Catching up - ttc after miscarriage part 2

@Leok83 Fingers crossed for you 🤞🏼 I also read that it takes Hcg 48 hours to double so try, if you can, to give it time (easier said than done when we’re in the middle of a pandemic with little else to think about, I know).

@Minster2012 Thanks, it’s good to hear what other people have been through/been told. It’s been 4 weeks for me since MC and I’m starting to get AF symptoms so I hope it’ll be sometime this week. Good luck with the OPKS and fingers crossed for you too. 🤞🏼

@GlitterFairy1412 Sorry that you’re here too- that must have been really tough. I know what you mean about feeling in the minority. I think it’s because people don’t tend to be so open about their fertility struggles. I hate it when others keep asking DH and I when we’re having a baby. My MIL has been on our case about grandchildren since we got married 3 years ago- it used to annoy me when we weren’t trying but even more so when we were. She knows about the MC now so, in a funny way, I think it’ll help in terms of her backing off and stopping with all the pressure.

Welcome @Bubblybon56 @Hoppyhops and @GlitterFairy1412 I'm so sorry you find yourselves here. Like you Glitter I didn't really know anyone who'd had a miscarriage, but quite a few people who'd had successful pregnancies so you just assume that's going to be you when you get a positive test! But now I think when people do pregnancy announcements, as much as it always hurts, I have to think that they might have been on a long journey to get there.

@scrumdiddly123 I think you probably can still ovulate with hcg in your system as some people get pregnant again without having a period after a mc! Did you do any more OPKs?

@Leok83 ahhhh I really hope the lighter lines don't mean anything and your bean is starting to grow nicely in there. Fingers crossed for you lovely and I hope you're okay. Must be such a stressful time :-( sending positive vibes!

@Annny27 hahaha your post made me laugh. I wish I could have my pregnancy boobs back - they pretty much doubled in size! I'm around 6dpo I think so similar to you and my boobs started to hurt about 2 days ago like they usually do pre-AF so I'm not hopeful at all. The cycle I conceived my boobs didn't hurt AT ALL until I was about 6 weeks! It's so annoying because I think I've come to learn that my boobs being sore means I'm not pregnant this month, so I have a verrrry long TWW just waiting for the witch to show!

@SunnySideUp2020 sorry it was a BFN yesterday lovely but you're still early!! Try and hold out as long as you can! Keeping everything crossed for you xxx

Fingers crossed for you too @Sparkl try to hold out til Weds! xxx

Wow I haven’t checked in for a while & so much going on
Fingers crossed that BFP sticks @Leok83 🤞🏻🍀

@Hoppyhops my AF came exactly 28 days after my MMC & yet I’ve never really had a period before so it’s just wait & see, our EPU told us 4-6 weeks after MC & first real blood is first day.

I’m CD8 today so going to try OPKs for first real time & see but it doesn’t really matter as just going to DTD a lot &🤞🏻🤞🏻, we DTD on fri & sat “for fun” anyway 😂

Fingers crossed for all xx

Hey @SunnySideUp2020, obviously crossing all parts of myself for you this month. My due date would have been the 4th of May so I know how you are feeling, I really do. Keep being you, keep being strong, and keep on trucking because it will happen, you are fertile and you can get pregnant. But the body needs this horrendous time in-between to heal and be ready to carry the next one. But it's been a fair few months now so yes, get this women pregnant universe!

In answer to your question, yes! I stopped everything in a paddy basically. I had been on folic and liquid vitamin d, plus spa tone iron. (The iron is taken for like the last ten years so didn't stop that).

But stopped my vitamin d and folic, I'd been taking the dam stuff since last June as that's when I started trying and was just so done with the whole process. So the month I conceived the twins I was taking no suppliments at all. I stopped I February and caught in March so it was all well out of my system.

Upped the dose now though obviously!

@SunnySideUp2020 I was thinking about that actually, we do need to know about cps in case they show a problem.

@Leok83 I think it is good to test, I was just remembering that I didn’t test until 18dpo when I got my bfp and I imagine a lot of people who aren’t ttc don’t test until later as well (I was ttc but was very relaxed about it back then) so it might be more common than we know. So annoying though that you still have to wait after getting a positive, would be so much nicer to be able to relax, fingers crossed they get darker soon x

@Leok83 I was told line progression on a test wasn't always reliable because even tests of the same brand can have different dye concentrations in them. Not sure how right that is but I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you 🤞 A positive is a positive and I hope it's sticky.

@SunnySideUp2020 it was hard, I expected to wake up that day excited to see my baby and instead was rushed to A&E. Taught me that no amount of planning can force things to go our way sometimes.

How do people distract themselves from symptom spotting? It's driving me mental even after a BFN this cycle!

@ChampooPapi how are you lovely?
When you said you stopped vitamins did you also stop taking folic acid?

