New to mumsnet. TTC for 9 months :(

Hey all you lovely ladies, though I don't wish this on anyone it's nice to see a thread where I wouldbfeel at home! We've been Ttc for 9 months now, af due on Sunday which is my birthday 😩 dreading it coming but feel no different so think it will.
I never thought it would take this long, so naive really! OH sperm checked all fine and my bloods are normal plus I have a child from a previous relationship so I know things work! But I can't help that fear of its never going to. Happen again, I have 28 days cycle and I ovulate bang on cd15 every month! It baffles me as to why it doesn't happen when we dtd all around the correct time!

Good luck to all you ladies, hopefully we can all support each other through this time I'd really like that!

@Carabu1 congratulations! That is great news! How long were you trying?

@MrsMeow2019 I do but I've been on slimming world since the start of last year and trying to maintain my target weight to help with TTC so trying to avoid all goodies! Haha!

@Positevibes I've been using OPKs for a few months now and normally ovulate around day 12 which means I should ovulate around next Monday (4th).

Really hope we get some good news this month guys!

@MrsMeow2019 this is the golden week according to my app I ovulate on 1st so we're busy DTD most days at the moment. Good to get some exercise when stuck in doors 😂 then the dreaded 2 WW starts with all fingers crossed 🤞🏼🍀🌈

How's everyone else?

@Slug123 I'm sorry about AF, know how you feel it just gets you down. The entire month is such a rollercoaster of emotions isn't it. I'm usually ok the week after AF until the week before AF when I become a crazy person wanted to know now whether we've been lucky or not.

Have you got some nice choccies/wine in to cheer yourself up? I keep emergency supplies along with the tampons

@carabu1 congratulations ! That's nice to hear, DH keeps saying 'it'll happen when it's the right time', I have no such patience lol! Hoping you have a happy and healthy 8 months x

You are not alone! This has been me, after a long struggle with PCOS. After undertaking fertility treatments (what a battle it was getting a referral for those!) I finally found out I'm pregnant last week. Very early days (I tested the day after missed period) - but I never ever thought I'd even get this far, so keep your chin up (Easier said than done I know). I'm now onto worrying that it's too good to be true and the universe is just having a laugh with me: so maybe the anxiety never ends?!

I'm still extreme down about AF coming last week. Feel like an emotional wreck!

Good luck to you all who are still waiting, got my fingers crossed for you! 🤞

Hope everyone had a nice weekend. How are we doing with not testing early ? I failed and tested at 8DPO on an IC which I’ve been squinting at and convinced myself there’s a line but I’m more certain it’s an Evap, next month I’m not buying any tests! I can’t stop myself from doing them :(

@LAG1986 Goodluck 🤞🏼🤞🏼

Hi ladies. I'm still pondering over doing an early test. Just to see. But I just dont because i hate finding out I'm still not pregnant. Dilemma. Hope you're all doing ok xx

@MrsMeow2019 Feeling ok today. Digging the garden up to give me something to occupy my mind.

Ordered some vitamins on a recommendation of a friend and praying for next month!

How are you ladies today? I’m reading too much mumsnet and googling ‘anyone for a BFP after 10 months TTc’ 😆 I’ve read them all before I don’t know why I read them again

Wouldn’t a BFP be so nice at the moment, life is just so sad and seems there isn’t much to look forward to for a long time.

@Positevibes It’s impossible I did a test today (way too early god knows why I did it 😆) BFN of course

Af due next weekend for me and we can’t even arrange to go out for a nice meal or something to cheer ourselves up when the inevitable happens ( totally agree restaurants shouldn’t be open but we had been planning nice things to do when AF showed up to cheer ourselves up 😆)

You’re absolutely not alone in this.
I’m 28 and just started cycle #9, I just curled up in bed and cried when AF arrived. I was so naive to think I would get pregnant quickly. All I think about is getting pregnant. I wake up every morning and think: “what cycle day is it?”
It’s completely taken over my life and I hate it. I tell myself every month that next month I won’t symptom spot or get my hopes up but I’m just useless at ignoring it.

I’d only just had blood tests on day 2 and day 21 of the previous cycle, and they cam back saying that they didn’t think I was ovulating, so I definitely wasn’t expecting anything to happen!! I think a lot of the time it just takes longer than you think it will, but there’s nothing wrong, it just takes time! I know it’s easier said than done to just wait though!

