Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 2

@scrumdiddly123 sounds positive that you are getting EWCM. Roughly what CD would you normally ovulate?

Depending on what app I look at AF is due any when between Fri and Mon. But my last few cycles have been short (25/26 days) so am expecting it in the next couple of days. If AF hasn’t shown by Sat morning I’ll test.

Thanks @ELM7, I’m really hoping so. CD 11 and I’ve had ewcm this morning and a bit yesterday. My temp dropped this morning but this is only my first month temping so don’t know if that means anything! Opks are still really faint so who knows.
Fingers crossed that AF says away for you, well done for moving the tests! When is AF due? Will you test early or wait?
Good luck for today @SunnySideUp2020

Hi Ladies hope you are all doing ok?

Coming to end of TWW and am sure AF is looming. Felt awful yesterday with cramps and the dull ache I normal have while AF is in full flow. I have taken all tests from the bathroom so that I can’t be tempted to test early without planning to do it first! 🤦🏼‍♀️ The things we do to stop the POAS addiction. RHR has gone up today but that might just be because AF is near. Oh well will find out one way or another in the next few days.

@scrumdiddly123 sorry that line won’t completely disappear but hoping it is really low now and your cycles will get back to normal quickly for you.

@SunnySideUp2020 hope the tests go well today. And that you can then get back and have some fun DTD.

@Melds22 thank you so much... and I'm so sorry you've been feeling down... we've all been there and the last few months for me have been very up and down. It's such a hard journey to go on but I promise it will get better for you... I started bleeding with my MC on 26th November (or a week before that if I count the pale pink spotting that started on 19th Nov) and my first period started on 26th December. I hope yours comes back soon as then hopefully you'll feel like you're able to start afresh xxx

Evening ladies. CD13 here, trying my best to not think too much about it, am doing opks but definitely trying to be more relaxed so hopefully ov will be in the next 3-5 days. Have had a few bits to do in the garden so have gone hell for leather at that to keep my mind off it and also to get all heavy lifting out of the way now in the hope this might be our month!

@scrumdiddly123 that’s so frustrating the line is still there. It’s definitely barely there tho so hopefully it won’t be long until it’s fully negative.

@ELM7 🤞for you testing!!

@SunnySideUp2020 I hope the tests go ok tomorrow. It’s good at least you are getting to the fertility clinic with all that’s going on to know at least where to go from here..I can imagine how tough it is at the moment for you though 💕

Yeah I had 2 day spotting a cpl of weeks ago but this MC was totally different to my 1st as in there was so much blood, clots, cramps it was horrific and I bled for 3 weeks then took 8 mths till i got preggo with my DD.
I can only hope that as this one was like a normal period with no clots or anything drastic that I will get preggo quicker this time...who knows! It gives me hope to see all the BFP's in the group at the moment

@Annny27 @SunnySideUp2020 @MilsCookie thank you that’s made me feel much better! My cycle does seem to be regulating so hopefully the amount still there is tiny and not enough to be a problem. I didn’t phone in the end as can’t face another hospital trip so will just see what happens this cycle and go from there!
I am using opks and temping so hopefully will have a good idea of when/if I ovulate!
Hey @Melds22 so sorry you’re feeling sad. I bled with this MC from 1st April and started bleeding again on 26th which I’m assuming was AF. It’s been a very unusual, drawn out miscarriage though, after my first MC last year AF arrived after 37 days x

Aww thank you @Melds22 ❤️

So sorry to hear you’ve been feeling so sad. That first month after the MC is just awful. I MC’d without needing surgery and if I include the MC as day 1 of that cycle, it was 32 days until my next period. Hang in there lovey! Sending love ❤️

Massive congrats @MilsCookie and @TerribleImagination I'm so incredibly happy for you both!! Your positivity has been so refreshing when reading the posts and I love hearing success stories.
Sorry I've been sat on the sidelines but I've been in a really sad place and didn't want to drag anyone down with me. I'm feeling much more positive now although I haven't got my period yet and MC with light bleed for a week on 1st April so may be too early yet. Did anybody else have a similar MC without surgery or anything? If so when did u get your 1st period?
@Moominmiss I can imagine exactly how you're feeling, it's sad your friend couldn't come to you 1st. Alot of the mums I spent most leave with last year are preggo with their 2nd and it's sad I can't join in their excitement. I'm sure you will be next and have all the excitement to come

Morning ladies,

Oh @scrumdiddly123 I'm so sorry that must be so frustrating! Like @SunnySideUp2020 said if your cycle has gone back to normal everything must be okay and you should be ovulating again. So annoying though cos you must just wanna see an obvious BFN so you know exactly where you stand! Are you doing opks as well?

