Starting TTC again after missed miscarriage

@skyblue20 I'm in hospital due to severe pain in my abdomen... They think I could be having an ectopic pregnancy, but waiting on test results. So we shall see. Will update once I know for sure. 😣

@sakura oh thats good to know.

I had McDonalds last week it was so good. KfC ruined it for me when they changed their fries 😩

@Ranoutofgoodnames I got bad cramps for 2 weeks both times I got pregnant. You’re right though, all the pains, symptoms, bleeding can mean anything. It’s crazy, confusing and unfair! I did think about positions before, but whatever one you’re in, sperm is going to get where it needs to go so no need to lie down IMO!

@SkyBlue20 That one time I noticed EWCM, it just seemed really wet and noticeable when wiping. Not certain if it was but I got pregnant so lol. No idea if I’ve ovulated at all since the MMC. If anything, DTD at least twice a week should cover the days I think. Every other day is a bit much lol and I’m still relying on good old sperm living for up to 5 days!

@ew1990 Mine came after a month. It can take anything from 3 weeks to 10, so it’s not too early for you.

Had KFC for the first time in months. Happy days!

Thrush has settled down a lot. You ladies who periods have started again how long did it take after miscarriage started?

I'm only 3 weeks and 1 day after mine and really feel like AF is on her way but didn't know if its too early. Im not sure if ive ovualted although I did have EWCM and ovulation pains on day 8+9 after bleeding started.

Ive got a really dull aching pain in stomach and back 😣 I have to hunch over when I stand up

Afternoon all, happy Friday!

@Ranoutofgoodnames No, I don't think I've ever noticed EWCM either, though admittedly, I didn't really look as only took an interest in my cycle when TTC and then got PG first cycle. I don't even know what I would be looking for - is it just discharge or do you have to actively check?! No idea 🤷🏻‍♀️
Glad all seems to be ticking along ok with you - sure the pains are just expansion going on down there but understand it must be worrying. Sending positive thoughts your way.

@Workingmama1 Glad your husband is feeling a bit better - hope you managed to catch that ovulation!

@itssquidstella Fingers crossed for you - my nipples were my pregnancy give away, too and there's really no missing it, is there?! Sounds like a positive sign for you 🤞🏼

@ew1990 @RosieJess91 How're you both doing?

@Threnody So sorry times have been tough - it's so normal to feel conflicted when others have positive pregnancy news and it's to be expected. Take care of yourself and don't beat yourself up for feeling how you feel. You can be happy for someone and sad for yourself at the same time, it is doable and it's ok. Sorry to hear about your other friend's MMC, it's awful how many people go through it.

@Sakura54 I think I'll be here until the bitter end like the last thread, too - I find it so helpful to have you guys to talk to.

According to Ovia, I started my fertile week yesterday - I'm absolutely not trusting it as God knows what my cycles are up to at the mo, but it's nice to see it regardless! Will definitely be sticking with the every other day method. Anyone else sick of all of this though and just want to get to the part where we find out if we are or aren't pregnant this month?! I mean obviously there are fun parts (😏) but there's also a lot of hope and worry and planning, it's all encompassing and I am SO impatient. The thought of this month after month after month is just 😫 Been really busy at work though, which is helping somewhat - keeps my mind off it a bit at least!

Everyone got nice weekend plans (as much as we can during the semi-lockdown we're currently in)? xx

You know I am not convinced I have ever noticed ewcm. Pretty sure it must happen but never in an obvious way that some people seem to have it. Not sure if this is because I am older or just have some for a very short space of time.

Morning ladies

@ew1990 really hope it is gone today! Hate that - get it really easily.

I managed to give myself a uti before my last pregnancy because I got paranoid about standing up to go to the loo after sex and losing all the sperm 😳😂

I am still here apparently pregnant, mostly without symptoms, no sticks to pee on as I am trying to break my obsession and wondering if the slight sharp pain I have on and off near my (cervix?? No idea just low “down there”) is good cramps or bad cramps.

It is so massively unfair that most of the symptoms could be any of period pregnancy or miscarriage. I try to describe things to my husband and he asks if it is good or bad and all I can do is shrug!

Good luck to ovulators!!

@threnody ive got cream so hope it works soon.

And I know what you mean. I went back to work after a week and had a breakdown so had another week off but talking about it at work most of the ladies I work with have had a MMC too. Really helped me talking to them. Hope you feel better soon

Oh no @ew1990, hate thrush. Hope you feel better soon.

Fx for you @itssquidstella

I have bought clearblue opk to try out this month, going to start it tomorrow. I am completely addicted to poas, and I really like to know as much as I can, so I track everything I can, and have 3 apps on my phone!

I've had a difficult couple of days, first a friend posted scan pics of her daughter, due less than a month after I would have been, so I felt sad, then guilty for feeling sad and not just happy for her (which I was as well) then one of the ladies on my baby group from my youngest has just had an MMC, and it's just brought it all back. It's something I hadn't really heard of, but it seems much more common than you think.

So maybe the clear blue ones might stop an obsession, is that because you can only use them once a day?

