Why am I not pregnant yet :( TTC

Hi there 👋🏻

Bit late on this post, but I feel your pain! And today is one of those days where I feel giving up and feeling so down about this all thing!....

Been off the pill for over a year now and been TTC since last September with no sign whatsoever of pregnancy.... I do too have kinda irregular cycles, started tracking bbt and opk since march, so hopefully will get me to understand what's going with my body. I really feel like its letting me down 😩

Currently CD 10 so BD tonight following along SMEP. Took a digital opk today which was negative. Praying this is our month!! Also using preseed for the first time and really enjoying it

I had a little twinge on one side when I was pregnant (didn't know I was pregnant at the time) thought it could be my period. I also felt sick in the evening for about an hour again didn't know I was pregnant.
Best of luck to everyone TTC. Wishing for you all

Currently 1DPO here, so the dreaded TWW begins...
I’ve used preseed and Agnus Castus for the first time this month so we’ll see if it makes a difference!

We had sex every other day between periods. Dh was away with work for a week. He has to come back twice to do the honours. Anyway, it worked, dd is now 11.

Hey OP, how are you getting on? Did you take another test?

I just found out one of my best friends is pregnant. So happy for her but gutted at the same time!

My DH and I have been trying since January 19. The first month we were all excited and "we just made a baby!", I look back now and laugh at how naive we were. I think because we spend our whole adult lives avoiding pregnancy and being warned you get pregnant from thinking about unprotected sex it makes the reality of it doesn't routinely happen immediately a bit of a shock.

I'd just been at the point of getting referrals and covid happened. We've decided to continue naturally but with no pressure on it. If it happens when in lockdown, it happens. I definitely have my less serene moments though where it just feels so unfair!

@Positevibes good luck! we've been trying for a year now. No known fertility issues, docs have confirmed I'm ovulating and my husband has had tests (I'm 30, he's 42), so it's just a case of trying to be patient for us!

@jennylouisaa hi thanks for your response. May will be our 9th Month of trying. I'm going to do a couple more OPKs today and tomorrow see what they look like. We've been pretty good at DTD this month so 🤞🤞 how long have you been trying? I never realised it was so complicated

@lockdownlowdown- I too never found urine ovulation strips worked at all. Either I misses the magical few seconds I ovulated and would have shown a high reading, or just didn't work on me? I know I ovulated (from blood hormones levels and scans) though.

I used a re-usable saliva ovulation test which always gave me a reading. Its like a tiny microscope and you look at the changes in the pattern shape of the saliva. Overall I'd TTC 9yrs, so buying a single, reusable device worked out MUCH cheaper than multiple monthly ovulation strips.

Remember that there is only a 20% chance of it working each month- IF all is normal. That's is why they won't do any tests till after 12mths of trying when under 35yrs.

What testing have you had beforehand to find out why your periods are so irregular? Do you have PCOS or something else?

Ps I found strip ovulation tests a bit tricky. They never seemed to get really dark

Get some digital ovulation sticks. I've used them every time and always worked for me ( I've had a 7 bfps in total). I don't seem to get pregnant unless I have sex on the exact day of the smiley face so you might just be missing out on ovulation.

It's such a frustrating time, I feel for you. It took me 16 perfectly timed cycles with no fertility issues at all to conceive my 1st and one single try to conceive my 2nd... Good luck to you 🍀

@Positevibes it could mean you've already ovulated or you're not quite there yet. My app always says I'm going to ovulate on day 14 but it's usually always later, around day 18. I'd keep testing for a few days and see if the line gets darker. Also, things like having ewcm can be a reliable indicator that you're ovulating/about to ovulate. I monitor my mucus and use OPKs to get a good idea of when it will be.
How long have you been trying? I used OPKs for a few months before spotting a pattern.

Does anyone use OPKs I'm so confused I have a line which isn't as dark as the control line so not positive even though my app says I'm ovulating today but does the line mean I have ovulated and it's getting weaker or I haven't yet and it's going to get stronger they are so confusing 🙄

We tried for I think 9 months. In the last month, when I was nearly ready to give up, and I was sure there must be something wrong with one or both of us, we decided to really go for it. We followed the Sperm Meets Egg Plan (I think that’s what it’s called) and it worked!

You should also consider a blood test to check your thyroid. I did and they found that while my levels were normal, they were higher than the ideal for pregnancy. I started taking Synthroid to bring it down under 1 or 2 (can’t quite remember the exact number), which may have also contributed to our success.

Don’t give up hope! Good luck!

Hey ladies. I am also feeling the exact same as all of you. Me and hubby are both 24 and we are now on to cycle 10. We never thought it would take this long and these past couple of months once I get my period I have a massive break down and cry for pretty much the first day of my cycle. I am current on CD5 and hoping this is our month. We are doing the same thing taking multi vitamins using ovulation strips and have the Ovia app. But everyone else around us is getting pregnant it’s so disheartening

Sorry, OP. Can't see anything. Might just be too early though.

Sorry I meant clear blue fertility monitor, not ovulation test:

uk.clearblue.com/ovulation-tests/advanced-fertility-monitor?pk_campaign=Brand-Products&pk_content=Fertility-Monitor-Brand-Exact&pk_kwd=clearblue%20fertility%20monitor&pk_source=google&pk_medium=cpc&gclid=Cj0KCQjwy6T1BRDXARIsAIqCTXrvEwO5rtvTUWJagbZwMk0_Yz3UKZkK-dYEpBPSV3FmOVfct5m_d84aArkiEALw_wcB

It took my partner and I 11 months to conceive, however I am currently 9 months pregnant and due in less than 3 weeks. I felt exactly like you, with friends all around me who had only been trying a couple of months, were all getting pregnant.

I was doing ovulation tests regularly, used the fertility lube, taking vitamins etc, everything that was recommended.

Someone suggested to buy a clear blue digital ovulation kit. I picked it up 2nd hand on ebay for £35ish. The tests aren't cheap to go with them, but I fell pregnant on the first month of using it, so very much worth it. As its more accurate than normal ovulation tests, I discovered I was actually ovulating a few days earlier than the other tests were picking up, so I think I was just missing ovulation each month. It could be worth you trying it if you don't have regular periods so are unsure of when you ovulate. Anything is worth a try! Good luck!