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3dpo and looking for TTC friends

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Lolliloo1234 · 11/04/2020 18:18

Hi,

I’m 29 and on cycle 2 of TTC. I’m 3dpo and now in my two week wait. I have no friends with children or anyone who is TTC so looking for online buddies to ride this out with!

Anybody in the same boat as me who wants to chat and be a little neurotic together?

Xx

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Lolliloo1234 · 15/04/2020 17:00

*fertility not texting

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Lolliloo1234 · 15/04/2020 17:00

@mrsmummy111 OMG!!! We may know who each other is. If you’re comfortable revealing who you are then feel free, I don’t have social media so don’t feel pressured to do so. What a small world. Life has a funny cyclical way of doing things. Hence why I believe your way of relaxing your texting cycle and DTD every day will work, the universe has funny ways of creating positive situations.
If you do go to Pia for acupuncture once this is all over, please make sure you stop in for a cup of tea!

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mrsmummy111 · 15/04/2020 16:50

@Lolliloo1234 I also went to Bromley High!!!! A few years older than you though, I'm 32 now but I almost guarantee we would know who each other is. What a funny little small world 😊

Sammyclaire22 · 15/04/2020 16:42

Hi ladies can I join? Currently either 4 or 6dpo (messed up my bbt reading) cycle 7 of ttc number 2!
I had a chemical cycle before last and drove myself mad last month feeling sure I was pg again but turns out my nausea was probably covid :(
Trying to be more chilled this month, but that's what I say every month lol

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Lolliloo1234 · 15/04/2020 16:28

@mrsmummy111 I grew up there - I went to school in Orpington for primary school and Bromley High for secondary and I lived there until I was 24. Hence I know all around Orpington and Bromley. I’m 29 and Horsham is a very small place so I may know your friend or her friends! What a small world!

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mrsmummy111 · 15/04/2020 16:18

@Lolliloo1234 haha!!! That was genuinely a coincidence as that's one of the only places I know pretty well in West Sussex. I know allll about "say no to Crawsham!" 🤣🤣 Depending on how old you are, you probably know of a very good friend of mine from Horsham (or at least her friends) as it's not a very big place.

Yep, I'm in Bromley. How did you guess?!

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Lolliloo1234 · 15/04/2020 15:43

Haha @mrsmummy111 I love how you knew I lived in Horsham from my post not even mentioning where exactly I live!!! Do you live in the Bromley/Orpington area? Her name is Pia Gronroos at New Street Clinic xx

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mrsmummy111 · 15/04/2020 15:33

Totally agree with @HopeWish - you are 10000% not out yet @Lolliloo1234 there's a reason lots of people don't know that they're pregnant until they miss their period. Obviously some people are lucky and get BPFs early, but I see a hell of a lot of threads of people actively TTC and getting BFN's right up until day 12/13/14 etc. You've got a good few days to go yet. Try and keep yourself busy and take your mind off it ❤️

Also no 1hr is doable for me. I have very good friends who live in Horsham and it's a v.easy drive. If you wouldn't mind PMing her details to me or post them on here I'd be really grateful. Thank you!

HopeWish · 15/04/2020 15:20

Hey @Lolliloo1234 you might not be out yet! 8dpo is still early and average implantation day is 9dpo. Having a short luteal phase doesnt mean you will implant any earlier so you won't get a bfp earlier than people with normal luteal phase lengths. Looking around a lot of people get bfns up until 11/12 dpo so hang in there!

I'm trying not to test until Friday now... (11dpo for me). Not really getting any symptoms but from what I have read symptom spotting doesnt really mean anything so... heres hoping!

Fingers crossed for both of us! x

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Lolliloo1234 · 15/04/2020 11:36

@mrsmummy111 I live in West Sussex. I have family in SE London/Kent (I grew up there) and it takes us about an hour to get to them in the car. Would that be too far?
Tbh the lady I use is amazing - she’s still giving me virtual consolations during the lockdown for free with distance healing and acupressure guidance. Genuinely nice person.

