TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

Morning @Donnat89 👋🏻 CD24 here, about 6DPO... (7 days since getting a positive OPK). Been having mild cramping for a few days, which has been strange... I had a short cycle last month (24 days) but ovulated on CD13 then, so just hoping that because I ovulated later this cycle (on CD18) that it’ll still be a normal luteal phase 🤞🏻 I’m still taking 100mg of B6 every day so crossing everything for a BFP this month! 🤞🏻 This is my 4th full cycle since the MC in December, but 5th try as we starting trying again straight after the MC.

Morning @Donnat89 all OK here just waiting for AF to start. I had spotting/light flow a few days ago which I thought was the beginning but nothing since. On CD29 now which is the longest post MC cycle I have had. How are you? X

Morning how is everyone this morning? CD4 for me so I'm just waiting to start doing OPKS now ready to start again !

Wishing everyone luck this month ! X

Hi @Niisa it is positive that you got your cycle back on time post MC. It definitely is refreshing to get a new start and cycle. Glad you are feeling well x

Hey ladies! Moving over from the April thread. AF got me today but I’m actually really glad (sorry if that sounds insensitive). AF came bang on 4 weeks after MC, my cycles have always been regular. After over a week of brown discharge when wiping, I had the heaviest first day of AF.

Here’s to a new cycle, a new start and a shit load of BFPs in May for us all

@SmileyT
Thank you! The second one looks a tad faint compared to the top one so I'd say I've had my surge. Glad I caught it ☺️ being in isolation has definitely helped with dtd 😂
Fingers crossed it happens this month, although I'd be very lucky to seeing as I only had a MC just over two weeks ago but we can only hope and think positive!
Hope you're doing well with your journey ❤️

Hey ladies, quick question if somebody doesn't mind having a quick chat. I took these opk's today and got these results, top one is from around 2pm and bottom is from around 5.30pm. Would anyone say this is around positive?
The tests from when I last conceived look quite similar from the picture on my phone but without actually having them in front of me I can't tell 100%.
Me and OH have been dtd every other night because we just don't know when/if I get a positive, shall we start dtd every night for the next couple days now? Am I now in my fertile window?
I haven't got myself an app or anything because when I had my MMC I deleted it all out of grief and just haven't bothered getting another one until I've had my first AF.
Thanks in advance ☺️
Xx

Thanks

@VP91x and @SmileyT

I'm feeling positive, hopeful, terrified, anxious, but mainly excited. I'm looking forward to good stories here.

For me it's not getting the bfp so much, it's praying it's healthy once the 2 lines appear, as I hang on to them regardless! Xxx

@VP91x I'm really not sure if I'm honest lots of places say different things so just gonna see how next cycle goes xxx

@Donnat89 you might still get some spotting over the next day or so. It shouldn't be a concern though should it? I havent read up about short periods x

@VP91x yes I'm feeling ok slightly worried AF was so short as it's now
Completely stopped and CP is high can't even feel it , but will see what this cycle brings ! X

@Donnat89 nice that you have had a nice short time of it. How are you feeling?

@Kangaroo77 sorry that you had to make a decision to terminate for a second time. That cannot be easy at all. How are you? I hope that this cycle is kind to you and you get a BFP. Xx

Hello ladies,

Hope you don't mind me joining. Sorry to read all the recent losses :(

I terminated mid March at 16 weeks for Trisomy 9 and lots of abnormalities. It's my second termination for medical reasons in 4 pregnancies so quite unlucky! Both flukes and also several years apart (first baby had Trisomy 13). I seem to fall pregnant and hang on to babies, healthy or not. I've never miscarried, but getting to surgical termination stage is also really tough, so weirdly, I wish I could miscarry the unhealthy ones if that makes sense.

Just starting my first cycle post termination. I'm planning on trying after this but am naturally nervous. I'm 42 and I'm taking COq10 supplements for egg quality, vitamin D spray and prenatal jellies. Fingers crossed for us all xxxx

@Isittimeforbubblesyet thanks. I think I'll leave it til monday morning and phone if I'm still bleeding. She seemed pretty time at the sure that it was a complete miscarriage but also felt like I was being hurried out of the room too. I can kind of understand it, if I was a frontline worker I might be the same.

What happened when they found retained products? Did you need surgery?

@SmileyT I was similar, I was feeling a bit down as I thought I had tracked well etc etc, and I got so cross as my LH peaked, we dtd, then the next day my temp rose and LH dropped, and I was thinking, hang on, I’m meant to be most fertile the day of and after a peak and yet everything shows me I already ovulated!! So OH and I decided to chill on the tracking this month, and just dtd lots the week natural cycles says I’m most fertile but without actually tracking! That’s what we did the first time before mc, but post mc I have been so desperate I have been trying to monitor too much I think and making myself stressed!

@SmileyT @Renna I agree I really do want to enjoy the experience of hopefully getting pregnant soon. It will be so precious when it does happen so we should enjoy the journey if we can!! Trying to keep positive about everything.

@Semele5069 gosh, I am so incredibly sorry you have had two miscarriages. How are you? I think you should still try and speak to your GP. Regardless of COVID, you should still be listened to. It doesn't negate your current experience and what you are going through. Have you had any advice from your early pregnancy unit? X

Hello everyone

Can I join in the thread? I had a miscarriage in January at 7 weeks (first pregnancy) and just had another at 5.5 weeks. This one was easier I think because I hadn't got so excited and was trying not to think about it much until it got further along. Still had a day of crying and feeling v sorry for myself though! A bit worried now whether something is wrong but I don't think there's any point in trying to talk to my GP until after the lockdown. I'm going to try again asap and consoling myself that at least if I do have a third miscarriage in a row the GP will have to refer me for investigations when I see her. I find it really hard to feel hopeful at the minute though!

Morning ladies hope you are all well , CD3 today and AF seems to have pretty
Much stopped so super light one this time , but glad it's over .

Xxxx

@SmileyT thanks hun sending love to you too xx that's a good way of thinking about it all xx we were like that before MC but since MC it's like we avoid talking about baby names nursery etc and when we talk about having a baby we say IF we have a baby rather than when ... think we feel like were protecting ourselves mentally and protecting each other. Maybe we need to change this mindset and back to how we were before MC.
Yeah I dont know if DH has low sperm count maybe he does and that's why we got pg when we DTD less that month and not other months when weve done it a lot more. Could also ofc be a coincidence and something else I'm looking into too much xx
Funny how the men say come off MN lol I do get it but I actually feel like you're my friends . I've tried talking to some of my girls in my whqtsapp group about how I'm feeling but I barely get much of a response they just dont get it xx I'll probs come on here less but after chatting to some of you for like a month now I want to see you get your BFPs and share with you when I get mine 🌈💙 xx

AF has arrived today so its CD1 for me. It's my 5th since the MC so hoping it will be more 'normal' this month. I really want some blood tests done as I'm worried my hormones are not balanced but nothing will be done while covid-19 is about. Trying to naturally increase progesterone but I dont find it easy.

@SmileyT let me know how you go! Starting from the static face makes sense. I am due to ovulate on what would have been my due date but will try and make the best of the situation.

@Renna my temp dropped yesterday and then increased this morning so I only starting temping last month so will see what happens this cycle.

@nizo1245 sorry to hear about your loss. It's just such a horrible thing to go through. I was pretty much sent on my way after the MC was confirmed and told not to take a test for 3 weeks. It was negative but I was still bleeding and another scan confirmed I had 'retained products' (horrible term, sorry) so definitely call the doctor to help put your mind at rest

Hope everyone else is doing ok this morning