I should have AF on 1st July. So will just have to wait and see.
Not definite on dates, but I know my last proper AF was on 3rd May, first one since the MMC, then on 31st May, when I was 1 day late, I took 3 pregnancy tests, all positive. Then on the 4th June, I bled from 10am through until 11am the next day, then it all stopped. So I could have ovulated later in May, and the 4th June could have been a IB, but I think it's unlikely?
I'm not sure if it's baby brain or I've just driven myself insane, but I went to take the washing out of the oven earlier and put the knives away in the fridge?

ew1990 · 17/06/2020 12:41

@skyblue20 no not yet. Few more cramps yesterday but that's all.

If I go off my usual cycle its not due till the 24th but I know miscarriages can send them AWOL the first few cycles

SkyBlue20 · 17/06/2020 12:37

Afternoon all! How's everyone doing today?

@ew1990 Has AF showed her face?

@RosieJess91 Have you called the doc? Hope you get answers soon!

I got really annoyed last night (internally) as we went to bed really late for no real reason and didn't DTD and tonight we have plans that mean we'll be in bed late again but we must fit it in - we haven't DTD since Sunday night and I'd ideally be every other day, every three days at most. Must get in to the habit of going to bed early (we are definite night owls)!

Smilingdonkey · 17/06/2020 11:53

@ranoutofgoodnames sorry I know nothing about it Sad

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Smilingdonkey · 17/06/2020 11:39

@Threnody - I hope so! That's good if it's yesterday!

@poppies ... I have the increased sex drive too - how mad and clever is reproduction?!

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Smilingdonkey · 17/06/2020 11:32

If anyone wants good cheap pregnancy tests I was using easy@home from amazon and they were picking up very low HCG levels (of 4 apparently?!) With a faint line that wasn't quite as clear as the FRER but certainly obvious enough. Also they are nice and wide and easy to see!

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Ranoutofgoodnames · 17/06/2020 11:17

Has anyone ever taken progesterone supplements?? I am all over the place emotionally and don’t have a clue what’s going on

Poppy10121 · 17/06/2020 10:51

@RosieJess91 it does sound positive if you have all the symptoms! Are you definitely sure on your dates? I'm not sure how accurate home tests are so if you can get a blood test done that might be better to put your mind at rest?

@Ranoutofgoodnames I'm feeling the stick shame too after this month's OPKs, I bought the plastic kind and I hate how much landfill I'm creating, think if I have to do this for more months I'll just buy the cheap paper ones.

@Smilingdonkey that sounds really positive! I don't often notice ovulation pain at all but I do usually notice increase in sex drive and boobs feel fuller?! Fingers crossed for you!

Still no ovulation here yet, I'm on CD9 now and last time ovulated on CD8 so I'm hopeful this just means my cycle is going back to something longer/more normal. But before my pregnancy I never caught a positive ovulation test, so I think maybe my hormone levels are low or my spike is very short!

Threnody · 17/06/2020 09:00

Morning ladies!

@Smilingdonkey hurray for ovulation. I think you'll have ovulated yesterday sometime. 2 days before and day of is great timing! Got everything crossed for you!

And I daren't think about how many sticks I have peed on, between 4 pregnancies, opks and hpts - must be hundreds!

Smilingdonkey · 17/06/2020 08:42

So my temp shot up so I guess I have ovulated! That's a relief at least. If it went up this morning when is is likely I ovulated? 24 hours ago? Do you find ovulation pain is before or during ovulation? Anyone else get bloated at this time of the month? We managed sex last night but missed it the day before (but had it the day before that) so I guess we have a chance!

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Smilingdonkey · 16/06/2020 23:48

@rosiejess91 this sounds so similar to what I have just been through. Continued getting positives until a few days after my period ... Bloods were 4 but it was still showing on tests. Awful and so traumatic. Kept having all sorts of pregnancy symptoms but I think it was my body settling down. Go and insist on tests so you can get your mind straight and know what is going on Smile Don't get me started on how many tests I have taken ... Took to throwing them away in secret as I was so ashamed of my obsession! xxxxx

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RosieJess91 · 16/06/2020 22:30

@Ranoutofgoodnames don't get me started. In the last 2 month's I must have peed on about 30 or 40... it's really not good!!

Ranoutofgoodnames · 16/06/2020 22:21

I mean let’s never count up the amount of sticks we have all peed on. The shame 😂😂😂

Ranoutofgoodnames · 16/06/2020 22:20

@sabtom I can confirm that I peed on an opk the same day as I peed on a hcg test to see if this was right and both turned positive. Opk wasn’t Peak ovulation positive but there and quite dark

RosieJess91 · 16/06/2020 21:05

(I meant hips, not hope...)

RosieJess91 · 16/06/2020 21:05

Had a busy few days.
Still getting confusing test results. Negative digital. Positive One Steps. Very faint though, all at different times of the day.
If I'm right, I'd be 6 weeks by now, surely they'd be darker and digital would be positive. If that was a CP I wouldn't be getting any positives.
Going to phone the GP tomorrow, see if they can do a blood test or something before I go completely insane. Not sure I can wait another 2 weeks to check if AF appears...
My neighbour said she continued having AF for 4 months, but pregnancy continued normally. And has a 47 year old daughter to prove it.
Feel pregnant, bloated, nausea, boobs are HUGE! Hope and pelvis are aching like hell.
Someone just give me an answer, please!! 😭😭

Smilingdonkey · 16/06/2020 20:37

@workingmama1 I think you are spot on. You guys have had a real rollercoaster these last few months xxxx

I am seeing this month as a sort of trial run. It would be great to get pregnant but i'm still trying to work out how my cycle has recovered. To be honest a baby in the 2nd half of next year would be better ... But I'll take what I'm given if I'm lucky enough! Xxxxx

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Workingmama1 · 16/06/2020 19:32

@ranoutofgoodnames great news on your blood tests, I'd love it if you stayed around!

I'm on CD 12 today but husband still not feelong great and we think his infection was caused by a UTI so dont think we should be having sex until it clears. No idea when I'll ovulate, had some egg whote discjarge yesterday (though tinged with blood?) and increased sex drive too so think it might be soon. Not using OPKs. Think we might miss our chance this month. To be honest though this month I'd just be happy with my husband getting better as its been pretty stressful since his op!

sabtom · 16/06/2020 17:57

Ahh. I guess there's no point wasting the opk sticks this month then Confused

Threnody · 16/06/2020 17:33

@sabtom @ew1990 is right, lh and hcg are really similar, and opks will pick up hcg.

ew1990 · 16/06/2020 16:19

@Sabtom I'm pretty sure opks can pick up hcg. I'm sure I've seen threads where people have used OPKs as a pregnancy test

sabtom · 16/06/2020 16:08

So today I'm on CD7 if you count my MVA procedure as CD1, first day where (touch wood) I've had no cramps and only one small spot of blood. So I did a hcg test and ovulation test just to check and this was the result. Is that normal to have a high opk and positive hcg test at the same time? Still haven't DTD yet.

Starting TTC again after missed miscarriage