@leok i think it’s good that you tested, even though cp are heartbreaking- IF it is one, you can talk about it to your GP and perhaps count towards having some more tests done?
Xx

@Sparkl I’m 14 DPO today, so I don’t think it’s too early. I’m pretty sure something isn’t right with the progression of those lines. Part of me wishes I hadn’t retested but on the other hand at least I won’t be massively shocked if AF comes. TTC is such a bloody cruel game😢

@Leok83 lovely sorry to hear the tests aren’t getting darker... i have everything crossed for you, hopefully it’s not a CP Just a slow rise 🤞🏽💕

@sparkl wise women :)
Let’s see wednesday then. 🤞🏽

@GlitterFairy1412
It must have been very tough that it happened on 12 week scan day. Sorry x
And yes i think most of us really thought positive pregnancy test = baby
But no, as you say it’s only the start...

Oh @Leok83 have just seen your post, sorry to hear it’s not stronger yet. I never really thought about continuing to test until being on these threads. How many dpo are you now? Could still just be early maybe?

Hi @Hoppyhops and @GlitterFairy1412 and sorry you’re joining us. I’m the same, hadn’t heard of anyone I know having a mc, anyone having fertility treatment I kind of assumed had never got pregnant. Crazy how we’re not taught this stuff somewhere.

@Whiffle77 @Leok83 thank you for your positivity! Obviously still holding out a little bit of hope but I’ve been really crampy and it’s all the same symptoms I’ve had the last three cycles where I’ve been properly tracking and not been successful.

@sunnysideup2020 disappointing to see a bfn but it really is early. I’m caught between being very certain AF is on the way and wanting LP to be longer enough to test! But probably won’t test until Wednesday either way. My temps are not high enough to get a positive I think.

Hi @SunnySideUp2020

I tested yesterday but got BFN, suppose it's probably too soon as I'm 10 dpo today. I've done so well not testing early but this time I've felt different for the last couple of days so I caved. I know it's probably my mind playing tricks on me!

I know what you mean, I had no idea that getting a positive was only the start. I naively believed that once I saw that second line I was gonna be a mum no questions asked. My best friend has two beautiful children and everyone in my family has been asking since I got married when it's my turn.

I had no fore warning or cramping and then at 6am on the day of my scan I woke up with an urge to run to the bathroom and that was it, I lost so much blood so quickly that I fainted within fifteen minutes. When I managed to get to hospital that same day they kept my original scan appointment and said the pregnancy had already almost fully cleared. DH was devastated.

But thankfully it all cleared and even seems to have regulated my cycle so I suppose that's a positive.

@SunnySideUp2020 it’s still very very faint/possibly fainter so I think this is a CP😢 just wish something would happen one way or the other now as being left in this limbo is torture.

Welcome @glitterfairy
Sorry you are joining the club 😟
In my circle i had barely heard of mc either but it is much more common than we think...

AF is 4 days away for me too. Have you tested early?

@Leok83 how is it looking today? X

I haven’t tested today with Fmu... will do tomorrow!
What about you @Sparkl ?

Hi Ladies, I really hope I can join this thread with you, sorry to jump in!

I've been following this thread since day 1 and I have to say that it's been lovely to read the stories about the BFP's and even twins! Congratulations to those of you that have fallen on!

It's also been so helpful to me to read about your journey's with BFN's and weird cycles and I'm so grateful to have found this thread, I've been wishing you all luck while lurking and finally got the nerve to post.

I miscarried naturally in January on the day of my twelve week scan after TTC our first child. I'm only 24 and nobody I know, not in my family or friendship circle, has ever suffered a miscarriage. DH doesn't understand the craziness of constantly checking cycles and POAS even though he tries.

I'm on my 3rd cycle since MC and we DTD every day before my predicted ovulation date this month. I'm hoping you ladies can help me with the TWW as I'm still 5 days away from AF and it's driving me nuts!

Sorry for the long post and thank you all for sharing your journeys so openly

Thanks @SunnySideUp2020..ya it does take 48 hrs for HCG to double so I think I’m just torturing myself!

@leok83 i think you should leave at least two days in between tests no?

I remember also @triedandtestedteacher had tests that seemed lighter but everything was good!
So wouldn’t rely too much on this...

Oh no @SunnySideUp2020 😞. Still early days though! 🤞for you!!

I tested again today and the line is the same/very faint and the IC looks even lighter so now I’m all stressed it’s a CP😩wish I’d just waited until tomorrow to test again.

Caved in and tested BFN here ... will probably try tomo with FMU though 😞

Thanks @Leok83 that’s interesting to know!

Thanks @Whiffle77 and @Leok83 , I suppose I’m not surprised it varies so much when everything else is so individual to everyone too. Glad to hear the awful skin is pretty normal though. We women have a raw deal!

@Dipsy77 I keep seeing this advertised on SM and would also be so interested to hear people’s reviews!

Has anyone used used the Ava bracelet?, I'm thinking of getting one but they are expensive so any experience/reviews would be helpful x

Thank you @Hoppyhops! Yes tracking makes it so much easier to know what’s going on I find! I also got really bad skin after MC..have a very small patch of acne on the left of my neck which won’t go away since, we really go through it with the hormones😞