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June Bus - who's on board?

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MrsLBear · 04/05/2020 09:20

Hi ladies 💕

13dpo today and af is imminent as temp dropped to cover line plus a bfn. So who's joining me?
TTC #1
This will be cycle 13 since mmc (Feb 19) but been TTC since June 2018 so a horribly momentous month for me.

Bought some vitamins recommended by it starts with the egg for this month and also male conception tablets for DH. So we shall see 🤞🏼

Lots of luck and baby dust to everyone 🍀🌈💕

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KRK05 · 05/05/2020 16:11

@Ltay2 Men just dont realise everything women have to do full stop, they have it easy compared to women 😂 would love to swap places for a few month! My OH is so laid back it's pretty annoying. I always considered myself fairly laid back but when Its something in dedicated too I go from 0-100 on the crazy scale 🙈

Ltay2 · 05/05/2020 15:49

@KRK05 Yeah I am feeling very knowledgeable and organised too 😂 we are going to just aim for every other day during FW and whenever we feel outside of that. OH is just taking the tact of "we will just try harder next time have more sex and what will be will be" he doesn't realise the extent at which I 'try' with the millions of OPKs and temp checks that go on outside of the DTD time 😂

KRK05 · 05/05/2020 15:15

@Ltay2 Me too, like organised about it too plus thinking giving SMEP a go, OH isnt gonna know what's hit him this cycle with all this tracking etc I'm doing hes not used to me being like that 😂 I guess TTC makes us crazy ladies 🤷🏼‍♀️ it's good were moving on to this bus together over from May.

Ltay2 · 05/05/2020 15:03

@KRK05 I'm excited for the next cycle too 🤞🏼 feeling prepared!

KRK05 · 05/05/2020 14:57

Feeling positive for this cycle 🤞🏻 I have ordered CB advanced digital ovulation tracker, cheap OPKs to to do throughout the day & keep chart of plus BBT thermometer. Makes me feel better & have more of an idea of my body as this cycle I didnt track anything so felt so out of control as was only a guessing game 🙈

primrosechill · 05/05/2020 12:48

Sorry, it strangely cut my last sentence there, what I meant to say is:

"...has made me also feel quite proud to be a woman and definitely more connected to the female community, understanding all that women go through and all of the anticipation, disappointment and heartbreak that are sadly part of the pregnancy process!!

primrosechill · 05/05/2020 12:45

Hello to all the new joiners!

@Missgoldilocks If it ever does get to the point where you start thinking about home insemination, I'm always happy to chat about it openly. I know I was a bit weirded out at first at the prospect of cups and syringes, but given my vaginismus it helped massively - and actually ended up being a source of lots of laughs and giggles for my husband and me. Not to mention it did work for us, in the 3rd cycle. (before my MC)

@MrsLBear MMC sounds awful when you don't expect it at all and find out during the scan - I'm so sorry you had to go through this. I'm glad you're excited about TTC now, though. For me, because it's still so fresh, I'm actually worried that if/when I get a BFP, I will be a ball anxiety the first trimester - expecting the worst. Really hope that's not the case and that I'll surprise myself. I have to say the whole MC experience, as horrible as it is, has made me also feel quite proud to be a woman and definitely more connected to the female community, what er go through and all of the anticipation, disappointment and heartbreak that are sadly part of the pregnancy process!!

Ltay2 · 05/05/2020 11:54

Hi Lovelies 👋🏼

Joining the June bus as AF is imminent.

Looking forward to getting started again and hopefully we all get February babies! 🤞🏼

Missgoldilocks · 05/05/2020 11:03

@MrsLBear ahh I see! I wish I could just not say anything it would be so much easier but my partner has issues finishing if you get what I mean so it's like I have to be like right this week you have to finish 😳😩 and it takes forever it can be really uncomfortable. I'm thinking about throwing in some self insemination but just hoping it happens before we get to that. Sorry to hear you've had a hard time with it too, I mean you never think you'll be so stressed trying to get pregnant til you try! Well I didn't anyway

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MrsLBear · 05/05/2020 08:22

Hi new ladies 👋🏼

Haha @KRK05 no such thing as a practice run. Our female brains don't allow that unfortunately 😂😂 best of luck to you!

