TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

@renna I can’t seem to find anywhere to buy those tablets. Online seems to be from India. Have you had any luck?

@Niisa stick with it xx I've had cycles in the past before MC where I got no flashing smileys then all of a sudden got a static and my cycles were around 28 days and I had a peak day on cycle day 16 before xx hope you get it soon xxx

Hey babe @Hayleylou89 yeah got my static last night xx yeah I sometimes start the CB a day or 2 after it tells me too. You're doing the cheapies so that'll pick up on it too xx was it you who mentioned Calcarea Fluorica or was it @smileyT? Xxx

How r are u ladies?

@renna have u had ur static yet? Xxx

I start my cb tomorrow although not expecting a static until next weekend so Dnt know whether to delay starting my cb until maybe sunday and just do cheapies and monitor it from them starting off.

Hey ladies! Hope you’re all well! FX for you all 💕

Still getting ⭕️ on the OPKs and it’s CD13 today! I have a very regular cycle of 28/29 days so surprised I’m still getting negatives. I even bought the CB advanced digital which tells you your 4 most fertile days. But I’ve not been DTD this cycle, fasting means we can only DTD at night and I’m usually exhausted by then. Was hoping to just DTD on my most fertile days buutttt think I may have missed it. I’m also not always testing at the same time - who knew not peeing for 4 hours was so hard!!
Really wanted to follow the SMEP this cycle but it’s been impossible with Ramadan - I just go into a food coma after breaking my fast loool

@Renna I have seen it being talked about but not done any research on it xx

I've seen ladies say it helps with implantation. I saw it on a you tube video this morning about what you can do in the TWW . Xxx I've ordered some coming saturday just wondered if any one used /uses it who has more info:) xx

@2020wish yes absolutely, it is so important to take the right time to work through our feelings after things like this. Especially with everything going on.

Yeah it gives me insights quite often when I log info etc. No idea if my temps are fluctuating too much, but I think you see a sharp rise post OV from what I have read so I'm assuming I will clearly be able to see that which is mainly what I want to know anyway. Xx

@VP91x thank you. Yes i think I’m going to be better asking for the time off as I wouldn’t be safe in work looking after my patients and running a team I feel like I just want to lay low for a bit. I’ve dropped off the face of the earth to a lot of friends, most of them know what’s happened and are trying to be supportive but I hate answering the texts asking how am I doing. Im hoping I fall pregnant again soon to help lift me out of this phase as I think it’s all that’s gonna make me feel better.

I haven’t went into the interpretation part I didn’t even know it existed lol will check it out now

@renna thanks for showing me urs, I’m sure I’ll see a pattern at some point lol 😆 never heard of that? What is it I’m open to trying everything and anything lol

Who is using Calcarea Fluorica ?
Been looking into it a bit. Whether to take in TWW but feel like theres not that much info out there about it. Says can help with implantation but also wanna make sure it's not gonna be harmful in any way like altering cycles xx says it's a natural mineral.

Hey hun @2020wish yup deffo know what you mean about up and down days xx only natural I guess what weve been through xxx I did BBT last month and got dip for ovulation so assured me I'm ovulating and then not bothered with temping this month . I think it's good to confirm you're ovulating. When I started I did think the temps were erratic and I was like is there any point but then by the end I did actually see a theme and I wasnt that strict usually within a few hours of the same time each morning. Xx

@2020wish I had about 2 weeks off completely after the MC was confirmed and then for about 6 weeks I was on reduced hours. I would only do 6hrs a day and that felt overwhelming as it was. I dropped off the face off the earth at work so everyone knew something had happened, but obviously not what so that was hard. Everyone trying to be nice and ask if I was OK etc. Definitely ask for more time, it is such a process. I would have been due on July 14th and I know that is going to be a tough day. Just hoping I will be pregnant by then to help ease it a bit.

That is a screenshot of mine so far this month. Have you been on that page where it tells you your intepretation so far? Xx

I just feel like I should be giving myself a shake and forgetting it but I can’t :( how long did u take off work? My doctor gave me a sick line for 2 weeks but dated from the Friday before I had the confirmed mc on scan so really I’ve just had under a week and a half from I really found out and it being the second time in a row I’m so deflated. I’m ringing to ask for a 4 weeks sick line from tomorrow

I’ve left it in an hour and then removed it and some nights I’ve fallen asleep with it in lol just depends really

My app hasn’t really said anything about my recording times. Should it? Here is a pick so far of my chart (I think I should be ovulating this weekend. Well I hope

@2020wish ah sending you a massive hug, I was a mess for 8 weeks after my MC. Affected my job, etc. Went on reduced hours for a bit. It's so natural. Let yourself feel everything you need to and try and see what works for you to help yourself feel a little better.

It was a little bit odd 😂 I wasn't sure if it was in right at first. Tomorrow I might be better at doing it. Haha, so funny about your partner. Do you just kept it in for the hour or have you left it in overnight?

I do my BBT between 05:10-5:45 according to my app depending on what time I wake up. What is it telling you about your measuring habit? I reckon you're still likely to see a shift in temperature post ovulation,but it's my first month doing it so I am not too sure. Xx

How are all you ladies? Sorry I’m just popping on and off. I’m finding I’m having good days and bad days after my MC. Still so down it happened. Anyone else?

