May Bus

Morning ladies. I need someone to tell me off. All I did last night was dream about getting a BFP so when I got up this morning I caved and tested. I'm 8DPO today so obviously it was a very clear BFN. Now I'm mad at myself as I KNOW 8DPO is way too early to test. I didn't get my BFP till 11DPO last time and it's just a waste of a test and guaranteed disappointment as now I feel like I'm definitely not pregnant when the fact is I still could be. So for anyone tempted to test super early, let me be the example not to. It's almost guaranteed disappointment and certainly won't make you feel any better.

@Julia529 Welcome and sorry to hear about your wedding! Such a shame you've had to postpone but hopefully you'll have baby number two on the way when you do get married!

@Dreaming101 Hi 😊. I use CB digital OPK and you stop testing after peak so don't have any advice on a second surge but I'm soooo with you on the worrying over every little detail. Honestly no one tells you TTC messes with your head so much! I'm 8DPO today so think we're at the same point! There's a good few of us all within a couple of days of each other so hopefully we're in for a flood of BFPs end of this week and beginning of next! Are you sure about when your AF is due and how many DPO you are? Like @SmileyT said it's unusual to have a 9 day luteal phase so maybe your dates could be a little off?

@lt01234 Welcome and I'm glad you found us! No one understands the mind fuck that is TTC unless they're going through it so you'll get lots of support and no judgement here 😊. Omg a 70 day cycle sounds a nightmare! Mine were always a set 28 days before my miscarriage and they've been 33 the last few months and those extra 5 days have really annoyed me so I can't imagine how frustrating it must be for you. I'm with you on the early testing, it's just so hard to wait when you desperately want to know one way or the other. I'm mad at myself for testing this morning but honestly it would have played on my mind all day so at least I can forget about it now. Fingers crossed this is your month!

@KRK05 well at least the old witch has finally shown up! I totally get what you're saying, you spend the first few weeks of a cycle praying AF stays away but once you're sure you're not PG you just want her to show up so you can start a fresh cycle. Fingers crossed the June bus is your ticket to a BFP. Stick around here too and let us know how you're getting on 😊

@J0DI3 I'm super impressed by your resolve after I caved this morning 😂. Only a couple more days and then hopefully you'll have some good news!

@DKDK123 Oh it's not unreasonable for you to be mad at all. I'd have smacked my DP awake and told him to suck it up and get on with it 😂. Honestly though it's totally reasonable. Men don't get it, my OH just thinks TTC is great as he gets loads of sex. It's not as all consuming for them, they're not thinking 'am I pregnant, what's that twinge mean, do I feel queasy' every day like we are. And frankly they're less clued up. I swear my OH thought it was as simple as if you have unprotected sex you get pregnant. He had no idea it had to be times correctly and even of you do everything right the odds are still against you. They don't understand how frustrating it is to be doing EVERYTHING you can with tracking etc to give you the best shot and then have them muck it up because they're tired. Maybe explain to him how important it is that you're DTD at the right time? But definitely don't feel bad for being angry, I'd have been raging 😂

Just need to vent ladies and I know you guys will understand!
So after it being pointed out to me yesterday that I may very well have had an early ovulation sunday evening I thought we'd best DTD last night to make sure we're not missing a prime opportunity. Half way thru my DH took cramp in his leg so we stopped till it subsided now I fully expected us to get back to it....... but he fell asleep!!!! Actually just lay there fuming all night while he snored away. I know I'm being unreasonable to feel mad at him it's not his fault he got cramp and he'd just worked 12 hours so was shattered but the neurotic baby making side of me just wanted to cry at the missed opportunity. I know itll sound crazy and selfish if I vented anyone else but you guys would understand the frustration!
Ah this baby making journey turns us all crazy doesnt it, why do we do it to ourselves!?

@KRK05 AF sucks but welcome to day 1 of a new opportunity :)

@Julia529 sorry to hear about your wedding, shall keep my fingers crossed you get your baby wish instead 🤞

@SmileyT I’m feeling okay this morning. I was very tempted to test but resisted the urge. It’s 2 days until AF is due so want to wait until then as I’m currently 12dpo. Will just have to wait and see what happens!

