June Bus - who's on board?

Hey guys i’ve not posted for a couple of weeks since the last thread!
I’m on cycle #1 trying to conceive #1, came off my pill 9th May, waiting for AF who should have arrived today but hasn’t! Taken a test and got a BFN this morning so looks like will have to try again next month! Hope everyone else has had some good news xx

50 shades of TTC (June bus part 2) www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3917241-50-shades-of-ttc-june-bus-part-2

Just posting this again...loving reading all the intros on the new thread, EVERYONE jump over there and get your intro on (if you've been lurking on this thread, come and say hi 👋)

I'm currently trying to eat a salted caramel twix from my bedside table without waking DP (he is working nights) because I can't face him waking up to me eating chocolate when I keep telling him I want to go on a diet 😂😂

@Cocoblue22 oooo I've just downloaded it ! I always find the quick ones so much easier than the long ones as you can actually feel it more in the quick ones!

@lucyrp you need to do three sets a day of:
Ten 1sec squeezes with 1 sec rest

And 10 10s squeezes with 4/5 sec rest however this takes time to build up to and best to start with what you can do and build up I think post birth because of the damage I was doing
10x 3Sec holds with 5 sec rests but built up over time like any exercise as my muscles got stronger and I healed.
That’s why that app is good it times it for you and there’s a visual circle to help you focus on squeezing it was 2.99 I think from App Store deffo worth the money x

@Cocoblue22 I think I've got it turned off on Facebook already. Mad isn't it!

Yeah I'm pretty sure I'm doing them right but how long are you supposed to hold etc 🙈I feel like I'm not taking them seriously enough and always forget to do them! I have just purchased some kegel balls tho so they may help!

@OnNaturesCourse the nhs Squeezy app is really good for doing pelvic floors it gives you reminders and you can change settings for how long to hold etc! I was told to use it after DS1 did some serious damage during birth (seriously thought I’d never recover but now I’m all good with a designer vagina courtesy of our lovely nhs!!) needless to say I’m down for an elective c sec next time! But that app is good.

@lucyrp to do them imagine stopping the flow when you pee but don’t tense your bum or abs. You should also do them in different positions sitting lying down standing is the hardest! I was really good at doing them in the first year post birth but been a bit rubbish lately need to get my app out of hibernation and crack on with them!!! (Having pelvic floor physio post birth is definitely not what anyone warns you about....lying there with the physios finger up there and her asking you to squeeze and hold never in a million years did I foresee those appointments) X

@lucyrp it’s because the internet monitors what you look at! Especially Facebook they look at everything you search so then it pops up in your ads! You can turn it off though in settings on Facebook! X

I've jumped over to the new thread too xx

I have also introduced myself over on the new bus!

@SmileyT @Skip86 Just to add to this Contraception conversation it definitely does not work pulling out as OH and I have been pregnant before also but like you said 100% not in the correct place to have a baby. And how easy is getting pregnant when you're not actually ready for one! And when you're ready the little blighters don't want to catch!
I was tempted to try the patch as contraception has anyone used that before and any feedback on it ??

50 shades of TTC (June bus part 2) www.mumsnet.com/Talk/conception/3917241-50-shades-of-ttc-june-bus-part-2

@Skip86 I totally agree that the avoidance/ withdrawal method is not 100% when I got pregnant this year it was totally unplanned and I had been tracking my periods (no ovulations tests tbf) and basically used withdrawal for the 2nd week of each cycle. It was a nice surprise for us, until the MC but if another child is off the cards then I'd definitely go for condoms/ complete avoidance during fertile week in the future. When will you be testing?

Oh shit we won't make it to the end of today without a new thread!

Morning ladies, 4DPO here and nothing very exciting going on except for having a horrific wave of nausea last night, for only about 20 mins. Obviously nothing to do with TTC but noted it anyway!

Jaysus. I thought I was a milk chocolate kind of a gal before reading this chat, but now I'm thinking I'd barely even make the cut for vanilla, more like a room temperature glass of skim milk 🥛😂😂

Considering we have young kids, a busy business, and a hectic social life, I think DH and I have a good sex life. Nowhere near what it seems others here have, but we are both happy and satisfied I'm cool with that. Will be getting a bullet and perhaps put more effort into the lingerie etc from here in, after you've all opened my eyes to the joys!
Ain't nobody going near my arsehole though, like ever. (I have a permanent drain coming out of there so have an excellent excuse).

