3dpo and looking for TTC friends

@Lolliloo1234 Agree with other posters on here, we discussed our plans obviously re Covid but we have no idea when this may be over so I'm not really willing to wait another year to conceive. There's no concrete evidence that it's harmful for unborn babies (as far as I'm aware?!)

Our first took 8 months but my husband was in a bit of a bad place mental health wise, as soon as he got some help and was on the road to recovery we conceived, it really was a case of the horrible saying ‘stop trying and it will happen’, that worked for us! I went from being completely rigid, not drinking, taking vitamins, monitoring every symptom to going to complete self destruct, binge drinking, eating unhealthy, the works, and bam, she is now 7! With my second he literally looked at me and I was pregnant 😂 so who knows this time. I’m older but otherwise completely healthy, normal BMI etc, so we shall see!

I agree with you all saying you want to continue TTC with everything going on, research says it’s most dangerous during the third trimester, by which time for us hopefully this will all be over!

Hi, please can I join you?! I’m a bit older, 37, and TTC number 3. My other kids are 4 and 7, it took a while for us to decide whether to have another! This is our first month of TTC and TBH were not so much trying as not not trying if you get me! I’m not tracking my ovulation or anything, just seeing how it goes, I got obsessive with DC1 and it was so stressful and horrible. I am planning to test on the 21st but knowing me, it will be earlier and therefore pointless!!

@rosie990 welcome! I’m sorry, it must be so hard it not happening sooner. Fingers crossed and baby dust for you.

@Lolliloo1234 and @mrsmummy111 - huge respect and thanks to you both for all the Covid work you are doing. It must be so hard.

We have talked about Covid and kids a lot. I feel anxious about it all, but also we have been debating trying for such a long time and I don’t feel like we can stop trying now we have started. It really does feel like a drive to me? Like a switch flipped.
We are both working from home, so feeling quite isolated from the world, taking all the precautions.
Glad I’m not the only one not enjoying the DTD pressure!

@lolliloo1234 I am well thank you although I feel like I am symptom spotting everything.

Journey one was a surprise and blessing so I am really struggling with actually trying and it not working. :-(

Hi ladies can I join.

I am 29 and on cycle 7 of ttc for baby number 2.

I should be 3dpo according to my clue app but I ovulated a few days earlier based on cramps and cm.

I don't use any ovulation tests due to coming over obsessed 😂

@lolliloo1234

I feel ya! I've been into school a couple of times to run activities for children of key workers, going in again on Friday.

I've told myself not to test until 12dpo, which will be Saturday, but feel like I might get a sneaky IC in on 10dpo (thursday), if only to satisfy my POAS needs! When are you testing?

I started a healthy eating drive 2 weeks ago in the hope that I won't come out of lockdown weighing 1 stone more and regretting it! Lockdown has really given me the motivation I need to do things like gardening, cleaning the house and improving my lifestyle. People keep telling everybody to look after their mental health in lockdown... but lockdown has been the best thing for my mental health in a long time!

@Lolliloo1234 I could've written this post myself! The reason we didn't DTD on day 14 was because DH had already had a bad day at work and I was hinting that we need to....you know, and he just got annoyed and said he feels like it's too much pressure. Day 15 was a similar story and although we ended up doing it, let's just say it wasn't his best performance!
I agree though and also that I said I won't tell him when I'm ovulating next month, but he'll know anyway as we don't regularly have sex 4 times a week! 🤣

What a wonderful outlook you have, it's so refreshing. It's horrendous and I can't imagine what it would be like seeing it first hand, but at the same time it's amazing to see someone focus on the positive and take something good out of all the bad! ❤️

@lolliloo1234
I agree about lockdown bring us closer together. DH and I are both teachers...at the same school! But we barely see each other in the work day and when we get home all we talk about is work. DH is always stressed during term time (I've asked a number of times if teaching is -really- the career for him) which makes it frustrating when I want to have any intimacy! Since lockdown, he has calmed down more and we are now close again.

