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All about us ~ MC'ing or MC'ed or TTC after MC or just loves cakes!

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katendmom · 16/09/2007 21:00

Ok, girls, our last thread did get crazy long so I am starting this one. If you don't like the name - well... too bad You'll get used to it over time .

ILTC, hi there sista! I feel like we're SO alike. Can you believe that my bleeding started again today? I was quite . And out of all places it started in a zoo when we were watching little sheep at the "petting zoo" section with DS and DH. Grrreat!~ Hope you're feeling better and this mess if over soon for all of us .

Rosybelle, hi there~ [sends a wave] Com'on over - sorry you're here but it's easier to get through things together. If you read my previous posts you know what I have to say - ERPC (or D&C) all the way. Good luck!

Scully, hi... you sound like me... actually my DH who is very much doubting TCC'ing again. And that's just after one MC! Well... we did have a stillborn DD1 but went on to have a beautiful DS. What would have happened if we got scared back then and didn't do it. Ooops, promised not to talk about it until mid-Oct. That's when my MC blood/ tissue results are back from the lab to tell us what was wrong with the baby. We agreed we wouldn't make any decisions until we find out.

Cricri, I know you won't be chechking this thread until later but hope your weekend in Holland is fab!

Hugs and smooches to all!

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nh101 · 21/09/2007 10:57

BFP

I had to take two tests because the first one had such a faint line I was convinced it was an evap line, although DH said he could see it too so I knew I wasn't being totally bonkers. That was with the first wee of the day, so half an hour later (before I'd had anything to drink) I squeezed out a bit more wee and the line was much stronger - a definite line!

It is six months to the day since my MC was confirmed.

My period isn't even due to Monday so fingers crossed this is not a chemical PG....

But for now I am happy!

goingfor3 · 21/09/2007 10:06

nh101 & triggles any news?

katendmom thank you for the offer. The dr has prescribed something though I'm not usre what as he faxed the prescription straight over to the pharmacy and they didn't have it in stock so I will pick it up later on today though ironically it's gone now! I think that the pessaires did clear the thrush but also caused a reaction which made me sore and itchy. I didn't use on last night and feel like now. Sorry that the nurse was so rubbish. My friend used to work as a receptionist and said that you should never tell the receptionist anything as they are just nosey and can't help, the same goes for your nurse too!

sweetkitty my gp is referring me straight to the gynae dr rather than the antenatal clinic so hopefully things will happen quickly. I would like to have a scan at around 10 weeks or so to check the condition of my cervix, seeing the baby won't reassure me in any way as both of my mc's were mid term and I had seen or heard the baby just acouple of days before and felt them moving too.

winemakesmummyclever · 21/09/2007 09:19

Morning,

Well, just a day away from MN and look what goes and happens....

nh101 & triggles - I have got everything crossed for you guys. Here's to BFPs for you both and many more to come for therest of us [hopeful, positive grin].

Katendmom - we were told to wait for a least one cycle if we wanted to be sure of dates etc, but the nurse said that few people wait. Glad that dh is back with the programme .

rosy - I had a dark brown loss for 3 days before the m/c started properly - I ended up an ERPC in the end. It is different for everyone, but I will say to keep yourself topped up with strong painkillers as no-one can predict how it is going to be for you. Keep the appointment just in case. Hope things won't be too bad for you.

SK - I'm doing librarianship/info management. Yup, I am a nerdy geek. It's part time, so I should be able to manage the work if I pull my socks up and demand time for me. That's something I'm not very good at the mo - I feel guilty because I chose to be SAHM & dh works full time & does OT every week or two. I'm hoping for a summer baby to fit in the summer break, but tbh, I'm going through an "it'll never happen" phase. Guess I'm still not right in the head IYKWIM.

If my previously regular cycle stays at 28, AF should be due next Tuesday (28 days post-ERPC). I don't think there'll be a BFP this month, though if cycle has been mucked up, I'll be peeing on sticks by Wed morning.

Take care everyone .

