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TTC after miscarriage - May 2020

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SmileyT · 19/04/2020 07:44

I'm CD1 of cycle 2 TTC #1 so thought I'd start a new thread for anybody in the same situation who didn't get their April BFP.

I had a MMC found on a scan at 9.5weeks after seeing HB at 7 weeks 🙁 I had SMM on the 19th March but no luck in my first month and AF got me today. Normal cycles are 28days so I hope to be testing around the 20th May. This month I will be tracking ovulation using CB connected and trying out Preseed for the first time hoping this helps towards my 🌈 but tonight I'll just be having a G&T 💁🏾‍♀️

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Dipsy77 · 10/05/2020 05:48

@smileyt my symptoms so far have been twinges and cramps, stabbing pains in my boobs extremely tired and bigger appetite although I have a 7 month old who is teething so I'm not getting much sleep at the minute so all my symptoms could be related to my little teething monster x

2020wish · 09/05/2020 23:40

@Hayleylou89 yes I took both digital and cheapie and both negative and then then at 16:20
I took a cheapie and it was a high (not a peak on digital intelligence in app) but took a digital in same sample and that came up peak static smiley face x

Hayleylou89 · 09/05/2020 23:23

@2020wish just wondering did u have the circle on cb this morning then went straight to peak this afternoon? Xx

SmileyT · 09/05/2020 20:00

@Isittimeforbubblesyet it may appear in the next couple of days and you may have a random 30 day cycle, try not to stress about it - although I know that is easier said than done ❤️

@Mommybear05 ahh so testing end of next week, exciting 🙌🏾 I think it's totally normal to be a bit agitated by people asking about another child. My mum is always quizzing me about it and honestly makes me feel like poop but I also know she is just desperate for a granddaughter and doesn't really mean any malice by it. You were doing so well staying positive so don't let this bring you down.

@2020wish glad that your peak arrived, you will probably see a shift in your BBT on Monday morning, confirming ovulation on Sunday 👌🏾 the apps normally work out a cover line for you aswell and confirm it

@Dipsy77 hey cycle twin 👋 what symptoms have you noticed? I've had loads of twinges and CM today but when I've looked at my app notes from this time last cycle I had exactly the same so feeling a bit bleurgh about it 😩 so random that Ovia has recommended testing later for me but maybe it thinks I've got a longer LP 🤷🏾‍♀️ Wednesday testing... ahh I'm excited already for you

@Renna you are so right about not knowing peoples stories sometimes, a girl I used to work with posted her 12week announcement on insta and I just felt very deflated then I read the blurb and it said 'people don't know what we've been through this year but this is a light at the end of the tunnel' and she had #rainbowbaby and #miscarriageawareness and it really made me think that so much goes on behind closed doors and we don't always know how much others have been through

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HE88 · 09/05/2020 19:57

Aw @2020wish that must be hard going having to listen/read about their journey, you would think they would be a bit more sensitive, but like @Renna says people don't understand until they have went through it. Well in saying that one of my sister in laws who has suffered a MC herself told us when she was 7 and half weeks cause she got an early scan and it was 3 weeks since my MC. At the time I didn't really think anything of it but now that I've had time to think about why didn't she just wait until she was a bit further on to tell us. Xx

Renna · 09/05/2020 18:44

@2020wish that's hard going hun. Luckily I dont have any close friends pg ... yet ... I keep thinking about one of them announcing it I'd find it so so hard. Does seem unfair they're not considering how thats going to make you feel listening to all that. I dont think people understand until its happened to them xx it will happen for you soon babe xxx until then you have us xx

2020wish · 09/05/2020 18:35

@HE88 @Renna glad I don’t feel alone. A lot of my friends are pregnant. Really close ones and they were so excited that I was joining the journey with them and now I feel like I’ve to avoid them all cause it kills me everything they are texting about their pregnancy symptoms or appointments and due dates even tho they know I’ve just mc less than 2 weeks ago

Renna · 09/05/2020 18:05

Glad you got your peak @2020wish

@Mommybear05 @HE88 I know what you all mean. I've been feeling positive about things but then just hit me this afternoon.. saw a pg announcement of an old friend on fb . My heart sank too. I feel like pissed off and angry more than sad this PM .. frustrating . Makes you go through all sorts of emotions. But again I expected her to be pg years ago as she got married years ago and thought they would have a kid sooner so never know their story and what theyve been through too . And people may view us that way one day I guess . Xxx

Dipsy77 · 09/05/2020 17:32

@SmileyT cycle twin how's it going ? Have you started symptom spotting yet ?, I'm trying not to but I've had a few but that's probably because I've been thinking about it my Ovia app is also telling me to test in 4 days so I think I probably will although it's an awful feeling when you get the stark white negative x

HE88 · 09/05/2020 17:26

Thanks @VP91x I'm doing fine xx

HE88 · 09/05/2020 17:25

@Mommybear05 tbh I'm just trying to forget about it not sure how I'll be when the babies are born though as they are due pretty close to when I would have been due.
I know people don't mean anything by it, it's just a passing comment they make. Xx

VP91x · 09/05/2020 17:22

@2020wish ah amazing so you went from low to peak too? Happy BD! ☺️☺️

@Mommybear05 ah, thats why people should never ask when you're having a baby regardless of whether you have none or 4 children already! You never know the situation.

