3dpo and looking for TTC friends

Thank you @Lolliloo1234 and @mrsmummy111 it's good to hear we are not alone.

@Wineandrun just taking each month as it comes really. Some are better than others. I find it particularly hard after family events (obviously not currently an issue) and when it feels like everyone around me is conceiving.

I really struggled when all of the results came back ok and due to funding we were discharged from the hospital after nearly a year of waiting and tests. I almost hoped there was a reason for it!

Thank you for the advice @Sammyclaire22 everything is crossed for you x

Balls I just wrote a long reply and it all deleted!
Basically it was welcome @justacouplettc, we've had months of failure to deposit and its not easy. After talking it through I've made more effort to jump his bones for him rather than for baby making or I've said it's too early or late for my fertile window so he's not thinking about finishing adn we've had some days I've said we will only play and not actually have penetration then once we are into it he decides he wants to. Then if he can't finish I can say we'll we were never going to in the first place so we or i can finish by hand and when he sees I don't mind he often then perks up again. Sorry if tmi...!

Sending lots of love @lolliloos1234 I remember clearly the night after my surgery and although our diagnosis was different I know the feeling of wondering if I will ever be a mum, missing my baby and what the future will hold. All I can offer is love and hope that the end is never the end.

My lines are darker today--this is 10dpo vs 12dpo today. Starting to feel sick now too along with the tiredness so it's a good sign. Trying not to get too excited yet though.

Wow that is some journey @justacouplettc!

The road is rarely a smooth one but you sound very much like you're focussing on the positives, which is amazing. Also what you describe about your partner I think is incredibly common. We have discussed it on this thread before about the pressure on the man, and I've found with DH that it very much affects him sometimes too. In guess in terms of actually "TTC", the women have the relatively easy job. We don't have to enjoy it, let's face it. Whereas....they do (if they want to get the job done!)

Best of luck to you, we're all in this together!

Ps - still thinking of you @Lolliloo1234 and hoping you're doing ok

As predicted, AF is here. CD28 which is fine but according to CB sticks I ovulated day 17 which gives me an 11 day luteal phase, that seems a bit short doesn't it?! X

Welcome @justacouplettc! It sounds like you’ve been on quite a ride. How have you dealt with it over the years? Fingers crossed for you this month, do you test or just wait for AF?

@Lolliloo1234 thinking of you xxxxx

Thank you @mrsmummy111. We have had months when we I haven't tracked etc but it still hasn't happened unfortunately.

We have had all the tests, investigative procedures which all came back clear/good so we were diagnosed unexplained infertility.

During our time ttc my partner has started to have issues finishing - delayed ejaculation so that has also been an added hurdle.

There isn't any nhs funding in our area so we are currently weighing up options and continuing to try naturally/home insemination methods.
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Welcome @justacouplettc

Of course! The more the merrier. Lovely supportive bunch here. Sorry it's taking such a long time for you, can I ask if you've been TTC the whole 4 years or had it been more on / off trying? Best of luck for this month!

Hey,

I hope you don't mind me joining your chat. I have just read through all the previous posts, @Lolliloo1234 I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

I am currently in my tww, we have been trying for just over 4 years. You would think I would be more used to all the waiting really.

I look forward to following all of your journeys 🤞

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Nothing anyone can say will make it better @Lolliloo1234. Absolutely f*cking horrible and my heart actually hurts for you. If there's one thing to take away from it, it's that you're capable of getting pregnant. Hurdle #1.

Look after yourself xx

Just echoing what everyone else has already said @Lolliloo1234 and reminding you that you're not on your own. We might only be on the other side of an anonymous Internet forum, but we're rooting for you and that little bean!

Oh @Lolliloo1234. Super super shit.

It won't help right now, but you don't need me to tell you that there's plenty of women out there that have bled early on and went on to have healthy happy babies.

