Starting TTC again after missed miscarriage

I had a vvvfl on an frer this morning. I'm anywhere between 8 and 11dpo so I'll test again tomorrow and cross my fingers it's getting darker. Nippled are still killing me!

@Smilingdonkey ah, a woman after my own heart! I always start testing at 8dpo and carry on until that bfp . Though that's never been long for me, as I've had them at 9, 10 and 12 dpo!

Thanks guys. I do have tests @mrsAndeke but I’ve only ever tested when AF was completely missed as that’s what I read we were supposed to do lol. I wasn’t aware of all this POAS before, during and after! Last time I was 98% certain I was pregnant as I had bad cramps, which I had the first time too, but I still waited. Maybe I’m just always in denial or something but I didn’t really know any better. I’m also wary because I wasn’t told to test after my MMC so never checked my HCG as I wasn’t rushing to TTC, although its been nearly 2 months so you’d assume it would have all gone...

As you guys know I’ve just been waiting and hoping 2nd AF comes on time so I’m a bit confused/surprised. I will update you when I'm brave enough to test, but will wait to see if AF shows first.

@Poppy10121 I agree that it’d be good to get pregnant without really trying, I’m just wary of all the stuff in my body from the eczema cream and nose spray. I only use small amounts so it’s probably fine. I’m going to stop it and switch to a safer one now which I was planning to do after 2nd AF. Also started back on folic acid yesterday.

Just been painting my garden fence and shed. Should have done it years ago really. To add to the exercise and size convo, I don’t exercise (unless you count pushing the buggy for an hours walk) so its a bit of a workout for me lol and can’t reach the tops as I’m 5 ft 3!

@Ranoutofgoodnames sounds like the tests are good signs, fx the blood doesn't mean anything.

@Smilingdonkey ooh, exciting, when will you test?

@Ranoutofgoodnames What progesterone pessaries are you using?

I never knew there are any that come with an applicator. I used Cyclogest and used to just stick it up my vagina using my fingers.

Maybe the applicator irritated your cervix hence the blood? It might happen. You could check if you can use your pessaries without the applicator or use them rectally rather than vaginally. Some women prefer that.

Hello! Have had a bit of a stressful time - am on these progesterone supplements and they are pessaries that you insert with an applicator. Put one in yesterday afternoon and applicator had dark brown blood on it afterwards - tiny amount. Have just been for a blood test and will probably get the results in a couple of hours - not sure if she can tell from just one blood test though assume you need at least two to compare levels 🤷‍♀️

In the meantime I have done two further pregnancy tests. One a clear blue digital showing 2-3 weeks which is up from last week and one is a frer where the test line is darker than the control line. I have no idea what this tells me either but at least I did something I suppose

Hideously busy at work so at least that will distract me this afternoon...

Good luck to the ladies who are ovulating!!!!

@Workingmama1 it depends, last month I got a peak in the afternoon, and back down the next morning, so if I was only testing once a day I'd have missed it I think. It going back down isn't related to whether or not you've ovulated, just that the lh surge is over.

@Sakura54 maybe the start of something!

Good news om ovulation @Poppy10121

Those of you using opks how long does it take to go back down once you have ovulated? Took one yesterday and today and it's not at peak but not sure if its going towards it or already happened. Annoyingly had more EWCM today so no idea what is going on!

That's great @Poppy10121 fx for you!

@Sakura54 ooh, sounds interesting- fx for you too!

I had such a strange dream last night, started off I had to get a summer job at Safeway (!), then somehow oh and I were in some sort of uni dorm, and I'd just taken an opk, but dipped it too low, bit it came up positive, and I was panicked we'd missed our chance as we couldn't dtd in a dorm, then realised we couldn't stay there anyway as we had to come home for the children! First time I've dreamt about ttc! Obviously too obsessed at the moment.

Seems like maybe I wasn’t totally mad with spotting my ovulation signs - finally got positive OPK today! Seems to mean my cycles are getting a bit longer again but that’s no bad thing :-)
Feeling positive today as by chance have DTD the last 3 days in a row so hopefully we are in with a good chance this go...

@Sakura54 That’s sounding promising! Fingers crossed for you! Completely understand wanting to wait a few days before testing - I was the same last time, I didn’t test until 15DPO as was too nervous to and didn’t want to be unsure by my result. Wishing you all the luck when you do test!

@Sakura54 those symptoms sound exciting!! I hope that you’ve managed to get pregnant before even trying that hard - sounds a much better position to be in!

I’m trying not to read too much into the ovulation tracking, I do drink a lot of water and have only been testing once a day, which is the same as I did last time I got pregnant and I never got a positive then either. Driving myself mad with trying to spot ovulation symptoms though

@Sakura54 I would have to test it's been only 2days since my peak and I'm ooo that's a twinge, ms crazy over here honestly!! Do you have any cheapies hanging about?

@Ranoutofgoodnames It’s understandable that you’re worried, but it’s likely that your MC was a one-off. You’re lucky in that you got to find out the cause. I’m rooting for you.