@HE88 hope you are also feeling okay. So hard to be genuinely happy for other people when you're still dealing with everything. Sending you a big hug xx

Mommybear05 · 09/05/2020 17:21

@he88 yes I think I do remember you saying that. That must be tough being so close to home. I’m kind of avoiding pregnant friends. Just can’t deal. The neighbours daughter I don’t know so well so it doesn’t really bother me, until I get asked when we’re having another 🙈 and then it stings! But people mean nothing by it. Xx

HE88 · 09/05/2020 17:17

@2020wish it's such a horrible feeling I guess we just need to try and keep positive and hope that our time will come. Also realise that it's ok to feel sad/angry about other people's announcements, after all we are only human. Xx

2020wish · 09/05/2020 17:09

@HE88 I know actually how u feel, I’m heart scared of any of my family or friends announcing pregnancies before me as I will be heart broken. I’ve a feeling my sister will :( I seen a girl in shops today with a baby bump and my heart sank

HE88 · 09/05/2020 17:01

@2020wish ah that's fab you got your peak happy dtd. I'm not sure about bbt sorry as I don't temp. Xx

HE88 · 09/05/2020 16:59

@Mommybear05 I'm still in the zone that I can't bare to hear news about other people's pregnancies. I'm not sure if I've mentioned this but both my sister in laws are pregnant one from hubby's side and the other on my side. When I found out it was my heart had been totally ripped out. Anyway I am slowly coming to terms with it but today my brother text today to say that they are having a boy which is lovely but it still hurts 😔 so I totally get what you mean about sore spots xx

2020wish · 09/05/2020 16:47

Never mind my rant this morning about never thinking I was going to ovulate this month. Got my peak there now on cheapies and digital from like 0 this morning. Never been so happy 😁 when should I start to see a change in the bbt?

TTC after miscarriage - May 2020
Mommybear05 · 09/05/2020 16:08

@Isittimeforbubblesyet hi :) yes sometimes it’s nice to take a break and staying away from the phone definitely helps with that! Your luteal phase needs to be ten days for implantation I think so you still have time :) fingers crossed for you too.

@SmileyT apprently af is due 15th but it’s telling me to test in three days. I won’t be testing in three days! I’ll test after the 15th if we get that far!

So girls as we know I’m all feeling positive this month. And thEn today I find out neighbours daughter expecting twins (lovely 😊) but then they’re like ‘oh when will you have more? You don’t want to leave it too long!’ People are unaware of my sore spots! I’m still trying not to let it get me down though! It will happen when it happens 😊

Isittimeforbubblesyet · 09/05/2020 14:55

Hi ladies,

I hope you are all well. Sorry it's been a while but have been trying to manage my anxiety in the evenings so have been keeping away from my phone.

Having a quick read through, it looks like there have been a few BFP's which is great! These stories really do give me hope.

I'm currently on CD15 with flashing smileys for the past 3 days. Getting a bit stressed now as I usually have a 28/29 cycle so was thinking ovulation would have happened by now. Not having much luck on the cheapies either so am worried it might not even be in with a chance this month Confused

Lots of luck to those on the 2WW or coming up to their fertile week!

Renna · 09/05/2020 14:42

I'm purposely buying the small bottles of wine ... if I bought the big ones I'd drink it all 😂

SmileyT · 09/05/2020 13:21

@Bellabubble so the peak should be approx 12-36hrs before ovulation so you'll probably ovulate today or tomorrow 🙌🏾 the lh will stay in peoples systems for different amount of times so I think you are supposed to start the 36hr clock from first peak regardless of whether the next test is a peak. Then you have max 24hrs after ovulation so i'd say by midnight on Monday it will definitely be over but could be as early as Sunday evening. DTD when you can but definitely not worth giving DP a complex about performance to get an extra one in. Always best to check with BBT and then you can gain an idea on how long it is from peak to ovulation for you xx

@Mommybear05 my Ovia is telling me to test in 6 days but predicting period in 10 days - is your AF due around 14th then? i wish my body stopped responding positively to alcohol first couple weeks after MC I was 90% wine 😂

@VP91x glad it's not just me that loves a bottle, I stopped when I was pg and it wasn't an issue but once I start I just want to keep going 🙈

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VP91x · 09/05/2020 12:55

@SmileyT definitely also partial to a bottle 😂

VP91x · 09/05/2020 12:55

Ah @Mommybear05 I hope this week goes super quick for you!!

@Bellabubble so pleased for you that you got your peak! DTD when you can and fingers crossed! I don't think the time of day matters? Xx

Mommybear05 · 09/05/2020 12:24

@SmileyT partial to a bottle haha. Honestly I couldn’t. Two glasses of wine and I’m sick! But one is nice for me. Yes it’s that fourth week of waiting that’s tricky. Ovia is telling me to test before af is due for some reason. I’m not going to. Af due Friday so I’ve got a weeks wait ahead 🙄 xx

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