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Pregnancy after MMC

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Bells993 · 04/05/2020 10:55

Hi Everyone,
Unfortunately I had a MMC on our second pregnancy last month. (I have a 1 year old)
I should of been 9 weeks at my Scan but baby was only 8 weeks 4 so it had just happened. 3 days later I had a private D&C as I didn’t want to risk the hospital/ the trauma of dealing with it at home with my little boy.
I had bleeding on and off for 2 weeks after (6th of April was the D&C) I had regular bloody tests, my last one my HCG had come down to 70 so 3 days later I got my first negative test.
I had an internal to confirm no retained pregnancy and was given the all clear to try again straight away. I’ve had cystitis this weekend to add to my problems and now I’m getting this on my tests. Had anyone experienced anything similar, what are your thoughts? Feel like my body’s just giving up on me haha! I’d love to be pregnant again but I’d just be surprised if it could all happen within such a small time scale
Thanks everyone

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msanne · 01/07/2020 08:13

@MrsBlue1986 - Congratulations!

I am currently 25DPO and also got my first signs of a BFP from 9DPO!
Keep positive and hopefully everything will be fine.

I have been eating healthy food (mostly fruit and veg) and taking my supplements still. I also just listen to my body, in that if I get cramps, I take it easy for the rest of the day.

Sending you lots of sticky baby dust! xoxo

MrsBlue1986 · 30/06/2020 17:15

Hello all again! (I was last on here in April/May)

I am 12DPO, and had a BFP (big fat positive) every day since 10DPO. I am so nervous, as I had a chemical pregnancy in April (at 4.5 weeks), so really hoping it doesn't happen again.

Anyone else in the same boat!?! Xx

msanne · 30/06/2020 11:03

@Leaf87 - I think we should all definitely stick together :)

@Frankincense88 - what you're going through is so relatable. Sunday is not too far away!!

I can't wait to hear all of your updates!

xoxo

Frankincense88 · 29/06/2020 19:30

@Leaf87 definitely agree! July is just days away and before you know it you'll be back on your TTC journey!

I'm driving myself insane symptom spotting and checking flo to see how many days until AF even though I know 😂 why am I like this 🙃🙃🙃

Leaf87 · 29/06/2020 18:17

@Frankincense88 @Bells993 very exciting I will keep my fingers crossed!!!
Had my first day back in practice today it was very strange but working from home now till Friday. This next month should fly by! I am so excited that I wont be to far behind you all so hopefully we can all stick together!

Frankincense88 · 29/06/2020 13:02

Hi ladies,

7DPO today, I'll probs start testing maybe Sunday as that's when AF is due. Last time I tested at 10DPO and got nothing, then again at 13DPO and got my positive so I think I'll try and hold on for as long as I can!

Hope you're all doing ok xoxo

msanne · 29/06/2020 11:48

@Bells993 - that is getting there! I got my first very faint line at 9DPO, but waited until 11DPO for the first properly visible line. I guess each of us is different though as it all depends when we implanted!

Good luck on the testing - can't wait to hear! I hope it is more happy news! xoxo

Bells993 · 29/06/2020 11:36

@msanne I’m only 8DPO so I’m not sure if I’m setting myself up for misery haha!

Exactly try and enjoy it! Don’t drive yourself mad with tests as what will he will he and there’s nothing you can do to change it! @Frankincense88 when are you going to start testing? I’ve moved the tests out the bathroom so they aren’t easily accessible in the mornings Hahaha!

xxx

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msanne · 29/06/2020 10:46

Hi Ladies,

Sorry for the delay - I actually got myself out of the house this weekend so I haven't been logging on as much!

@Leaf87 - That is bloody amazing news! I am so happy for you! The great news is that you can start properly planning :) Rooting for it to happen for you asap! xoxo

@Frankincense88 - are you about 7DPO now? You are getting close to testing time!! nerve-wracking time - but, you've got this! How have you been feeling? Keep us posted xx

@Bells993 -It is cool that you are @Frankinscence88 are so close to testing! Are you still resisting the urge to POAS?! You are more patient than me! I have been testing just to make sure my lines are getting darker lol! I'm absolutely petrified that my HCG is not rising fast enough (this was the first indicator in my last pregnancy that something wasn't right). The plan is to check on another CB digital on Wednesday (a week on from my original BFP) and hopefully see my weeks increase on the monitor.