Lcy · 21/09/2007 08:48

Morning all

Kateandmom - Sorry to hear about your experience with nurse. I hate it when doctors and nurses give you totally unscientific advise based on what they think rather than research [grrrr]

It is 4 days until my period - i am going CRAZY. I have no normal period symptoms (e.g. sore boobs) but also no pregnancy symptoms. I have become a boob checker because last time i was pregnant i got raised veins on my boobs. Any way i tested this morning using cheapy test from internet - BFN - i know it is to early but just want to know

sweetkitty · 21/09/2007 08:15

kateendmom that was feel sorry

sweetkitty · 21/09/2007 08:15

katendmom - fell on your behalf about the nurse, we ttc straight after but we didn't start until after the bleeding had stopped and by that time it was too late for that month. We are going for it this month though. If my body needed a rest it wouldn't be ovulating.

nh and triggles - I am itching to know what your results are???????

G43 - hope the thrush has calmed down a bit for you too, when is your first scan likely to be?

rosy - sorry you are going through this, hope today isn't too bad for you

cricri - don't know about the pregnancy hormones sorry I never checked mine

hello and morning to everyone else hope you are all doing ok, I got a on the CBD this morning it's good to know I'm in working order again but I know if I get a BFN this month I will be totally devastated

iliketosleep · 20/09/2007 21:37

huni i had my m/c last tuesday and we started ttc on tuesday!! sod what anyone else says its my body and ill do what i want with it

katendmom · 20/09/2007 20:54

Hi girls~ Wow, I haven't been on for one day and WHOA~ I probably won't remember everything but:

Those who choose to take it easy with TTC, I hope you stay with us and we can just chat about anything and everything. That was the whole purpose of this thread. We just wanted to have a place where we could come regardless of what was going on with us, thus the "loves cake" part. So hopefully you feel welcome and choose to hang out with us. You can tell - there is never a shortage of posts on this one ~proudly pet myself on the back as I started the thread~ and then turn around and pet ILTS and others who have inspired it, saying that the original thread was getting too long.

FlossieF my heart goes out to you. What a horrid experience! I am SO glad you're home and recovering. Please take it easy. Life is just crazily tough at times...

Rosy my girl ~ hang in there. It's coming to an end for you one way or another. I am thinking about you and sending you lots of vibes of strength.

EllieG I am SO glad you joined us. Goingfor3 was our first lucky charm, blessing us with her BFP like the day we started this thread. Please come over and hang out - we're trying to keep this as our virtual lounge, where everybody can talk about anything they want. You can still guess the main themes though .

nh101 and Triggles ~ needless to say I am all giddy here, just waiting for tomorrow. I think I am repeating somebody but a line is a line. Also remember, you can't get a false BFP. So I think you'll have something to tell us really soon!!! Sending you LOTS* of baby pixy dust!

Goingfor3 I feel so bad for you, just reading about your issues with thrush. I take it you're in Europe, right? Do you have Monistat? It works wonders for me. In USA you can get it at any pharmacy and you don't need a prescription. I am like ready to go and get it and ship it to you. Oh right, I don't have your address in R/L and I guess a virtual drug won't do you any good LOL. So let me know if you can't get it and I don't mind sending it to you.

Ok, a bit about my developments... and you will be floored. My life is never predictable. That's for sure (is this turning into a blog? Sorry, don't mean for that. The rest below is all about me ? feel free to skip it, really!).

So, I called my doc's office to request a Rx for 5 MG Folic acid (that supposedly does wonders to prevent MC). Well, the nurse who talked to me like really rubbed me the wrong way. She wouldn't give it to me and said: "When is your follow up visit after D&C? You should talk to the doctor." I explained that it wasn't until the first week of Oct. She goes: "Well, that's fine because we don't want you to TTC (she didn't use that term of course LOL) for 2 months anyway." I was like who is "we" and "what business do you have with my bedroom life?" I didn't say that but I thought it. And then she goes - "how many children you have? What # pregnancy was this?" I was like what does this have to do with anything. So... long story short - the witch didn't give me the Rx.

But get this... remember my earlier posts about how my DH was on a fence about TTC after seeing me go through MC, etc... and the fact that we have a really little (19 month) DS, etc? Well, as I promised you - I stood back, didn't bring this topic up and was patiently waiting for the results of my labs to come back mid-Oct... Well, then the other night without any thought in a back of my mind... and my DH totally like well what you would consider TTCed! I was so surprised I think my jaw dropped. It happened again last night so I think he might have changed his mind on his own and didn't tell me .