@Dreaming101 how many DPO was you last month when your period arrived? Expecting AF at 8dpo is very early, most people have a 10-16 day luteal phase (part after ovulation) your cycle length wont always be the same but your luteal phase should be so if it was 14dpo that your period arrived last month then it would be due in about 6 days this month, if that makes any sense?

@J0DI3 how are you feeling this morning? Hope AF stayed away xx

Welcome @lt01234 must be so annoying with such long cycles but at least you didn't miss ovulation, less than a week to go until you can test 🙌🏾

@KRK05 I'm glad it's arrived for you and you can finally start on CD1, will be good to use your opks and confirm ovulation aswell, I've just bookmarked the June bus so I may see you over there next week xx

@KRK05 I'm sorry to hear that! Ate least you have a fresh point to start from and can look forward to the next month! I wish you so much luck and baby dust 🌌

Well that's me started my AF tonight girls, cant even say how happy I am 😁😁 sounds stupid being happy AF coming but its cause I know I wasnt getting that BFP so the wait was now just irritating me & making me stressed 🙈 so that's me now fully on the June bus but I will keep a check on this thread, I hope all of u get your BFP 💜

@ lt01234 I am the same, I think AF is due tomorrow and have had some cramps/discomfort😞. I really didn’t realise how difficult it could be to get Pregnant!

Hi everyone, I hope you don’t mind me joining, I have been looking for a thread like this everywhere! We have been ttc for months but I have really irregular cycles (last month my cycle was 70 days long and I think I missed an ovulation completely 😩!) I am tracking cycles by taking bbt and using ovulation tests and according to the both ovulated last wednesday on the 6th which means af should be due on the 20th, making me 5dpo. I’m having lots of period like cramps but that could be due to anything! I have promised myself i’m not going to test until at least 12dpo this cycle as I always go crazy with testing too early and it gets so expensive and is so disheartening to keep getting bfn’s. Good luck to you all, hopefully May will be our month 🤞🏻💕🌈

@J0DI3 I think the waiting for AF to arrive is one of the worst feelings 😞

Oh guys! I have AF cramping going on now... very dull cramps and the odd shooting pain like I usually get when I’m due on! 🙄

@SmileyT I’m around 7 DPO if the app/testing sticks were correct. Think I’ve ovulated late at day 21. I had a 28 day cycle last month. Good old aunt flow is due tomorrow. Not sure if to leave testing a bit longer fort cycles to return.
Aw @kodasmom I’m so glad I’m not alone in my craziness 🙈

Hi @Dreaming101 and @julia529 I’m new to this all too but I’ve found reading through threads really helpful and it makes me feel less crazy haha. Let’s hope we can all keep each other sane on our journeys ☺️

@Dreaming101 where are you in your cycle now? Mine stayed high(according to femometer app) for about 7 days after ovulation and but dropped to pretty much zero the last couple days but expecting to see it go up again before AF if it's like last month. You are definitely not the only one worrying about everything and anything it's not as easy as I imagined it would be 🙈 xx

@SmileyT it’s a relief in someways to know that I’m not the only one. I’m also new to all this TTC business so I think I’m worrying over everything and anything. My LH hasn’t really dropped since my peak which I find odd x

@Julia529 one of my friends is due to get married in September and is still adamant it will happen, so hopefully you'll be all good in October 🙏 I think ovulation sticks are good if you have erratic cycles and are unsure when you are ovulating but regular sex throughout your cycle also works 🙂

@Dreaming101 yep last month I had a lh surge the day before my period... wasn't as strong as peak but pretty strong considering it had been zero before that x

1st official month of TTC. Stopped the pill middle of March so have tried to allow my body time to adjust. I’m already obsessed with ovulation sticks. Has anyone experienced a second LH surge right before AF is due to arrive? Both cheap sticks and clear blue picked it up

Thank you @SmileyT
We’ve provisionally booked for October this year but who knows what will happen in the coming months if that will go ahead or if we will have to postpone to next year 🤷🏼‍♀️😩 I haven’t been using OPK’s just going off CM and DTD every other day during fertile window. By reading all the posts on here I think if AF turns up this month I will try out testing next month to make sure I can get more accurate timings for ovulation 🤞🏼