@MrsTtobe - hurrah for symptoms eh?! I think it is a good sign :) Means things are doing what they need to do. I am cherishing every part of this pregnancy, as I know it will be my last, and it is bittersweet because of what happened before. It makes me very grateful to feel every symptom at the moment (even though it meant I was going to pee every 30 mins last night)! My symptoms are also starting to kick in, but I feel well overall :)

I can't shake the feeling of twins this time round - no idea why. But it is stuck in my head - i suppose we will find out in a few weeks!

I hope we can all stick together on this journey ahead of us! Sending lots of love to you all, have a great week! xoxo

MrsTtobe · 28/06/2020 14:41

I'm ok thank you @Bells993 I'm not sure if it's going quickly or really slowly. 😂 6+3 today and every single night I thank god I've got through another day. My anxiety is on and off. I have one good positive day and then a bad day where I picture everything going wrong that can go wrong and I'm running to the toilet every 5 minutes convinced i can feel bleeding. 😔 It's exhausting. 😂
Been feeling really tired and bang on 6 weeks started feeling really nauseous. We had chicken nachos last night and had to give all my chicken to oh. Just looking at it was turning stomach. 🙈

Have you got a date in mind to test? Xx

Frankincense88 · 28/06/2020 08:58

@Bells993 we're actually only 1 day apart! I'm 6DPO today! Fingers crossed! I went to home bargains at 8am yesterday (first time in a shop since Feb!) and bought some clearblue tests as they're £4.99 for 2 tests compared to £7 on Amazon. Going to wait until I'm late to use them though. I must have spent near to £200 last time because I was checking every day until my MMC. So expensive but the irrational part of your brain just takes over! Xx

Bells993 · 28/06/2020 08:26

@Frankincense88 I know that’s the hard thing isn’t it! A it’s a waste of money & B it’s torture! With my first I didn’t track my ovulation but after my missed period I didn’t get a positive for 16 days! I think I tested every day haha!

I’m 7 days today! Only two days ahead of you xxxx

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Frankincense88 · 28/06/2020 08:17

@Bells993 I'm going to try and hold out for another week before I test 😬 last time I tested at 10DPO and had nothing, then tested again at 13DPO and got a positive so if I start early now I'll just torture myself! It's so hard though 😩 how many DPO are you now? Xxx

Bells993 · 27/06/2020 18:36

@Leaf87 This is such good news! What a relief for you! Hopefully this month goes really quick for you now we are allowed to do more! Few date nights with guilt free wine are defo deserved

Having a good weekend thanks girls! Keep changing my mind if I want to test like a mad man come 10 DPO or if I want to be sensible and make me a few weeks and just enjoy not worrying about it. As nice as it is to find out early I keep thinking the longer I wait the closer to that 3 months I’ll get!
But that’s all wishful thinking if I even get a positive this month!

How is your wait going @MrsTtobe Xxx

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MrsTtobe · 27/06/2020 17:44

Hello lovely ladies, had a crazy few days so only just managed to get on and see what's been happening.
@msanne I'm so so so so happy for you. It's such a surreal feeling isn't it. It still doesn't feel real after everything we've been through. How are you feeling?

@Leaf87 omg that's the best news. I bet you are so relieved. Thank goodness for that. And July is just around the corner lovely.

@Bells993 @Frankincense88 hope you're both ok and having a good weekend. Fingers crossed for you both. This is a lucky group ❤🙏 xxx

Frankincense88 · 27/06/2020 16:09

@leaf87 Yaaaaaayyyyyy!!! So pleased for you! Fingers crossed you'll get the all clear and can move forward with TTC!!

I'm ok, just feeling v.impatient and only 5DPO. Trying not to symptom spot. I felt really negative last month but much more positive this month just trying not to get my hopes up too much though 😩 such a frustrating time!

@msanne @MrsTtobe @bells993 hope you're all enjoying your weekends! Xxx

Leaf87 · 27/06/2020 16:03

@Bells993 @Frankincense88 @msanne @MrsTtobe test result back.... all normal levels 🥳🥳🥳🥳 I have another test on the 20th July if that's normal I am discharged and back in the game!!!
AF due around 16th July if we keep on schedule so fingers crossed we may even catch in July you never know!!! I am very happy.
I hope your all doing ok and enjoying the weekend ❤

Frankincense88 · 24/06/2020 14:57

@msanne wooooo!!! Positive vibes to all!! Hopefully not long until the rest of us join your BFP club 😬😬 xxx

msanne · 24/06/2020 13:44

Thank you @Bells993 and @Leaf87. I caved and took a CB digital - I saw the words. Pinching myself and am so elated and happy. I hope this baby sticks in a good way. I've had absolutely no symptoms today other than lots of hunger so long may that continue!

