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New to mumsnet. TTC for 9 months :(

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Sawiia · 23/04/2020 17:49

Hi all,

I'm 27 and me and my fiancé have been TTC for 9 months. AF has appeared today and I have been a wreck so decided to join looking for some support.

I've never been an emotional person. I'm very optimistic, logical and positive but for some reason I'm really not coping with TTC. I've spent a good few hours crying today because AF has come and I spend every waking moment thinking about being pregnant and, more so, how I'm not yet!

Hoping this will help me see I'm not alone and that this is normal.

Thanks xx

OP posts:
marlie89 · 23/04/2020 21:12

Awww I totally understand what you are feeling. Me and my husband have been trying for 11 cycles now and every time AF arrives I bawl my eyes out for a good few hours! All you can do is stay positive and remember it’s normal to take a year or even more. This is what I keep telling myself!

LAG1986 · 23/04/2020 20:09

@Positevibes definetly.
@dancingmama my other 2 happened really quick, so being only 3 months in is still a surprise to me. Think we take it for granted when it happened quickly before.
Ladies.... think I'm becoming obsessed. Haha.

Positevibes · 23/04/2020 19:31

@LAG1986 @dancingmama it's so refreshing to talk to other people going through the same thing.

dancingmama · 23/04/2020 19:13

I just posted on a similar thread about this.

I am TTC baby number 2. 3rd month with a BFN. However it took us well over 12 months to conceive our first so I'm trying to enjoy the process and stay relaxed. I know it takes time.

I have fertility problems but conceived number one naturally.

Hoping you get a positive test soon! X

LAG1986 · 23/04/2020 19:04

@Positevibes I'm also 33. X

LAG1986 · 23/04/2020 19:03

@Positevibes you too. Our time will come xx

Positevibes · 23/04/2020 18:09

I'm 33 and May will be our 9 month of trying. I didn't realise it would be this difficult but my OH is very positive so this month we are just going with the flow DTD every other day and trying to get out for some walks in the sun to keep a positive mind. All I keep thinking is the amount of people that have babies it must work eventually 🌈🤞. Good luck to you don't lose faith 🥰

LAG1986 · 23/04/2020 18:00

You're not alone. Dont panic. It can take some healthy couples 12 months to conceive. Just because. It's not as easy as we imagine. I was lucky enough for fall with my first without trying. And my2nd in 1st month. I've not been trying 3 months for number 3. Even I didnt expect it to take even this long. But as my partner says to me, you cant rush ultimate perfection. It will happen when our time comes. Try and relax, it could help. Xx

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