But for now, you're well within your rights to be petrified and feel like utter shite. But yes we are all here and rooting for you. Fingers crossed you can some answers 🤞🏼

Sorry about your bfn @Wineandrun, it never gets any easier to see it. It might still be too early- even frer don't promise 100% at 11dpo and implantation might be later. Try to keep busy for the next few days although that's easier said than done I know x

Ahh sorry I just read your msg! I'm glad they are checking you out, hopefully you will get some answers. We are all here for you xx

@lolliloo1234 try not to worry- firstly you are pregnant and big congrats. Secondly your line looks fine for 12dpo, I imagine mine tomorrow will be about the same as its much fainter yesterday but matches what went on with my dd. Thirdly not all odd bleeding means ectopic. Plus I think ectopics can take longer to show hcg- not 100% on that though.

Def get in contact with your gp but right now you have plenty of time. They won't scan until 6 weeks usually as until then they can't usually identify anything. Keep an eye on the bleeding (maybe record it, take photos etc) and on your tests to see if there is still progression. Implantation and early pregnancy can do all sorts of things to your hormones and ectopics are rare. And worst worst case I'm proof that ectopics are survivable and that you can still have a family with one tube. Im sure your gp and midwife will advise you but any pain go straight to A&E. Doesn't have to be single sided or for you to have bleeding but a rupture (the thing they worry about as it's dangerous for mum) is unlikely before 6 weeks as it's all too small before then X

Peace of mind 🤦🏻‍♀️ (doh)

Oh @Lolliloo1234 !!! It's a line. It's an absolutely unquestionable line. However - as @Wineandrun says, you've been bleeding consistently for a good few days so if it was me I'd be taking myself straight to A&E / urgent care and see what they think / can do. More for your own piece of mind than anything else.

What I will reiterate though is that I bled in my pregnancy, it's common and it happens. Doesn't make it any less scary but also definitely doesn't invalidate your pregnancy. Really really am rooting for you and hope you know we're all thinking of you and hope it all works out. Keep us updated xx

Are you in any pain @Lolliloo1234? I think it would be unusual to be ectopic without pain. However, given that you are bleeding I would maybe pop up to a and e, they may tell you just to ride it out but at least it may put your mind at rest if you speak to someone. I think your line looks strong though! Congratulations 😊

BFN on a FRER for me this morning, AF due Thursday (Although could come a day or so before, my cycle varies), not sure if I’m testing too early or not. Feeling quite crampy but my boobs are nearly back to normal.

Big hugs @Lolliloo1234 I hope you can get some answers.
Just remember that it's never impossible- on paper we are highly unlikely as my husband has a variocele (1/3 of men are totally impotent with it and it usually affects fertility somehow) and I've only got the one tube and at high risks of another ectopic. But my dd proved it can happen against the odds and it's why ive tried to stay positive and why I'm always so thrilled to just get a line even if it doesn't end up the right outcome.
Are there any threads on PID where you can get some advice and positive stories? I found the ectopic ones helpful x

Welcome @mrsla88- my cm seems to change every month after ovulation, some months really watery others sticky or non existant. I still check but tbh I don't think mine is a reliable sign as this month I've had almost none the last few days and it's supposed to be the opposite lol

Can I jump into this thread? I'm TTC baby number 1 for 18 months almost loosing my mind now! Had 1 chemical pregnancy in October last year currently 7 dpo and praying this is the month. My cycles are clockwork so 7 more days until I can test had loads of CM this morning, has anyone else had this after ovulation?

Yep same @Wineandrun !!!! I said no testing until AF is due OR if I got sore boobs (which I've had once in my life pretty much, and that's when I was pg with DS). But obviously I'm an idiot and tested on 8DPO and was half allowing myself to think I may have got a line. Obviously don't though 🤣

Oh goodness me @Lolliloo1234 it's been a real rollercoaster for you this month. If you do have PID does it mean you can't get pregnant whilst you still have symptoms?! If not - you absolutely still have a chance. And this could absolutely still happen for you. Sadly it's just a case of time - this TTC thing is really rough sometimes. Luckily we're all in it together!