I've still had EWCM so maybe haven't ovulated yet? Might try my luck with my husband tonight, he seems to be feeling much better

Shame about the timing, we are off work next week so ovulating then would have been ideal! Pre MMC my only cycle between giving birth and getting pregnant was 31 days so I'd be surprised if I ovulated now at CD13 (I didnt get my first period until my daufhter was 13 months, had a second and I was on CD35 for the third before I twigged I could be pregnant instead of a long cycle!).

I'm CD 22 post MVA and I think I've ovulated at some point in the last week 😂 I didn't get cramps like I usually do or really obvious ewcm, but have had some fertile cm for about a week and my nipples are sore, which I'm assuming is from a post-ovulation progesterone surge.

I'm trying not to get my hopes up as the only two times I've ever had sore nipples post-ovulation were the cycles I fell pregnant, but those times I was certain that I'd ovulated whereas this time I'm just assuming...

Hello ladies 👋
So sorry to hear you had similar experiences re health care during a M/C to me.. think there was an article on the itv news yesterday ( think at 6pm) about it.. one of the ladies I follow on insta posted about it.. it is really shocking because it doesn't matter how many days or weeks you are it's still a loss.. 🥺 sending big hugs 💕💕💕

CD9 post MVA, still dark red/brownish spotting for me too, thought it had stopped yesterday but at least the cramps stopped a couple of days ago

Hows everyone else doing today?

Still random bits of brown spotting for me. And to top it off I've think I've got thrush From wearing pads. 😩😩 I don't normally use them coz they don't agree with me

@Ranoutofgoodnames I am fully obsessed too, I got the non-digital kind but with an app that helps to identify the darkness of the line - although the day I got the surge last cycle was obvious to see because it was a really dark line compared to control - the app shows the difference between a faint line and a very faint line, and a medium faint line... if that makes sense!

Like you, I don't know if I'd be any less obsessive without the OPKs or if I would be doing something instead like obsessively watching for EWCM or ovulation twinges! At first it felt good to be doing something, but I'm getting dispirited by no surge this month yet.

@Workingmama1 I am easily obsessed but I found the digital opks made it a bit easier as there isn’t so much second guessing involved if that makes sense - no flashing face no chance flashing face get busy. Straight after a miscarriage I think
You can’t rely on it so much. But for me they stopped quite a lot of obsessive thinking - Horses for courses....I think the non-digital ones can be a bit harder as you have to identify the surge - I use them only once I have had a flashing smiley

I mean obviously I am obsessed though - just realised the above detailed explanation as to why I used them to avoid obsessing demonstrates exactly how obsessed I am 😂😂😂

@Workingmama1 You'll likely have 24 hours after to still be in for a chance this cycle. I'm glad your other half is getting better, hopefully the infection will clear soon. 🤞

I'm getting more EWCM today so think I'm ovulating but husband still has UTI symptoms! Even though he's feeling alright in himself and his temperature is gone don't think it's a good idea to dtd. Also had some twinges on my left side. How long after ovulation do we have to dtd?

Yay @mrsAndeke for getting a static smiley! Im debating OPKs for next cycle but think they might make me a bit obsessive.

@RosieJess91 can't believe they won't do bloods for you. I really hope its a new viable pregnancy but they should be doing them just to check retained tissue etc. Shocking the way miscarriages and aftercare are handled.

@Ranoutofgoodnames I would deffo like to know how your pregnancy goes and will be rooting for you! Its lovely to see some positivity after what we’ve been through. I’m planning to stay on this thread until everyone disappears; the same as what happened on our old thread lol.

I don’t notice anything during ovulation; I literally just rely on my app to tell me my FW. The month I got pregnant was the only time I’ve ever noticed EWCM though lol. I probably should take notice of my body more! I think, for me, the increased sex drive thing is because we aren’t able to DTD for over a week due to AF and the FW, on average, just happens to be after AF finishes!

Update - did another clear blue digital after my cheapie opk being very dark and got a static face! This is after a flashing face this morning. So me and the husband have decided to just DTD everyday over the next couple of days for our best chances!!!!

The amount of stick we pee on or dip into is ridiculous but probably won't stop until I see another positive test then add another 5 on top of that 😂

How are we ladies!

This cycle I'm ovulating atm checking with clear blue in the morning and having flashing smileys and checking with cheapies one the afternoon and the cheapie this afternoon was really dark! With the flashing smilies do you DTD everyday? Just trying to up my chances as much as possible!

@RosieJess91 Sorry, posted too soon! Did you think about having a blood test done privately? I had one as my early miscarriage was not long before lockdown started and services were already reduced then. My HCG at the time was really low single figures and they told me it was a failing pregnancy, which I expected. I MCd the same evening, in fact. I think a blood test would be the only definitive thing that would put your mind at ease now. It's a crazy limbo, I was climbing the walls and the GP was so unhelpful, refused blood tests, refused EPU referral. I was on CD45 then. She was a locum doctor and frankly, a right bitch.

I hope you get to know soon, will be thinking of you