My cycles can be a bit out of whack so could be testing anywhere from 1st June until 8th. I will know more once I've had my positive OPK. So hard to plan 😒

@Lauren1288 that blank space is awful isn't it. Sorry about your bfn hopefully this is your month 🙌🏻🙌🏻

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MrsLBear · 05/05/2020 08:19

@nina468 also baby number 1 and cycle 13 since mmc but probably cycle 18 or so in total.

That sounds good @Spinningthewheel I struggle a bit with cheapie opks so has the clear blue one. Haha prodding and poking sounds about right. Sounds like you're doing your best!

@primrosechill that's amazing you've been able to find ways to adapt and also to remove the whole regimented trying trying thing as it's hard enough some days having to abide by dates and times never mind throwing something else in the mix. It so easily feels like a chore so it sounds to me like you've cracked it. That sounds pretty much like us - we weren't preventing after the mmc but also wasn't timing anything. I think we only really timed again until June of July and I had it in Feb. But like I said we weren't preventing. I was maybe more tracking cm or something which in my case is utterly useless haha. It's so emotional and I think it's taken me a long time to be ok with it if I can even call it that. There's things I won't ever forget about it like the scan etc but it will make it so much more precious when it happens again.

@Missgoldilocks yeah we went through the strain initially but then I've been determined to not let that happen so try and act as natural as possible when I'm ovulating haha. He probably susses me out but he doesn't say anything. It can be such a mood killer. No we aren't either. When we were younger and first got together yes but now, I mean life gets in the way! This'll be our first and we have been trying since June 2018. Have to admit though we haven't been solid hardcore trying every cycle though cos sometimes it gets over whelming and I throw my toys out the pram.

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KRK05 · 04/05/2020 23:21

Il be joining u ladies. My AF is due Thursday this week, I've tested & BFN & I just know shes on her way 😖

We're TTC baby#2 we have a 5 year old DS. This will be our second cycle TTC although I'm calling my current cycle a 'practice run' cause I thought I'd be chilled & not track ovulation etc, I was so wrong 😂 Now I'm crazy obsessed so will be doing cheapie OPKs along with CB digital this cycle 😊

Good luck to everyone & lots of baby dust 💕

naaz08 · 04/05/2020 21:59

I would also like to join please, TTC number 2 and currently day 2 of AF. I had faint positives last week but then AF arrived. I will be testing around the 7th June.

Goodluck everyone

Lauren1288 · 04/05/2020 21:24

Hey can I join!!

I am 12 dpo with a bfn today and AF due imminently. Had what I thought was cramping last week but no symptoms for a few days so onto cycle 2 TTC baby number 1

Was slightly disheartened today seeing the bfn and I have long cycles so next opportunity is at least 3 weeks away (I'm a very impatient person 😂) but optimistic for the future 😃

Good luck and baby dust to you all

2020mission · 04/05/2020 21:01

Hi all 👋🏻
Back at it at the end of this month for cycle 4 of TTC my first.

What dates are you all planning to test around in June? It’s looking like it will be about the 12th for me. The countdown begins.

Missgoldilocks · 04/05/2020 20:18

@MrsLBear haha! No worries I'm part of the crazy gang on here and I think we've said it all!! It's weird isn't it 😂 I can't use tampons but sex is fine! I must put them in wrong 😅. I have a nearly 9 year old son! Not with him he has no kids... I had the copper coil for 6 years so my body shouldn't even be readjusting after hormones. Yes it's so mentally draining and me and my OH relationship and sex life has really been strained which is just horrid, but it's hard not to when you have the pressure of having multiple sex sessions over 5 days (we aren't a manic sex couple)
Have you any kids? How long have you been trying?

