TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

@Sallyjo27 oh that's good that you get symptoms. I dont think I get any! I'm going to try and see if I recall any once I knownI have ovulated xx

@2020wish it looks like it because thats quite a sharp rise! That is a good idea to do that!

@Sallyjo27 my BMI is 34. I agree with you both though it is difficult to know how active to be during those first three months. I think if I get BFP I will aim to do 10k steps a day and add in some pregnancy safe strength home workouts a couple of times a week and see how I feel.

I've never been told about the higher dose of folic acid! Xx

@2020wish, I know that feeling! After the MMC I couldn’t be bothered to cook so I think there was about 2 weeks where we just ate crap. My Bmi is around 37, Yes been taking it for around 3/4 months now. I’ve heard it can affect cycle but In my case I think not doing anything was harming my cycle more.

@sallyjo27 my bmi is 33. I never was this big but this year I dunno what happened lol are you taking the higher folic acid? 5mg prescribed by doctor?

I’m afraid to take up a now fitness regime while trying incase it has a negative affect. So conflicted.

@VP91x yes I do, a sharp pain on the side I assume I’m ovulating from. My boobs get firmer and I tend to be slightly bloated too. A lot like pms but milder 😩 What about you?
Does anyone else have an “above Average bmi?” My bmi is really high so this month I’ve pulled myself together started eating better and walking 4km a day ( I know it’s not much but from doing nothing before) both myself and DH are really trying, hoping it will help us convince.

So going by my chart and expecting that my temp will continue to stay up next two days, I can then assume ovulation happened yesterday when my temp dropped? I have to admit I haven’t been good getting temperatures at same time every morning but have been taking it after a good stretch of sleep and before I even open my eyes lol

Oh I know how you all feel ladies. I know once I get my BFP again I’ll have a fear and complete joy. But I’ll be testing constantly and being a total freak out pregnant bitch lol already warned my Dh lol and we have decided that once I get my positive I will take the first trimester off work to ensure my stress levels and activity levels are down as my job is very stressful and 13 +hours a days on my feet with minimal breaks

@Renna completely agree with you that if I get a BFP I will be so nervous all the time and a complete knicker checker addict! With my daughter I had a bleed at 8 weeks and everything was fine. Then obviously this time when I had the bleed it was a MC so you just never know!

I will ask for a scan at 6/7 weeks at the GP though and if they can't I will book privately. I couldn't wait for 12 week scan xx

@Sallyjo27 😂😂 same with my partner!
Hopefully you get your peak soon. Do you ever get ov pain or symptoms? Xx

Thank you we ended up having a cheeky bottle of wine and sat up a bit later watching a movie. But feeling a bit deflated today as we have currently been DTD in the morning when we wake up and DD who is 9 is still sleeping because it’s impossible to DTD with her about the house and with schools being off she’s up late at night. But this morning she woke at 6am straight in our room and looking to start the day. So now I’m anxious I haven’t got following my smep plan. I feel later tonight is too late If I ovulated yesterday, possibly the day before. Lol

@VP91x I’ve been following it this month too, DH has thought all his Birthdays have come at once 😂

@Hayleylou89 that’s awful! Hope you get your money back. I’ve been reading up on the Ava bracelets. They look fab but so expensive. I heard that someone had bought a bracelet off eBay and the person selling it reported it missing to Ava after the buyer received it (maybe for Insurance?) so the buyer wasn’t able to use it. Not sure if she got her money back or not.

@Hayleylou89 well yes that alternative would be amazing 😁🐶🌈 fingers crossed 🤞🤞 but I think Now I've had a couple of AFs I get pessimistic that it wont happen . Do you ever feel like that like ah it's never gonna happen. I felt like that the cycle I got pg last time I was just expecting af to come. Also I keep imagining when I do get BFP all I will feel is massive fear and feel sick about the thought of going to my first scan as that's where I found out, I'm just going to be a nervous scared wreck that it will happen again. I've never been to a scan and seen a heart beat so I just csnt imagine it. Just have bad memories/association with going to a scan now. And it's a long bloody wait to the first scan isnt it. Xx
Nah dont feel anything and the odd thing I feel I'm just ignoring as I'm only 5dpo so its unlikely related and last month I symptom spotted and obvs wasnt relevant , plus I didnt really get any symptoms before BFP last time that I noticed so just gotta ignore it and wait it out . App predicts af will come next Friday but based on my cycle length last month I think she could even arrive next Thursday

Looking out my office window its blue skies and sunny but its cold... deffo need to get out for a walk today. I didnt yday and may be why I'm feeling a bit rubbish today too ! Xx
Hope the sun makes an appearance up your way 🌞 xx

@Hayleylou89 ahh such a shame about your Ava! Do you get your money back when she has put in the claim? At least your cup has arrived let me know how you get on with it xx