@VP91x glad to see you ordered the cup. How you finding it lol my partner DTD with me then jumps up and grabs my cup said I need it in straight away lol 😂 I’m surprised he hasn’t tried putting it in for me.

I’m using the fermometer bbt and opks. So far I haven’t got my peak so I’m starting to panick. I’m testing roughly 3 times a day and also using CB digital. Also with temping how accurate are you u being? At the beginning I was really good and setting my alarm for 6am and temping straight away but with my partner back at work his alarm is going off at 4am and waking me up so some days I am temping then as soon as I open my eyes or some days I hadn’t had a good 3 hour stretch of sleep by the time 4 or 6am comes (partner snoring) so I’m going back to sleep as soon as he leaves for work and then taking my temp after a stretch of proper 3 hour sleep.

Am I wasting my time and probably best not temping at all?

@Renna yeah definitely love having these chats to be able to talk about it!

Yeah I have the femometer OPKs too, have been doing CB in the morning and afternoon Femometer. Might add one more OPK to the evening to see line progression. X

@VP91 dont worry were all crazy hahah. It makes you feel crazy all this and think were allowed to be crazy 😁👌 at least we can share these mad things with each other if I spoke to my mates about stuff like this they would certainly think I had lost it.
Do you have cheapies too? As I got flashing smiles for 4 days (5 including yday morning but then got static at night ) so can add up using the expensive sticks on all those days ! I wouldnt have missed it any way if I didnt do a CB at night as would have got the static this morning but then I guess its handy to know that my peak was actually yday rather than thinking it was today. Xx

@Renna that was meant to say when my partner got up to go to the loo!

@Renna Oh that's a good! Yeah I will probably do an evening one once I get my flashing smileys then!

Haha yeah, maybe he knows all my secrets and doesn't say anything 😂😂 hopefully you don't need anything after this month!

I had it next to my pillow and when got up after to go to the loo I just popped it in quickly. Haha, I sound so crazy 😩😂 xx

Haha @VP91x or maybe I could do what you just said you do and not tell DH ... haha 😂👌 just pop to the bathroom after DTD and POP in the cup lol.
The other day when he started sying about his bad back I was like well maybe I SHOULD have got one of those cups !! Give me your donation and I pop it in 😂😂 so bad isnt it! Literally a transaction . When I was reading reviews about those cups that is literally how same sex couples use it to get pg . 😂👌 xx

Oo thanks @SmileyT I may look at that one deffo need something for TWW as found it hard last cycle ! I did this one this morning. Was good ..

Deffo loving your calm vibes trying to feed off it haha and thinking like you about thinking of the long haul like... I'd like to be pg in a few months. Rather than expecting it to happen every month. We started TTC sept 2019 and sept 2020 was when our due date should have been.. so August latest would be a nice point for me too . 🤞🌈 xx

@VP91x I did my second CB at like gone 10pm but I couldve done it earlier but I drank a lot so I thought I'd wait but I done 3 cheapies earlier in the day as I saw the line getting darker and pretty much got a peak on that but wanted to confirm with the CB and so it would connect to my app too and register it. Once i saw the cheapie line get dark I done the second CB other wise I wouldn't have done it and just done the CB in the morning xx
I may try the cup next cycle if no luck even though DH probs thinks its not needed but he has that attitude with everything I introduce haha at first when I was using the CP lube he was like oh really... but this morning we DTD before he went to work and he was like get the lube haha. Hope its given you a helping hand this month 🤞🌈 xx and hopefully I wont actually need it next month 🤞🤞 xx

I didnt either @Rainbowhope11 until it was mentioned on the thread a few pages back! There were two that came up most popular. Soft cups which are diposable (on Amazon) and the ferti-lily which I got. Quite interesting!

I know yeah you end up with alot of stuff 😂
My partner knows I bought the preseed but I have never told him I have actually used it. Didn't bother to tell him I was using the cup either, he will just say I'm crazy. Haha. He just sees all the tests. X

@VP91x thanks for reminding me about increasing water intake! I really need to do that too! Ooh I need to do some research on those fertility cups. Haven't heard about them up until now. I may have to get myself one too! I feel like I'm trying so many different things, I may drive myself insane 😂🤣

@Rainbowhope11 ah, that's a good point actually! Thw ferti-lily cup I am now using keeps everything up there after DTD.so i am sure I can check like the afternoon next day etc. Need to up my water over the next few days but then don't want to dilute my wee for my tests. It's such a balancing act 😂

@SmileyT baby hotel, love that.

@VP91x I used preseed the cycle I got pregnant, so I'm planning on using it going forward now 😊 I noticed that preseed doesn't stretch like EWCM so you can probably differentiate between the two by trying to stretch your cm between your fingers (waaaaay tmi 😂) but also, I don't think it stays up there very long, so if you try and check cm after a couple of hours after using it, it shouldn't affect anything, unless you've fallen asleep after dtd, then maybe it will still be up there?