@Leaf87 - sending low-level vibes to you - let us know when you get the results!

xoxo

Leaf87 · 24/06/2020 13:23

@msanne yep 100% positive!!! Amazing news!!!
I am ok thank you bloods hopefully back tomorrow!! I need you all to send positive vibes that my levels are low 😂
Hope you all enjoying the sun today it's so hot!!!

Bells993 · 24/06/2020 11:32

@msanne oh my goodness!!! That is definitely a positive test! CONGRATULATIONS!!! ekkkkk so happy for you!

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msanne · 24/06/2020 08:42

Thank you @Bells993, @MrsTTobe, @Frankincense88- you ladies are amazing!

@Leaf87 - how are you hun? sending you lots of love and hopefully some answers on the way too xx

I've attached a progression of my HPT's; the top 3 tests are from my post yesterday and the bottom two (one IC and one FRER) are from FMU (11dpo) today. Both results came up within 1 minute and have a slight twinge of pink to them. They're not as dark as I would like them to be, but they are progressing - so am hopeful that the pregnancy is moving forward in the right way.

I showed my hubby this morning - and whilst he is happy, I don't think he will accept anything is happening until we get the almost-clear at 12 weeks ( I think only post 20 weeks will be when I relax)! I understand his point of view as the heartbreak is too much otherwise.

@MrsTtobe - time has flown by hasn't it?! you are halfway through your first trimester! Crazy, in a good way! Keep on going and make sure you keep us updated on all the doctor's visits etc xx

@Bells993 - those are long cycles! At least you have a date to work towards. This month, I honestly feel like the CB OPK did their job - I would have missed my Peak days otherwise (as I ovulated a lot later than my apps thought I did). I did obsess by watching wayyyyy too many TWW YouTube videos but I learnt lots of new things from each one. I found that by logging all my symptoms on the apps also stopped me obsessing as I was able to compare them against what I had logged the previous month.

@Frankinsence88 - I don't think I will believe anything is set in stone until I see the words "pregnant" on a CB test - I am waiting until tomorrow morning (12 dpo) to do this. Keep us posted on your TWW xoxo

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Bells993 · 23/06/2020 18:09

@msanne ekkkk fingers crossed! This is SO exciting, please share your pictures every morning now so we can be part of it thank you! 😂😂

@MrsTtobe 6 weeks... wow that’s flown by!! Are you still going to wait till 12 weeks for your scan?

@Leaf87 let us know once you have your results! Fingers crossed xxx

@Frankincense88 I was thinking about testing on Monday the 13th, nearly 3 weeks away. If I don’t come on before then of course, I know it’s longer than the TWW but my Cycle in December and January were 45/50 days both months for some weird reason so I don’t want to see a negative test again. I’ll probably cave before then but that’s my plan haha! Trying to wait as long as possible and hope for a positive xxx

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Frankincense88 · 23/06/2020 17:10

@MrsTtobe it's been intense and knackering (especially as Y10 aren't doing the prep work / follow up work required or handing stuff in to mark) but only 3 more weeks and it'll be the summer holidays 😂

@leaf87 hoping you get some positive news with blood results soon! Keep us posted 💕

@msanne so excited for you! I'm very much thinking that when it happens for me again I'm just going to try to enjoy it and like you say, what will be, will be. Easier said than done though haha xxx

MrsTtobe · 23/06/2020 17:06

Omg @msanne I can definitely see a line. How exciting. Got absolutely everything crossed that it just keeps getting darker and darker for you lovely. Please keep us all up to date.

@Frankincense88 hey, the long tww for you then. It's never fun is it but will soon come round and fingers crossed for you. 🙏 Hows work been?

@Leaf87 let us know Fri how your blood results have gone hun. Fingers crossed for good news for you. 😘

@Bells993 🤣🤣🤣 bless you, it's hard work isnt it all this ttc business. That's exactly how I felt, i said to oh if we haven't conceived after all that dtd I will be raging. 🙈🤣

I'm doing ok thanks girls. 😊😘 Thank you all for asking. I called the Drs today so midwife will be in touch. It's actually going by quite quickly. Im 6 week's pg on Thursday! Still got my toilet anxiety but im coming round to what will be will be. 😊😘

Love and luck to you all xxx