@LFH1990 that's wonderful news, congratulations! It's nice to know it took you that long, gives me some hope.

I was lucky enough that just before lock down my doctor ran some routine bloods etc to check everything seemed in order with me and the results were all good. They were going to send OH for SA but now they can't so I guess we've just got to hope and keep trying the next few months 🤞

Hi OP, I was just like you, always really upset when AF arrived and terrified that friends were going to tell me their happy news every time we met up...you probably won’t want to hear this (I know I never did!) but just keep going and it will happen, so many people who I have spoken to recently have said that they were trying for 12-24 months before it happened, but I’d just assumed it had worked for them straight away!
I’m 30 and we have been trying for 16 months, but I got my BFP this week and I genuinely never ever thought it would happen for me, it was so out of the blue!
I know it’s reall difficult and frustrating when you’re trying, but chances are the only things you need to conceive are time and patience!
Good luck 😊

@Slug123 I've been like that some days is worse than others but it hasn't completely gone! Oh well fingers crossed to you aswell! I wish I had someone I could speak to but I haven't told anyone as I don't want to feel pressured if it doesn't happen!

I just don't test because even if I do a day or so before AF comes and it's negative bi convince myself it's to early anyway 😂. So I just stopped because it was such a waste of time.

@Pricey1102 that's exactly how I was feeling this month. All of last weekend I was bloated and felt sick. It wore off a bit the last few days but for around a week now I've been sleeping minimum 10 hours a night so I convinced myself this was the month ☹️. One of my friends is nearly 12 weeks now and it's how she felt so fingers crossed for you 🤞

@MrsMeow2019 so May will be my first month of trying to stop myself. Previously I have tested from 9/10DPO but I'm going to try my best not to this month no matter what the signs are like. That's the plan in theory probably easier said than done x

Me and my husband have been TTC since November and I am exactly the same! I'm trying to stay optimistic but keep getting emotional. I am due on next week but it's like I'm torturing myself thinking that I'm pregnant! I've been feeling extremely tired and suffering with horrific bloating and not feeling well generally! This could just be feeling under the weather but it's like I convince myself that it isnt!

I've never done a frer before. Are they pretty good or not? I normally just buy cheap tests for a quid for 2 or something. Became obsessed with 'just checking'. Starting to wonder if me stressing over it is more hindering than anything. X

@Positevibes I’m sorry to hear about your chemicals, it must be a rollercoaster of emotions. I’ve been testing from about 8DPO alwsys negative and no good for my emotional wellbeing - I’m trying hard this month not to. I have 2 FRERs and am keeping them for 2 days before AF and day of AF... or at least that’s the plan 😆. How are you stopping yourself from testing early?

@slug123 it is nice to know there are others in the same place and not everyone is pregnant after looking at their partner ! I keep reading the statistics which isn’t helpful. 68% of women under 35 are pregnant by 3 months and 81% by 6 months. Starting cycle 10 and those numbers make me feel like it’s all a bit hopeless. But then there are lots stories of ladies getting their BFPs later ... I guess I juts need to learn to be patient 😆

@MrsMeow2019 thank you. I am, it's really nice to talk to people in the same situation. I knew it could take a while but didn't think it would take us this long. We're both fit and healthy but I guess I was just naive about it all.

@Positevibes I agree, I haven't tested at all unless AF is late which it rarely is. Think I've only done two tests since starting TTC.

We've tried so much too. DTD every day, every other day, pre seed, opks, no opks, apps, no apps! It's impossible haha!

@Sawiia @LAG1986 @dancingmama @marlie89 @MrsMeow2019 I've learnt the hard way that testing early is my enemy after 2 chemical pregnancies so I'm strictly staying away from peeing on any sticks until AF is late even if I have to sit on my hands x

@Sawiia Hi, I hope you’re feeling a little better. A pound of chocolate and a cup of tea help me 😆.

I’m 34, TTC Number 1 and onto cycle 10 now. I didn’t think it would happen straight away but to be honest don’t think I imagined it would take this long :(. And now the pandemic is here no chance of any investigations for a while so we are powering on and started SMEP this month.

DH very positive too, I do think it’s easier for them. Easier to be positive when it’s not on your mind every day :(.

Fingers crossed we will all get there 🤞 👶 🍼