@spinningthewheel my cycles are 👌 28 day cycles and ovulate every month on cd15! Trust me, I literally take 7 tablets a day different vitamins 😂 I shove them down my OH too, I do opks I temp etc god I've done it all. I need to relax though easier than done because I have been so stressed out since the beginning of it all. Hoping to get my tubs looked at as soon as this pandemic is over.

primrosechill · 04/05/2020 20:13

@MrsLBear yes unfortunately have suffered from vaginismus pretty much forever - I have been able to overcome it partially through therapy and dilators, but sex still hurts a lot at times - so home insemination just takes a bit of the edge off. I also have to say in a strange way it has helped us to separate intimacy/desire from "operational" sex at highest fertility days haha - this way sex never feels like a chore and the home insemination process is sort of a weirdly enjoyable "project" as well.

In terms of trying after miscarriage - I will wait one cycle (waiting for AF to show up in the next 3-4 weeks hopefully) and then go back to it. I just hate not doing anything about it and want to erase the horrible memories, if you know what I mean. You mentioned you miscarried in Feb last year - did you go straight back to ttc afterwards then? How did you find it?

Spinningthewheel · 04/05/2020 20:13

@MrsLBear just the cheapie one step ones at the moment. So it’s temping, OPKs and general tracking (ie all the glamorous fluids and prodding stuff!) for now. Hoping to keep it to that, but I imagine I’ll have all sorts of superstitions soon enough. Drinking more water sounds like it can only do good.

@CMM20 me too (1st cycle 1st baby). I probably should be more nervous but I’m only thinking as far forward as trying to get pregnant yet, not thinking about the baby!

nina468 · 04/05/2020 20:08

@MrsLBear I know why you mean....each month I try not to get carried away but I always think it's also good to stay optimistic!

nina468 · 04/05/2020 20:05

Hi @MrsLBear yes baby number 1 for us, this is cycle number 7. What about yourself?

CMM20 · 04/05/2020 19:56

Hey, please can I jump on? ☺️ AF is due on Wednesday and then all systems go. Will be our first cycle of trying for our first child. So excited and nervous at the same time. Will be great to have a group to be able to share this with! ❤️

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MrsLBear · 04/05/2020 19:40

Sorry @Aaj04 half my message cut off to you!! Wishing you lots of luck this cycle and hopefully af comes quick if it is coming!

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MrsLBear · 04/05/2020 19:40

@nina468 aw would it be valentines babies!! How cute. Oh god I've got to stop I cannot let my mind wander it goes to all the wrong places. I was a day early too this month and last month I was a day late which makes me think even with opks and temp I might be getting my o day slightly wrong.

Those who track - is your lp the same every cycle?

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MrsLBear · 04/05/2020 19:38

@Spinningthewheel what opks are you using? Thank you, I know it's mental how common they are and they are so unspoken of in normal day life. I know, it's so much to think about though like your vitamins, his vitamins, temperature etc it's a bloody minefield.
Trying to drink more water too as that supposed to help with fluids... so glam haha.

So sorry to hear you've been through it too @primrosechill. Are you going to try again right away? Oh no, have you always suffered from that?

Hi @nina468 welcome! Mine came midday which is very unusual for me but at least it's started and then can hopefully be over soon. Are you TTC #1?

Hi @Missgoldilocks it's so so hard and so mentally draining as well. Especially when you do hit the nail on the head and it still doesn't happen. Have you got children together? I know I saw that too but not sure if I could use that. I'm a bit "sensitive" and since my mmc I find tampons uncomfortable (sex is fine though but I suppose that's due to arousal - god sorry I'm getting so graphic so soon! 😂).

Welcome @Aaj04 👋🏼

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nina468 · 04/05/2020 19:27

As predicted AF arrived for me a day early! So I'm hopping on board for June! Here's to valentines babies next year hopefully?! 💓

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