Of course I am so thrilled and nervous; I don't want to do anything to make him doubt that again... So I am thinking I won't tell him about what the witch nurse said about 2 months, what do you think? After all it took us over a year to get pg 1st time and like 6 mnth with DS... Plus this last pg that we lost - I wasn't pg for 19 mnth before it and still mc'ed. So I think it is all a bunch of you know what about "letting your body rest, etc"

So I'm saying we'll continue as is. If I get pg quickly - then awesome. If I don't - then oh well, nothing for that idiot nurse to worry her head about. Makes sense? All of a sudden I feel like I?m a little girl back in school and the teacher just disapproved something that I did. How ridiculous! I really don?t like this nurse Jessica!

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iliketosleep · 20/09/2007 19:36

heres the link to my test thread

Bit ironic reading it back, someone wished me a happy 9 months

wheelybug · 20/09/2007 19:29

cricri - I was told to take a pg test 10 days after I had my scan which confirmed I had a mc, so presumably this is hwo long it takes for the hormones to pass (I didn't have an ERPC though).

iliketosleep · 20/09/2007 17:58

rosybelle the best i could advise you on that its happening is if you feel some quite heavy pressure on your cervix. Im not sure if this has happened to everyone or it depends on how fargone you were etc but that was my sign it was happening xx

cricri · 20/09/2007 17:15

Rosybelle - I know everybody is different but I had the brown blood for four days before the mc really started. The day after I first started spotting I thought it had actually stopped but it hadn't. I didn't get the cramping until just before it started properly though so fingers crossed it will all be over for you soon. As others have said, don't cancel the ERPC appointment. I went to the EPU the day before the ERPC and explained the situation. They simply scheduled me in for a scan just before the ERPC the next day and said they'd take it from there. As it happens I didn't need it.
Changing the subject, my husband works nights too every third week so we're going to have to be creative about timing for BDing too! Fortunately I work from home...
I also have a question - does anybody know how long it takes the pregnancy hormones to clear out of your system? Is it worth doing a pg test just to check?
Hope everybody else is OK.

becklespeckle · 20/09/2007 16:23

Wheely, trying not to think about 'it' is so hard! I have only ever fallen pg at times when I 'knew' it wasn't going to happen (usually between consultant appointments when they have said "it won't happen but let's leave it a couple more months/check this thing out before giving you medication") so I wasn't really thinking about it.
Typical that OV falls at an inconvenient time, hopefully you will fit some action in! With so much else going on it might help keep your mind occupied a bit too.

RosyBelle · 20/09/2007 16:20

Thanks Ladylush - I was quite excited this morning that I wouldn't need one.

I see you have had 3 mc in a row?? Have you been referred to a recurrent miscarriage consultant??

ladylush · 20/09/2007 16:17

sorry you're going through this rosy Worth keeping the erpc appt even if blood loss gets heavy - so they can scan you and check it's all gone.

RosyBelle · 20/09/2007 16:13

Wheely - thank you!! I know that we all miscarry differently but nice to know I can try to carry on as normally as possible. Sorry about bad timimg for BDing... my DH works night shifts and they always come along when its OV time. Now DD is at school we may actually get to do it at the right time!!
ILTS - are you still losing? Hugs!I had tesco value vanilla cheesecake for lunch - heaven! Saved you a slice.

Well whatever it was - its stopped! Lost nothing for 2 hrs but have AF pain. I could go on forever . Def not canx that erpc tuesday.

ladylush · 20/09/2007 16:08

Doh - I got the dates of my mc wrong so have amended it.
sweetkitty - TTC#3 (mc Aug)
mcchesers - TTC#1 (mc Aug)
Ronshar - TTC#3 (mc march 07)
Iliketosleep - TTC#4 (mc Sept)
Goingfor3 - EDD 1st June #3 (mc July)
flosspot- TTC#1...still...(mc June)
Gillydaffodil - TTC#1 (mc Oct 06)
nh101 TTC 1 (mc mar 07)
Wheely TTC 2 (mc July 06)
Alittlebitshy - TTC #2 (mc mar 07 and june07)
WMMC - TTC#2 (mc August)
Rosy - TTC#2 (mc now!)
KD73 - TTC#1 (mc 5 August
Tjuice - TTC#1 (mc 17 August) CD ???
lottie7- TTC#2 (mc Feb 07)
Triggles - TTC#4 (mc May 07 August 07)
Ladylush TTC#2 (mcs July 07, Dec 06, Jan 06)
lissielou TTC #2 (1st mc Nov 05, 5th & last mc June 07, 1 ep in between)

iliketosleep · 20/09/2007 15:42

yeah i know rosybelle lmao!!