Re: COVID
I've done a lot of reading up and careful thinking about whether to stop TTC. It is scary when nearly 1000 people a day are dying of this virus in the UK.
DH and I are both in secure jobs, are young and healthy with no underlying health conditions, and research suggests that we are not at any serious risk of the virus. Whilst I understand why some couples have stopped, most medical bodies/organisations have stated that the risk of getting it would be the same for the woman whether pregnant or not, that it can't be passed on to the foetus, and that babies are very very low risk of getting it.

There are rumours and predictions floating around about it ending in summer, in autumn, coming back in winter, not having a vaccination until next year, but the truth is...nobody really knows.

I'm not the kind of person who plans out "the perfect pregnancy" (I'm a bit more do-it-yourself-and-just-get-on-with-things kind of person) so I'm not too worried about restrictions like hubby not being able to go to the scan etc.
Everybody is different though and I entirely respect the opinions of those who don't want to continue for whatever their reason is.

On a symptom spotting note... 6DPO and getting some period pain-like dull cramping in my lower abdo today. Maybe implantation? Maybe mild obsession...

@Lolliloo1234 I also had scans and blood tests done prior to TTC and my bedside table looks like a pregnancy pharmacy. So you’re definitely not alone!

I hate that feeling of having to DTD regardless of how I feel too. It sounds like you still DTD at the right times, you’ve got to have a balance what with being a key worker and this Covid nightmare.

@Lolliloo1234 Yeah that does make sense, but the idea of OPKs just makes me really stressed as I can imagine myself spending every day testing and they're notoriously unreliable so even though my cycle is very regular, it would just mess with my head if they said I wasn't ovulating but the app said I was?! It's all just very daunting, why can't it be as easy as "have sex, get pregnant 🤣🤣)

I just hate feeling like I have to DTD even when I'm shattered / not in the mood, but then equally don't want to miss out on my chance and then regret it. Must be so much worse for you and I applaud you with everything going on at the moment. Worst thing we can do is get stressed over it though - positive vibes only!

Hello everyone hope you are all well :) AF is due anytime in the next ten days. Then i usually ovulate a week after ( I track CM and use the Clue app) as my cycles vary by ten days. Then i am hoping to ttc :)

Fingers crossed the ride isn't too bumpy for either of us @Lolliloo1234 !! I always thought once I had a baby I'd be less neurotic and obsessive about TTC, but if anything it's even worse as now I'm desperate to get pregnant again as you always imagine what age gap you'd like your kids to have, and every month you don't conceive makes the gap that little bit bigger!

Well even I'm stumped on that one tbh. We weren't taking it hugely seriously as we were getting married the next month (I was actually 2weeks pregnant on my wedding day!) I ovulated on day 15 when we conceived and we DTD on day 13 and day 15, but obviously managed to catch it. This month we DTD 12,13 and 15 and I was so upset that we missed day 14 but it was just a bad day and DH was stressed from work and I didn't want it to become a chore, but now I'm kicking myself (even though I know it's technically possible by DTD on 13 & 15). The ovulation thing still confuses me though as I feel like I never know exactly when I'm ovulating, and whether it actually happened when I thought it did.

Do you mind me asking how you're tracking it? X

Hey girls!! I'm 32 and 2DPO on cycle 2 of TTC #2! AF due on 23rd according to natural cycles app which we used to conceive our (almost) 1 year old 🥰
We were ridiculously lucky with our DS and conceived on the first month of trying, but I have a feeling it won't be so easy this time. Sending lots of happy positive vibes to you all and hoping for some good luck xxx

@lolliloo1234 yes it does suck so really hoping this month.
Ive been TTC for around 8 months. After the CP i gave myself a little time off but fell again in feb which ended in MC just before 6 weeks.
I have tried the opks but i dont really like them, so ive gone off of CM and premom app which is pretty good so far. Its also got an option to log opks which i done till i got fed up with them