Hey @Sallyjo27 glad you got your flashing smiley. Im on CD14 also on flashy still and my IC are still faint. Hoping today or tomorrow I peak! Following SMEP this cycle so will be DTD today anyway xx

@Renna aww thats a shame about ur pup :( but hopefully u will get ur bfp and be on cloud nine and have the best few weeks ever with the pup arriving too x

Have u felt any symptoms or not much yet? Xx

Dont know if the weathers rubbish where you are but it is here 🙄 and that doesnt help does it xx

@Hayleylou89 my online shopping habits are getting out of control these days 😂 what with TWWs , shopping for conception gadgets and lockdown .. and getting our new puppy! That's the thing as well we were supposed to be getting her next week but it's being delayed to the following week so thought I'd have our new pup to take my mind off things and AF due next week so I thought if Af comes wed have our puppy to brighten my days ! And occupy me with training her..
Glad your cup arrived :) sad times about the ava but you've been temping etc which is what it does ultimately so you know you're ovulating soon and you're DTD so that's the main thing :) let us know how you get on with the cup ! I may give it a go next cycle if not lucky this cycle. When I mentioned it to DH he was a bit like not sure you need that etc etc ... but we both want this .. so gets to a point where itll be like 4 months since MC next month so I'll say to him let's just give all these things a go 🤷‍♀️ may work may not but what's the harm in trying . Think he wants us to be more chilled about it as you hear that's when it happens for people ... but if these little things have worked for some people then why not ... xx

@Renna Ahh i know as much as u want to be in that tww its a long 2 weeks isnt it, I treated myself to some new trainers and gym leggings last night nike had 50% off members sale... maybe have a little online shop to take ur mind off things xx my ferti lily just arrived so im looking forward to trying that out later, thursday will be my 1dpo then i guess 🙏 x I take my seven seas & omega 3 so ill take calc fluor the same time, always take them after eating as one of them makes me feel sick if i have it before eating x the girl i ordered my ava off has put in a lost claim for it :( such a shame it never arrived i am gutted x

Hi all, hope your all okay! Congratulations to those who have had their BFP 🎉
I’ve been quite lately just waiting for my cycle to go back to normal, on CD 15 now and have got a flashing smilie. You swear I’d won the lottery how exited I got this morning 😂🙈 (I usually ovulate on CD18 so fingers crossed things are settling down). My IC is very faint though, has anyone else had this?

@misssoaps sorry for your loss xx fingers crossed for you xxx

@hayleylou89 yeah I'd start the calc fluor the day after it says you will ovulate so Thursday, mine didnt arrive until 2 days after ovualtion so just started it then, and the first couple of days I forgot to take the 2nd tablet 🙄 as it says take 2 a day.. so thought I'd spread them out rather than take them at once but probably no harm taking 2 at once I guess , but remembered yesterday to take both ! Xx
I'm having one of those days where I just feel deflated.. typical early TWW feeling I reckon ! Whens theres not much to do other than wait. Much prefer the fertile period you're in , feel more productive lol xxx

@Renna @2020wish hey girls so when do i start the calc fluor? Last night before bed i did another cheapy and iv never had one so dark before... so when is it likely ill ovulate would it be today or tomorrow ... my app says its tomorrow so will dtd tonight and again tomorrow but do i start the calc fluor thursday in that case? X First pic is last night and the second one is fmu today x

Hi, can I join? Recently miscarried, still currently bleeding, but would like to try again as soon as possible. It was en early loss so it hasn't been too bad psychically! I have 4 children already, and they were all conceived right after an early loss so I'm hopeful it won't take long.

Thanks @SmileyT will go again tonight after work 🙏 just got a text to say my ferti lily will be here before 10am today so will use that later too 🥰 xx

@ttcin2020 yeah there is every chance, especially if you know when you ovulated and DTD. Fingers crossed for you! Xx

@SmileyT @VP91x I guess it could be implantation.. I did have with the pregnancy I miscarried actually.. had it on the Monday morning and got my BFP on Wednesday evening (night shift).
It was tiny just like a tinged cm.. but I desperately don't want to get my hopes (impossible almost 🤣) so I've stuck a pad on and what will be will be.

I think I'll be relieved anyway as it's 7 weeks from my miscarriage so even if it's a period it's a fresh start so got to look at the positives!

Thanks for your positive thoughts 💖

@ttcin2020 if you're 10DPO then there isna chance it could be IB spotting? Was it alot? If you've had unsettled sleep and it is being up/down please don't torture yourself with it. All those things can affect your temps and RHR etc. so it won't be accurate. Xx

10dpo based on bbt and OPK.. (except for the Femometer app puts me at 9dpo) and woke up to brown tinge on the tissue when I wiped. 😭 I struggled my bbt with as I've had awful sleep the last 4 or 5 days so it's probably not accurate but had a jump in RHR and temp yesterday and a big drop this morning.
I knew I was too hopeful for the first month after a miscarriage.
Maybe June is a luckier month 🤞🏻