Well im loosing brown gooey stuff now so im not sure, before i started m/c and during it was bright bright bright red!!

wheelybug · 20/09/2007 14:45

LOL nh - the things you tell people on the internet . Fingers crossed its worked for you !

Lcy · 20/09/2007 14:45

sweetkitty - TTC#3 (mc Aug)
mcchesers - TTC#1 (mc Aug)
Ronshar - TTC#3 (mc march 07)
Iliketosleep - TTC#4 (mc Sept)
Goingfor3 - EDD 1st June #3 (mc July)
flosspot- TTC#1...still...(mc June)
Gillydaffodil - TTC#1 (mc Oct 06)
nh101 TTC 1 (mc mar 07)
Wheely TTC 2 (mc July 06)
Alittlebitshy - TTC #2 (mc mar 07 and june07)
WMMC - TTC#2 (mc August)
Rosy - TTC#2 (mc now!)
KD73 - TTC#1 (mc 5 August
Tjuice - TTC#1 (mc 17 August) CD ???
lottie7- TTC#2 (mc Feb 07)
Triggles - TTC#4 (mc May 07 August 07)
Ladylush TTC#2 (mc July 07, Dec 05 and Jan 06)
lissielou TTC #2 (1st mc Nov 05, 5th & last mc June 07, 1 ep in between)

nh101 · 20/09/2007 14:35

Hi Wheely, I have same problem sometimes with DH being tired - we just do it lying on our side his front to my back if you see what I mean (oh no I am so )

He seems to like it

lissielou · 20/09/2007 14:26

just adding myself back onto the list (think i got lost)

sweetkitty - TTC#3 (mc Aug)
mcchesers - TTC#1 (mc Aug)
Ronshar - TTC#3 (mc march 07)
Iliketosleep - TTC#4 (mc Sept)
Goingfor3 - EDD 1st June #3 (mc July)
flosspot- TTC#1...still...(mc June)
Gillydaffodil - TTC#1 (mc Oct 06)
nh101 TTC 1 (mc mar 07)
Wheely TTC 2 (mc July 06)
Alittlebitshy - TTC #2 (mc mar 07 and june07)
WMMC - TTC#2 (mc August)
Rosy - TTC#2 (mc now!)
KD73 - TTC#1 (mc 5 August
Tjuice - TTC#1 (mc 17 August) CD ???
lottie7- TTC#2 (mc Feb 07)
Triggles - TTC#4 (mc May 07 August 07)
Ladylush TTC#2 (mc July 07, Dec 05 and Jan 06)

just want you all to know that even tho we are not actively ttc i will be popping on to see you all. i think of you often. things WILL get better, im sure of it x
lissielou TTC #2 (1st mc Nov 05, 5th & last mc June 07, 1 ep in between)

wheelybug · 20/09/2007 14:08

oh plodding along Beckle - trying not to think about 'it'. Busy with house renovation and dd starting pre-school.

BUt how's this for 'typical'. I usually have quite a long cycle so last month I should have been on hols when I ov'd but instead I ov'd slap bang on day 14 which meant we weren't yet on hols and then AF arrived whilst we were. Then DH goes back to work and has been taking it really easy for once (he usually gets in earliest 10pm ish or later so makes bding to demand somewhat fraught) so I was feeling really positive and relaxed about this month... but I am soon to OV and he gets a call last night about a case which means he is going to be really busy until the beginning of next week. AARRRRGGGGGHHHHH...... do you thinks someone's trying to tell me something ????

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becklespeckle · 20/09/2007 14:03

Hi Wheely, how are you hun?