Anyone not just delaying but reconsidering TTC altogether due to Covid-19 and the impending recession?

I would be TTC after covid 19 is over, I actually get to have my postponed weddings (married since 2015 but we planned to celebrate in 2020 as we were saving for a flat) and we have enough money for childcare. A lot of big IFs biut if you can cope emotionally and financially, I don't see what's wrong. People had babies even during world war 2.

According to some serious research the majority of western countries have reached their peak living standard in the sense that for the foreseeable future it is more likely that your children will have a worse living standards than yours

Serious research in the 70s foretold of food shortages and peak oil; it didn’t see the green revolution (in agriculture) that has (over)fed most of the planet.

Ridiculous doom-mongering needs to be called out; there’s never been a better time in history for humanity.

@Papoy this is nothing like zika, scientists / medics know this as it is part of the coronavirus family like SARS and MERS - neither of which cause foetal deformaties. They are respiratory illnesses (the RS in the name means respiratory syndrome)

I have stopped because I need early support to not miscarry, due to a blood clotting issue. It terrifies me to think I’d get pregnant and then lose the baby (had three miscarriages before my daughter) . So I’m not risking that.

I’m nearly 40. I’m definitely not going to stop trying!

Well today DH got told a load of them will have to be on furlough and obviously this could all go on for months. No end in sight right now. I actually woke last night and felt like I was having a panic attack. I can't cope with this being shut in business. So christ knows how I'd have managed with kids. I'd be crazy not to be rethinking things right now.

I am not worried about the economy or the state of the world, because the economy and state og the world was going bad for thousand years....

But what if this virus is like Zika? Noone can say it doesnt do any harm to a baby in an early pregnancy, right... thats what worries me right now?

@BabyLlamaZen-ask me in a few months! Seriously though, I think it can get to a point where non-existence is better than life. Whether this virus will take us there or not I don't know. But I think you have to weigh up the likelihood that your kids will have a good enough quality of life for it to be worth it. Most people think life is worth it even if it involves being in agony every day which I don't personally agree with. Do I wish I myself had never existed? On the fence on that one right now. I know the emotional pain of watching the news and seeing all the heartbreak and tragedy is almost unbearable right now and it's not even happening to my family (yet) so sometimes I think I wish I didn't have to see it yes. I realise most people don't feel the same way though and think life will still be worth it even if this virus gets much worse. I've always been a pessimist though.

@Katie2017 you really think it's best none of us existed?

@lynsey91 not really sure why you're on the conception forum if you don't agree with people having children?

Ok let's all just stop conceiving and wait for us all to die out. Because that will really help the economy. I agree the world is overpopulated but that tends be in other countries where people, for a range of reasons, have a large number of children.

I'm 40, still ttc as I don't have long left to try. Was a fence sitter for many years, my ex husband really didn't want kids, was with him.for 10 years, he cheated 9n me so dumped him and found a perfect guy.
We started ttc last year.

Getting fed up of trolls or people like that telling me how stupid and selfish I am for wanting to try 🤬🤬🤬 they don't know me or my story but insist on telling me I'm stupid / selfish / insane etc

Just fuck off!

I was going to start ttc this year but it's on hold for now indefinitely. I don't think it's a good time to be pregnant and wouldn't want to put any extra stress on the NHS. I'm not as optimistic as others seem to be and although people have continued having kids all throughout history, it doesn't mean it was a good idea. If people had stopped having kids 100 years ago none of us would be here right now-and it isn't exactly good times is it? I can't even sleep right now for worrying! If this all miraculously went away in a couple of months with not too much damage to the economy then I would consider it but it would take a lot of thinking and debating with DH-as I think any one should do when making a decision whether to make a child go through life and all that entails. A decision often taken so lightly.

I don't get how people can use biology as an excuse though-we don't all have to give in to our urges, and some people don't even have them at all. I mean men are biologically programmed to want to have sex with as many women as possible like in nature, but I doubt you'd just go "oh ok well you can't help yourself" if your DH used that as an excuse to sleep around!

@fizzl she's in conception topic to preach to us all how selfish and stupid we are. She is right, we are wrong, she is smart, we are dumb. I've put of TTC until this virus has calmed down. But will start up again once it has.

As for me and my partner we are plodding on. We’ve been at it for coming up a year and the bottom line is I would like a child. Like some of you I’m 35 and don’t have the time to wait. I feel like it’s never gonna happen anyway so it’s moot, but that’s just the irrational part of my brain saying that, I’ve no evidence to back that up 😂.
Having kids is one of life’s joys. There are people out there with so much less than us in our society and yet they love and cherish their children, find joy in their lives in what ways they can. If our society is on the brink of change then we can’t stop it but change doesn’t mean it’s going to be bad. I’m personally hoping for some positive changes, less consumerism, moving to greener energy given how quickly the planet is recovering now we are all stuck inside. We will just have to wait and see and I know that I want my own wee bambino no matter what.
Good luck everyone, stay safe and healthy.

@lynsey91 wow dramatic much. I know this lockdown is causing people to be a bit fed up/bored, but trolling people on a CONCEPTION board on the internet because they want children and you think no one should ever conceive again is a very sad, strange way to spend your time. May I suggest a new Netflix series or baking instead?

Wow @lynsey91 talk about being an absolute creeper lurking in mumsnet conception boards without actually having any intention of TTC. You’re absolutely entitled to your opinions and your attitudes towards life and procreation but how bout you take them somewhere else. This is a scary and stressful time right now, people who want children dearly are being put in a position where they are questioning it. This is a place for support and I’m sure if you want to spout your waffle there is a discussion board out there for you somewhere.

Wow I'm wondering why @lynsey91 is on mumsnet at all let alone a conception board 🤔.

We continued ttc this month, however, we will keep reviewing this each month depending on how things continue to play out. My worry is for the immediate future, strain on nhs, unknown risks in pregnancy (although I think this is looking to be quite small but still unknown). I am not worrying too far into the future about the economy etc as it might not be worth worrying about and things might right themselves again. We never know what's around the corner and if we always worried about the future we would always delay.

Im wondering what else there is to get up to if you’re stuck indoors with your partner! We have undergone fertility treatment for years so have had to stop ttc as it’s not essential travel

I'm continuing to try. I'm of an age where every month counts. Of course the world is in turmoil but we can't stop everything for the unknown.
Do what feels right for you. I don't think it's selfish to want a child, it's the most natural instinct we have. There's never a perfect time.
I had a miscarriage in Sept otherwise my due date would have been tomorrow. It would have been a scary place to be in but I'd still do it again!

lynsey91- you can't tell people not to TTC - who do you think you are? I presume you don't have children, so why post on Mumsnet telling us we are all doomed?

It's had the opposite affect on me. I was planning on ttc as soon as possible, (just wanted to finalise a house move first). But now that's all on hold of course until this is all over. It has made me feel alot more mortal, and am actually even more eager to just ge tpregnant no matter whether other factors are sorted out, as reality has hit in how short life could be!

Yes @lynsey91, why are you in the conception forum?