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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

Original poster

First time TTC, age 26, looking for some friends!

33 replies

kayl7 · 02/04/2020 16:27

Hello lovely people,

A little bit of background; I’m 26 years old and have been with my husband since we were 17 (we met back at school!). We’ll have been married for four years this August. We bought our first home last April and have been renovating for the past year.

We recently found out that my dad (age 56) has stage four brain cancer and likely only has about a year to live. We have always wanted to have children, and I’ve always wanted to be a relatively young mum... Finding out dad’s prognosis made us want to increase the chance that he can meet his first grandchild. It’s going to be a tough time ahead, but our heads and hearts told us it’s time to start trying.

I’ve not been on the pill for a couple of years so we’ve just used barrier contraception, and I’ve been using clear blue sticks fertility for the past four days; no smiley face yet!

At this point I’m just really looking to meet some friendly people going through a similar journey. None of my friends are at this stage of life yet!

Thanks so much,
Kay x

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1izzie · 15/05/2020 08:58

@Serz88 very similar! We've made the decision to postpone now :( but we're thinking of still getting married on that day and surprising it close family and then have it again next year!

Serz88 · 12/05/2020 23:36

So typical. First month TTC following the ovulation apps the 2 prime days for conception I have been unable to have sex due to a horrendous wisdom tooth.

kerrym87 · 30/04/2020 09:24

Hi, can I jump in too please? TTC for 8 months now, had implant out after 12 years in September and my cycles are all over the place and long (33-44).
I'm getting a bit despondent and none of my friends have struggled with awkward cycles and BFNs so a bit of support on here would be great! Fingers crossed for us all x

SmileyT · 20/04/2020 11:56

@LottieX hiya, we bought preseed after my last fertile period so only tried it out for fun, but have also now bought concieve plus lube as i read really good reviews about it. Can't hurt to try 👌🏾 and I'm CD2 aswell with a 28day cycle so we will be cycle buddies x

@Serz88 good luck with your first month x

Serz88 · 20/04/2020 11:37

Hey everyone, I will definitely be following this thread as my fiance and I have finally decided for me to come off of the pill and start trying. Obviously we are realistic and realise it could take months or even years. Good luck to everyone trying!
1izzie our situations are very similar, our wedding is 8th August but not sure if it will go ahead x

LottieX · 20/04/2020 11:09

Can I jump on board? I'm due to ovulate the 2nd May as well on CD2, averaging roughly 28 day cycles after stopping the pill in dec. I've got some cheapie OPKs to try this month to exactly pinpoint ovulation. Considering buying preseed, anyone used this before?

Nat4392 · 20/04/2020 10:46

I’m due to ovulate on 2nd May and AF due around 14/15th. Let’s hope this is finally out month 🤞🏻

SmileyT · 20/04/2020 10:43

I was pretty regular at 28days before MC, pretty much every Sunday afternoon she'd show her face. First one post MC was 31 but hoping to be back to 28 for more chances 👌🏾

I'm guessing I'll ovulate around the 3rd May and then AF due on the 17th test on the 20th hopefully 🙏 so we will be ovulating around the same time but I might just have a longer TWW x

Nat4392 · 20/04/2020 09:42

@SmileyT. cycles are normally 25 days, although this one was 24, really don’t want them any shorter as my luteal phase was only 11 days this month. On the bright side, shorter cycles mean I can try again sooner. Just entering cycle #9. How long are yours?

SmileyT · 20/04/2020 09:32

Hi everyone...

I'm 31 cycle 2 and trying for #1 I had an unexpected pregnancy at the beginning of the year that sadly ended in a MC in March but am just having my first AF since (even though we tried straight away after).

@Nat4392 sorry that AF got you this month, I'm currently CD2 so we can support eachother through the rollercoaster that is babymaking... how long are your normal cycles?

Nat4392 · 20/04/2020 09:05

That’s me out again this month, AF just showed up. So fed up!!

Lily2020 · 20/04/2020 06:56

@kayl7 that's definitely the best way to do it, I'm just too impatient! I'm my own worst enemy 😂 I'm going to try & wait as long as possible this month, had a faint positive at 10dpo last cycle then all bfn's 😣 got my fingers crossed for you 🤞🏽

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kayl7 · 19/04/2020 20:48

Hi Lily! If I can find the restraint I’m going to wait a few days after my period is due if it doesn’t come fingers crossed. Don’t want to waste money and get my hopes up too much... I had a bit of light spotting yesterday but don’t know if it’s period or implantation related... Xxx

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Lily2020 · 19/04/2020 19:16

Hi all 👋🏼 I'm 26, I have a 21 month old daughter, been with hubby 12 years, married 3 😊 first cycle temping & using opk's 🤞🏽 coming up to fertile window so hopefully have some luck this month!
Any of you ladies testing now?🤞🏽🤞🏽

Nat4392 · 19/04/2020 14:23

Welcome! When are you going to test?
I’m due Tuesday and definitely feels like she’s on her way, I’ve been a right moody arse today 🙈

firsttimetry · 19/04/2020 13:23

Hi!
Hope it's okay to jump on this!
I'm also 26, been with my parter for 10 years and married last August.

Trying to conceive our first baby. Have been trying since we were married. I am currently 5 days late for period however since coming off the pill in June last year my periods have been all over the place, so I'm not getting my hopes up just yet!

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kayl7 · 11/04/2020 20:46

Thanks Nat! I’m really sure - I have 2 first response test and a clear blue in the house but don’t want to unnecessarily waste..! xxx

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1izzie · 11/04/2020 14:00

Hi! Hope you don't mind if I join? I'm 25 and been with my fiancée for 5 years, we were meant to be getting married this August but with my dad and grandma in America and more family in Canada it's not going to go ahead unfortunately :( but we were planning on starting as soon as we were married and although we can get married next year we don't want to put our life on hold so are now starting! Af is currently 6 days late but two BFN's :( so lovely to talk to people about it!

Nat4392 · 11/04/2020 13:05

Happy birthday!! 🎉
I plan on just waiting for AF, I’m so over testing early and being disappointed, not to mention the cost of tests! What about you? X

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kayl7 · 11/04/2020 12:01

Hey Nat! Hope you’re doing ok ❤️ It’s my birthday today so having a lockdown celebration with the hubby 😊 Sad I can’t spend it with my parents though.

I’m due 20th too... fingers crossed for us both 🤞 Do you plan on taking a test early or sticking it out? Xx

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Nat4392 · 11/04/2020 09:41

Well currently 3DPO with AF due 20th, looks like it’s going to be a lovely day today so gonna get in the garden and soak up some sun! How is everyone doing?

ShinyBadger · 05/04/2020 22:14

I’m 37, been with OH for 9 years, had abnormal cells on my smear so had to have a Lettz done in October and had my coil removed. We discussed and said what will be will be. So don’t use contraception I had a miscarriage in February - I was shocked I even fell pregnant. Now I am trying not to think about it but can’t help wanting to pee on those ovulation sticks and each month I hope it will be my turn..... never thought I would feel like this as never thought I wanted to have children, that’s all I think about now.
Good luck everyone.

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kayl7 · 05/04/2020 21:16

Hi all,

Great to hear your backgrounds and stories. Thanks for your replies. Got my first fertility smiley face today so fingers crossed... How’s everyone else doing?

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Fertility1 · 03/04/2020 15:13

Hi all

I am ttc #1 but still haven't got a positive opk!

AliSxo · 03/04/2020 15:08

Well today I'm 7DPO - boobs are a bit sore but not too badly, this TWW has really dragged, normally work and everyday life distracts me but working from home I've got more time to think about it!! Xx

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