Welcome to the madhouse @Julia529 sorry you had to put off your wedding have you picked a date for next year? Have you gone mad on the tracking yet? Or just going for the regular sex plan? Hope we can help you get through the next few days waiting on your CB? Xx

Hey ladies

I’m new here! I must say reading through all your comments it does help me feel like I’m not alone in all the crazy symptom spotting etc! Congratulations to all you ladies who already have their BFP!
We have been TTC now on cycle #2. We were due to get married this month and since lockdown began and with the realisation of putting off the wedding it just made me want to start a family even more! This month I have been noticing twinges and dull aches in my lower abdomen since 4/5 DPO and slight nausea from 7DPO seems to come on quickly then disappear when I eat something. I think I’m 10DPO today and did a cheap One Step test this morning but got a BFN.. I have ordered some CB’s but AF due Friday and honestly the tests can’t come soon enough! 😁

Girls I just wanted to show why I wouldn't advise the cheap one step tests from Amazon, they are recommended to be 10miu sensitive and the other test in the pic (purple lid) is a 20miu sensitivity......
Dipped into same sample!

@Kodasmom did you test last month? Erm I think I'll just take it day by day, I'm not going to say definitely not but I do want to try and wait until I'll get a definite result and not be trying to find a really faint line as think it would stress me out.

@Noble89 haha I've done fuck all today, not because I didn't have stuff to do but I just couldn't be arsed, plus we are changing our rates tomorrow so I'll just have to amend everything tomorrow anyway 🤷🏾‍♀️ yeah I'm 9dpo and the more BFPs I see the more I think maybe it could happen to me, really hope we both get them, even though it's only the first full month this time I feel like we deserve it 😂

@KRK05 I've been using the cheap strips every day just to see what happens throughout cycle they are only £10 for 50 so nearly 2 months worth and I read some peoples body's try and ovulate twice so didn't want to miss that if it happened. So definitely keep going with them, I do them when I get in from work everyday 👌🏾 I've read a lot on MN that people have had delayed ovulation due to lockdown but no idea if that is based on any fact

@SmileyT I think that's what's bugging me cause it's not 'normal' for me to be this late. My luck I probably ovulated just before I started doing my OPKs cause seems I have no luck atm 🤷🏼‍♀️ when I'm putting them in Femometer there high like vary between 14-32 nowhere near peak though obviously, I've had one low one which was today's. I honestly feel like giving up but I'm trying to stick it through cause if I miss ovulation then its gonna be like a whole other month to wait to even start tracking again so I'm needing some patience & dedication 🙈🤞🏻

@Noble89 oh hopefully it’ll be BFP for both of us!! Are you having any symptoms? If I had cheap tests I would totally be POAS right now but I’ve only got clear blue and my DH won’t let me waste them 😂

@EllieJai44 ahhh that's a fab line! I'm.sp happy for you and looks like a sticky bean from that nice strong positive! I very well may crack and tell my parents earlier but I'm going to try not to. I think it would be nice to surprise them with the 8 week scan and be able to reassure them everything is fine after last time.

@J0DI3 fingers crossed they come quick! I couldn't keep mouth shut last time but will try to this time 😂

@KRK05 how frustrating AF just hasn't shown! At least you can start tracking straight away and onto a new cycle I guess! Unless you're just going to get a super late BFP as it definitely does happen! Do you know for sure when you ovulated this cycle?

@Kodasmom welcome! You're a day ahead of me and I'm soooo with you on the urge to POAS. I'm determined to hold out till 10DPO so only 3 more sleeps and hoping I can make it. If you test Thursday we'll be testing buddies!

@DKDK123 CD12 is still early! I got high fertility on clear blue OPK from CD10 this month but didn't ovulate till CD16 so you have time.

@SmileyT yes I'm feeling good today. I've been swamped at work and haven't even had a lunch break yet so it's flyiyby at least. Those are good signs! I tested at 9DPO my last pregnancy with those exact symptoms and got a BFN but then got my BFP 2 days later. I always felt queasy, like 24/7 from 9DPO but I never actually threw up. It's so hard to resist testing when you know others have had a BFP at the same stage. Keep going just even a couple more days of you can. Are you 9DPO now?