In our 30's and TTC- baby dust

@Mummylala123 welcome!! The line will get a lot darker than the one in your pic when you're at your peak ☺️ it really does go the same colour as the control or darker. But if you're starting to get prominent lines then it shouldn't be too long, just keep testing!! Fingers crossed for you!

I just had a video call with my mum and she told me someone we know is pregnant... she has no idea we are trying and it's just upset me 😔 of course happy for the couple but it's so tough keeping trying secret isn't it?

@notyetamumbuttrying thanks...yeah that was the same as me last month it was so heavy ..I think it was maybe a chemical hence why I don't want to get excited just now ...we weren't really trying last month I wasn't tracking anything

Hi everyone, just looking for a little advice, I'm new. Myself and husband have recently decided to try to conceive. I don't know exactly when my period is due, I've never needed to know the exact date or how long my cycle lasts. My last period started on or around 25th May. I got my coil out on Tuesday past, 9th June. I used the ovulation strips twice per day from Tuesday and could gradually see them getting darker. Last night I got the one in the pic, I'd say its as dark as the c line, what do you think? When I seen this I got excited and used a clear blue test, no smiley face although there was 2 lines on the test strip. I tested this morning again on the strips and it had lightened up again. Any advice ladies. I didn't except to conceive this month but I thought I could maybe track my ovulation. Sorry if I sound like I haven't got a clue, I don't 🙈 I have 2 children, my youngest is 10 so I feel like I'm starting over again, my husband also has 2 so this will be out first together, fingers crossed. We have been having sex each day since I got the coil out just incase lol.

Best of luck @Anastacia1! Kinda wish I'd tested before 13dpo now as my period arrived two days early too and it's heavier than usual. Now wondering whether it was a chemical or not?!

Hi ladies how is everyone? I took a test this morning even though I’m not due AF until next Tuesday/Wednesday but I see a very faint line ... trying not to get hopes up as this happened last month and AF came the next day two days early 🤞🏼🤞🏼 Hoping it gets darker

@Lauralozzle that sounds sensible - I wouldn't want to start any test whilst this is going on. Xxx

@Peach1204 thanks 😊

Honestly, I just expect AF to come. To begin I used to test early but always got a BFN and AF always turned up on time. I’ve had every symptom at some point - spotting that I thought was implantation, sore boobs, nausea the lot. Months with really tender boobs, months where they barely hurt at all. Always ends up being PMS, so I’ve learned 2WW symptoms are a bit pointless to track for me, because everything always leads to AF anyway. Progesterone is a b*tch! Lol

It’s got to the point where I don’t really expect it to happen, and I’m usually okay, it gets hard though when people at work announce pregnancies or friends do. I honestly thought it’d have happened by now, but now I’m not sure it’ll happen without help.

I want this crisis to be at a manageable level before tests and appointments though.

@Lauralozzle honestly take my hat off to you. I don't know if I'd be more disappointed the longer it goes on or take the news a bit better. Xxx

@Peach1204 I’ve been trying a year this month, but I’m on like, cycle 14 as my cycles are usually between 26-28 days.

I admit, some cycles have been better timing wise than others though.

Will do @Peach1204

@notyetamumbuttrying this looks like a good delivery! Let me know if the book is any good! Xxx

Haha I agree @Peach1204!
Today's amazon delivery...inc ov sticks!

@notyetamumbuttrying I'm just going to wait for AF each month now. Hoping in July I'll have some work to do to occupy my mind! I just made a cake so that took my mind off it for an hour! Xxx

I just ordered ovulation strips and the cups to wee in - at least if I do get to have a baby I'll be used to wee all over my hands! 😂 feel like it's going to be messy!

Xxx

Thanks ladies, you are both right. I think I've just got a bit of drinking guilt building but need to remind myself it's just cells if it's happened at this point and no real harm. I'd only have a couple of small glasses anyway 😅

Yeah you're right @Peach1204! The longer the journey the more calmer you get and the more frustrated tbh but you just get used to see af every month.
@2020mission defo don't test now and have a glass of wine guilt free 🍷 as @SarahTTC2020 said, nothing can get to the cluster of cells yet anyway.

@2020mission I think it's a waste of a test, implantation is quite rare at 6dpo and then there's be barely any HCG so have the glass of wine anyway as the teeny group of cells won't be taking anything from it at this stage and save your test for a few days!

I could resort to an Internet cheapie test instead but I think it would show negative this early even if I was pregnant so seems like a waste of time 🤔

I have felt like giving up too and did have a break for 2 months (April-May) although the Coronavirus was also part of that decision. I think it really helped me mentally reset having had 2 months of not tracking anything, eating more of what I like and having a a few extra glasses of wine at the weekends. I couldn't wait to get back to trying though (which started this month)!

Can someone please talk me out of using a FRER today at 7 DPO? I have it in my head that I could have a couple of glasses of wine tonight after a long week of working if it's negative 😂 of course I do want to see a positive though. In that case I'd have a mocktail tonight instead.

@notyetamumbuttrying thank you for replying, this info has definitely eased my mind. I know I need to relax with it and ignore any possible symptoms to not get my hopes up! Maybe the longer our journey the more I will calm down. Hope you have a BFP soon. Xxx

Hey @Peach1204 it'd be good if you googled the stats on how long it takes the average couple to conceive. That will then put it into perspective for you. The numbers are quite low in the first 6 months and then get better in 12 months so you may have a while to go yet but you'll get there. We're month 9 now (cycle 10) so just give yourself time and be kind to yourself.

@Lauralozzle thank you lovely. How long have you been trying? I think all I can do is hope it happens and do what I can to give us the best chance. Xxx

@Peach1204 I get it, I really do. There’s been months where I feel like giving up because it’s just not happening, I feel like there probably is something wrong with me, but coronavirus virus happened and I didn’t think starting investigations would be a good idea at the moment.

Although, I’ll give it a fair try next month - this one has been a bit of a right off, and then I think I will have to start talking to the doctor to see if I can get tests done.

You just have to hope that it will happen.

I had an email from amazon yesterday asking me to review the early pregnancy test strips I'd ordered - I thought I'd order ovulation strips! 🤦🏼‍♀️ I hadn't opened the parcel as I was in no rush. Also hubby asked when AF was due and I said Sunday/Monday then thought oh shit, he would expect a test Tuesday meaning I can't surprise him! I'd already bought 5 tests so considering I had another 3 I thought I'd test this morning as they are early response strips - 2 BFNs. Only second month of TTC but it's shit. How do you guys pull yourself out of this? I've gone from being casual to obsessive! I now don't want to do my exercise but know I should because it will help. Just disappointed more then I thought I would be. Sorry if you're following a couple of threads I'm on as I'll be repeating this there! Xxx

@MrsLully congratulations!!!! 🥳