@SunnySideUp2020 that's great your DP is having more tests tomorrow. I hope you both get some more answers and they can give you some guidance of what to do next. But hopefully you can still dtd and maybe even get lucky this month! I will be keeping all my fingers and toes crossed for you xxx

@ELM7 really hope your RHR starts to increase tomorrow!!! Fingers crossed!! :-D xxx

@Fizzl and @Annny27 hope you're both okay too.... I have a good feeling for you this cycle!! xxx

@scrumdiddly123 it looks like your hcg is taking its time to come back to 0. But as Anny said sometimes the frer picks up like 6 as level or 5 and they will classify as not pregnant. It also happened to me. In fact below 20 they said after mc is not considered pregnant (if i remember correctly).
I guess as long as your cycle are back to normal everything should be ok.
But i totally understand the frustration of it all. And still seeing these positive pregnancy test must make you feel sad ... 💓

@annny27

Are you tracking this month??

@Fizzl I’m more annoyed with myself for not insisting they scanned me anyway as that’s what I was there for! Never mind. It is so faint so I’m hopeful that it might still sort itself out if left another week or so.
Might ring to see what they advise x

Ah @scrumdiddly123 I can see the faintest of lines 😔 I feel your frustration. My pregnancy tests remained positive for weeks and eventually my period arrived before they were showing as negative. I seem to recall epu not being overly concerned and that residue hormone can linger for a while but I know your situation is slightly different. I think they should have scanned you last week, it would save all this uncertainty for you 💐

I think I might have to phone EPAU again tomorrow. Even though I was there last week and the pregnancy test was negative (with a v dilute sample!) I’ve just got this on a FRER 😫 I had been testing with cheapies and kept getting a barely there line which I was telling myself was just an evap. But I think there must still be hcg in my system from the MC! Will be so fed up if that’s the case!

Hi all, CD11 for me so going into fertile week already. Can't believe how quick the weeks are going at the minute to say we're stuck in this lockdown situation! I'm not complaining though, quick weeks are good! I seem get a positive opk around CD16-19 so we're going to try SMEP more religiously this month and dtd every other day until then.

@Annny27 our bodies definitely like playing tricks on us! I'm hoping to ovulate earlier this month as it was really late last month. The yogas really helping me feel more chilled and I've also cut out most dairy from my diet to see if that helps with my hormones. But even if I do ovulate earlier, I expect my lp to still be the same. But at least I'm feeling proactive!

Cannot dtd these days i meant^

Fingers crossed for you @ELM7

Not much happening on my side CD10
Not doing opk this month
Do is doing a semen analysis with fertility clinic this Wednesday so can dtd now, and after we Will do it for a few days as it should be fertile week from tomorrow.

Mood hasn’t been great for either of us since finding out about the low morphology. We are trying hard to be positive- i think it just takes a little while to accept that things arent as we thought!

Coming to the end of the long TWW here.

AF due any when between Wed and Sat (as now seem to have anything between 25 and 29 day cycle) Determined not to test until Sat if no sign. Also keeping an eye on RHR so if that doesn’t increase in the next couple of days I won’t be hopefully for this month.

Morning @Annny27 all good here thanks. CD9 today and no sign of anything happening yet! I don’t usually ov til CD18 was though so another boring week to get through 😂
That is early for EWCM! When do you normally ov?
I’m temping this month for the first time too so will be interesting to see when I actually ovulate based on that!

That's something I kept trying to tell myself when I was ttc my pregnancy that was a loss (took 8 months)...a month right now seems FOREVER and is so hard...but once that baby is here, a month is nothing, they are a part of your life for the rest of your life...
It's hard to believe that as each month is so draining, but this is all temporary...soon it will be a distant memory and (hopefully...I really hope for all of us) the pain of trying and loss will barely be remembered. Fingers crossed for you this month @Annny27

@Annny27 your body went through so much, and unlike some of us, you had an infection as well as both the medical 'management' followed by surgery. That is a hell of a lot for your body to have gone through. The hormones, the stress, the body still thinking it was pregnant right up until that point, and all this was only (I know it seems ages!) But really just 4 months ago. Yes it's long enough now, and I definitely know that from all your posts, that your body is completely ready now to conceive. And you can, and did get pregnant. And not just for a few weeks like people who have recurring issues, you had something so devastating happen to you, but it was just horrible bad luck. Any other egg and sperm would have made it, I truly believe that. But the baby you had was non viable and it couldn't continue , just like mine and milescookie, and many other women here. But next time those chances are literally nearly zero that it will happen again, especially now after a proper healing time internally, especially for your uterus to carry this next pregnancy.

You have an incredibly high chance now of conceiving over the next couple of months. It feels so painful all this time I know, but I saw it as I was pregnant for three months so it took three months for my body to sort it's self out. Then two months later I got the positive.

Be really really kind to yourself and I think you are absolutely amazing for running this thread and supporting so many people here, I will never forget you and the words you have written on here, or what you went through. I remember when you were in the middle of it all! It was bloody horrendous. You are so strong and so brave and it is going to happen.

It just is going to take some more of that grit girl 💪💜♀️