For those of you discussing contraception ideas for down the track, I totally agree after coming off contraception a while back there's no way I'd return to pills/implant etc... HOWEVER, pleeease don't just rely on natural cycle avoidance and especially withdrawal. A TTC forum is not the appropriate place for me to go into detail, but I'm telling you from experience that withdrawal does NOT always work. I have had an 'oopsy daisies' with my husband using that technique when we 100% were not in a position to have a baby. Just felt the need to warn you all that pre-cum does indeed have vibrant swimmers in it.

Sorry long catch up from me again! My once a day check in 😜😃😃

@Bear127 If you do have a 38 day cycle this time you still have plenty of time. Hang in there, I'm confident you will get your static face or at least you'll have yourself well covered with having sex every other day 👌🏾 x

@SmileyT I started on day 8, early I know! Since coming off the pill I’d had two cycles at 39/38 days so I was expecting a long cycle last time around but I got a static smiley on CD19 last month and my cycle ended up being 28 days 🤦🏼‍♀️ I’m holding out hope that I’ll get my peak tomorrow 🤞🏻. We’ve DTD pretty much every other day and we’ll go again in the morning 😂 I’m only using CB at the moment too so I don’t know whether another method would've told me anything different.

@OnNaturesCourse 100%! I was dead and gone by the time OH came to bed 😂 sounds like my OH last night we did a quick one in between games like o said but he actually still had his head set on while we did it but his mic on mute and they were going into a game just as we finished and he was like soz was busy 😂

We gamer widows have to take our chances when we can 😂 DP came to bed at some ridiculous hour last night and I woke up subconsciously...so we technically have DTD twice today thanks to our early hours rumble. Ovulation is today so fingers crossed because I think DP would like left alone for a while 😂 he's just had to explain to his mates why he was late to the game lol

@OnNaturesCourse I'm a thong girl I can't wear anything else I'm stuck on them now 😂😂

OH is gaming again tonight too but the server was down before so was getting excited but its working again now 😂although cant complain already DTD twice today 😳😂

Don't get me started on underwear, I used to be a thong and lace kinda lass, but since having DC1 and the horrific aftermath of my scars from forceps it's only full coverage cotton pants I can wear now 😭 I try to make up for it with lacy bras and tops, but it's just not the same.

DP says it all ends up on the floor either way so he's not bothered by it tho lol.

I managed to catch DP before he stared his gaming tonight so I'm all smug with myself haha he jokingly says he's no swimmers left so I've to leave him at peace tonight 😂😳

@SmileyT you should watch it! It's not overly raunchy but its enough to give me some twinges! 😂 I had the most boring t shirt bras before I can't believe I wore them for so long 😂

£220 for a set of underwear 😳😱whhhaaattttt???

I’ve not seen 50 shades either, if these bloody non ovulation days carry on then I might add that to the list!!

@SmileyT yes that could be me! Send help!

@KateColx bloody hell, £220 for a full set - so nice but a bit rich for my blood especially as DP is very heavy handed and rips stuff all the time 🤣

I've never seen 50 shades, might need to get on that aswell - and some nice underwear especially in lockdown i'm an actual slug feel sorry for DP, ahh so many things still for me to learn 🤪

@Bear127 what day did you start testing? I'm starting one day later as I know I won't ovulate for at least a week still feel like this baseline thing is a con by CB.

@Minster2012 hahaha 😂 i had 4 days of blank circles last month and I thought I was losing my bloody mind... Can just imagine the headline of one of those trashy mags 'MN send mum into a jealous rage over flashing smily faces and bangs husband to death' 😂

Oh yes @Bear127 I remember we are cycle buddies, 💪🏻 day 8 for you too, can we even remember those heady days of “yay flashing smile” 🥳🤦🏼‍♀️ distant memories 😂 I’ve only got one CB left now & im still getting 0s on the ICs (though I think I’ve drunk about 4 litres of fluid today though, maybe one of which has been wine!) kidding, only half!

I know what you mean though @KateColx it’s good to have a “build up” in more ways than one, Cos we’ve been DTD every other day so either way we’ve covered all bases AND enjoyed it 😂

@SmileyT I always used to wear sexy underwear and I think when I got fat I just got boring because I didn't feel sexy and I only realised how disgusting my underwear was in like march this year and I was like shit I'm so sorry OH and ordered like 6 sets from Ann summers 😂

@KateColx we watched the first two other the last week and by god it has done wonders! Still yet to watch the last one but I did read all the books so I know what happens. I swear the books are so much raunchier than the films ?! Anyone else ?! That's my motto in life, things have only really settled in the last 6 months to a year in my life so we're getting there 🥰 yes I think I have 😍🙈

@Minster2012 im not so sure about that 😂