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rosie990 · 15/04/2020 11:14

@@wineandrun I completely agree I have family who are due soon after years of trying and ivf. Every child is a blessing and because of that I would love to give my son the joy of a sibling 🥰

Wineandrun · 15/04/2020 11:08

@mrsmummy111 I agree with your DTD plan, as long as you are having sex regularly I don’t think there’s much else you can do, like you say you have to ovulate sometime in that period and if sperm can live for 5 days then if you’re going to get pregnant then you’re going to get pregnant! I think taking the pressure off yourself is so worth it, being stressed isn’t going to help you be in the mood for sex or help your body conceive xx

Wineandrun · 15/04/2020 11:05

@rosie990 I don’t think it’s bad at all. As someone who hates being an only child it was as important to me that I had my second as my first, although not everyone will agree and some are extremely happy/ grateful with one child. Every child is a miracle!

mrsmummy111 · 15/04/2020 11:03

@Lolliloo1234 That sounds fab. Can I ask where (approx) in the country you live as I'm going to look into it and don't mind travelling a bit if someone's recommended. For reference, I live in SE London / Kent, so no need to tell me if it's nowhere near 🤣

Also girls I'm thinking next month I may just try to DTD every other day between day 10-20. So theoretically, DTD on day 10/12/14/16/18/20. I have fairly regular cycles (always between 28-30 days, but surely I will ovulate at some point between those days and that feels like it would take the pressure off trying to determine exactly when I ovulate? What do you all think?

Suki2020 · 15/04/2020 10:38

@lolliloo1234 ok thank you. x

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Lolliloo1234 · 15/04/2020 10:34

@Suki2020 I just googled fertility acupuncture in my area and she was the highest rated and the closest to my house. I would say find someone who is a fertility specialist and my lady is also a registered counsellor. Her demeanour and the way she speaks to me, asks questions etc whilst doing the acupuncture all adds to me feeling so much better. Chinese medicine needs for you to go right back to childhood because they believe that everything contributes to your current state of health and something that happened years ago could be a reason adding to issues or difficulties now. You deffo have to be invested in the process but i really do recommend it.

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Suki2020 · 15/04/2020 10:29

@lolliloo1234 oh ok, that’s sound like a good thing to try then. How did you hear about her or know who to contact?

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Lolliloo1234 · 15/04/2020 10:20

@Suki2020 I swear by it - I never used to get CM and my periods were all over the shop. Within one session I got loads of CM and my cycle regulated. Tbh it’s amazing for my wellbeing even if you park the fertility side of things. I’m really feeling it the fact I can’t go at the moment. I recommended my lady to my friend with PCOS and it’s really helped ease her symptoms.

An hour costs £50 but my lady will go over that hour regularly depending on how I’m feeling that week. I go every other week because it’s not cost effective for me to go every week.

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Suki2020 · 15/04/2020 10:14

@lolliloo1234 did you find fertility acupuncture any good? If so do you mind if I ask how much it cost?

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Lolliloo1234 · 15/04/2020 09:58

@Suki2020 when I went to my fertility acupuncture appointment the woman told me not to go on temps as they’re notoriously unreliable, she said even nurses don’t use them and trust your CM instead. I had a look at Zita West’s website and they say the same. So if you’ve had the right consistency of CM I’d say you’re alright!

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Suki2020 · 15/04/2020 09:51

@lolliloo1234 there is still time for a positive if your period is not due until Monday. I have everything crossed for you hun.
I have no idea where I am this month my temp is all over the place. It went really low this morning. Does anyone have any idea what’s going on with my temp readings? Don’t know if I’ve even ovulated or not, my CM suggests I did but but my temp readings stayed high last month where as this month they are so up and down. Please help it’s driving me crazy

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Lolliloo1234 · 15/04/2020 09:48

@Dimosaur I’m 8dpo but I have a short luteal phase of 11/12 days max so with an FRER in first mornings urine it probably would’ve shown up. I woke up this morning just with a feeling that it’s not my month. I think the heat and boobs is from over indulging! Diet starts today 😂😂😂!!
I think I’m going to just wait for a possible missed period next month and not buy any more tests. Each cycle I learn something new about myself and the process which is really good.

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Dimosaur · 15/04/2020 09:38

@lolliloo1234 there's still time if af isn't til Monday. How many dpo now?

I'm not very good at tagging people on this app, hello 'I miss sleep' , I also have an 18 month old and on first month ttc!

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Lolliloo1234 · 15/04/2020 09:26

So I caved and did an FRER this morning - massive BFN and really stark white so I think I’m out this month. At least I can relax and wait for AF on Monday now as I’m out of tests.

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Dimosaur · 15/04/2020 08:06

The ttw starts now! Eeeeek!