The problem is, symptoms or not, it doesn’t really tell you anything. I, for one, would be so relieved if I had no symptoms as I suffered both times. Last time when I was feeling like crap, I thought how great it was that I wouldn’t have to go through pregnancy symptoms ever again after this, but little did I know. If my body hadn’t been completely tricked and had MC normally, it would have saved me a lot of pointless suffering!

@Poppy10121 It sounds disheartening tracking ovulation and getting nothing. I believe you will get your BFP soon, we all will. Just have to give our bodies a few months to sort itself out first. It’s rubbish that MMCs mess up our bodies like this. For me, the concern is not whether I will get pregnant; it’s whether it will stick this time. We all deserve our rainbows, hopefully next year or the year after!?

@ew1990 MCDs is next now that it’s open lol. I usually eat fast food/takeaway once a week but since lockdown I’ve had it about 3 times in 3 months. Feels like I’m always cooking and chopping these days, so good thing it’s fun.

Guyssss, something interesting happened. I’m on CD 28 so AF is due any day now, but just now I felt like I was going to faint, I’m dizzy and my stomach hurt when I moved/sneezed. These were some of my pregnancy symptoms last time. I wasn’t ready this month due to using a new eczema cream, not to mention I’ve been using a nose spray for hay fever sometimes and haven’t been taking folic acid! I didn’t think I would ovulate so soon after the MMC and was only half TTC. I’m too scared to test and don’t want to see a confusing result. Might give it a few days. Oh boy!

@Poppy10121 I should lose a stone too. Work in progress!

Tbh, the only thing that works for me is keeping busy with other things. I try to organise my days quite well and concentrate on being healthy and calm. I've concluded that TTC thoughts make me anxious and as such, I avoid them and re-route my thoughts to something else. Of course it doesn't always work and TTC thoughts are always somewhere there (which clearly shows when I dip in and out of this thread!). I think whatever we do, it's important not to beat ourselves up too much, that's probably the worst thing to do now.

How are you doing? Xx

Ah @Threnody I’m about a foot taller than you! My BMI is still the high end of OK though, could do with losing about half a stone. I found the quickest way was to cut out carbs and booze but they’re my only pleasures in this weird lockdown world right now! Once I’m back at work I’ll find salad eating much easier I’m sure!

@purplepansy05 I’m really sure you’re right and focusing on TTC is unhelpful but how can you stop it!?

@mrsAndeke I have no patience, so always start testing from 8dpo. I had my earliest bfp at 9dpo, with my daughter, one of my sons I got one at 10dpo, and my other son, and the baby I lost at 12 dpo. I am completely addicted to poas though!

@Workingmama1 I quite like couch to 5k so far. I started out just walking everyday to try and get some exercise - usually I do none! It's tiring, and I'm definitely not fit at all, but I'm quite pleased with managing to do the first week, so I'd recommend it.

@Poppy10121 I'm really not slim! I'm pretty short (4'9), and my healthy range is from 6st7 to 8st4, my current bmi is 28. I really want to get my bmi well away from 30 - the midwife had told me I'd need to have daily fragmin injections from 20 weeks as my bmi was over 30, and I don't want to have to do that. The day I found out about my miscarriage I had a call from one of the midwives to arrange an appointment for the injections, and had to tell her what had happened.

@Threnody I try to live a fairly healthy lifestyle, although it's been difficult as I spent 7 months pregnant (and not doing much exercise then, only walks) out of the last 16 and the rest of it was recovering from MCs and TTC. I definitely put on some extra weight. I find a good exercise routine really helps with mental health post loss and with TTC. For me, it takes my mind off the pain of losing my babies and allows me to look forward and build my own strength. Also it takes my mind off tracking, temping and obsessing over getting pregnant again. It's far healthier to look at the Fitbit stats and get yourself in good shape than to focus on conceiving. From previous experience, TTC focus never worked for me and everyone I know said the same (annoying) thing, it works when you stop thinking about it. It's definitely true for me.

I think it's great you have a goal. I'm sure you look great now anyway, but having something positive to aim for will really help you now. xx

@workingmama1 having been down a Google hole of “ovulation pain” a while back, it definitely is a thing! I wonder if we’re all more sensitive to every little thing since the MMC? I definitely didn’t notice all these ‘symptoms’ before that are driving me bananas now trying to figure out!
I really recommend couch to 5k, I was very “couch” at the start - the combination of lockdown and pregnancy tiredness meant I barely moved for weeks. Started running after the MMC as something to focus on that would benefit my health. I can now (just!) run for 25min and I find it really good for my mental health. I can almost feel the endorphins afterwards, definitely shakes me out of some of the darker moods.

@poppy10121 @Threnody how have you found couch 2 5k? I've downloaded it but not managed to actually start it yet!

My weird pain is less today which is good. I ordered some OPKs as I thought it could be linked to ovulation so I could try to track it.

Feeling really hormonal today like PMT, just had a massive rant at my husband which I rarely do! Only CD17 so dont think it is PMT