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TMI- possible two fathers

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NameChangedMarch · 01/03/2020 17:10

Hi all, I have name changed for this as I really need some help.

I am late on my period today by 2 days.

Conceived date was 13th Feb. I have a 28 day usual cycle, no problem. I am not on any contraception at the moment...

I had sex with this man I am seeing at the moment (man 1) he finished in me 3 times over the course of 1 day/ evening. I had been staying at his for a few days. 13th was the only day we had sex (3 times).

Man 2 (my ex) I stupidly slept with the next day but we used protection. I was stupidly quite drunk, but the next day he told me he had w**ked himself off, and then put his 'covered' fingers inside me... I will not tell you what my reaction was to that AngrySad

This was when he was doing something to me....

I know this sounds really, really bad but please don't judge me. I feel silly for even asking this but I need some advice. If I do not come on over the next few days I will of course take a test.

Obviously man 1 has the most chance... but he is a heavy smoker of 15 years, I hear that can reduce the sperm quality? Man 2 is a lot more healthier Sad

Thank you to anyone who has read this x

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NameChangedMarch · 01/03/2020 20:05

@emzie17 I certainly will thank you, I will take a test tomorrow.

Do you know the soonest you can take a DNA test ? That can happen in the womb still can't it? X

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emzie17 · 01/03/2020 19:35

Man 1 is more likely.

You can’t say for certain. It’s best to wait to conduct a DNA test. That is the only way.

We aren’t here to judge you and I wish you the best... please keep us updated on the pregnancy test results x

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NameChangedMarch · 01/03/2020 18:35

Thank you so much for all your responses Thanks

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GaaaaarlicBread · 01/03/2020 18:17

@Flutteringsatlast 🤣🤣 Drs gloves 🧤

Flutteringsatlast · 01/03/2020 18:17

Sorry mid bathing a dc - - - was imagining gloves!!
Grin

GaaaaarlicBread · 01/03/2020 18:14

@Flutteringsatlast does it really need explaining ?? I think we all gather what OP meant...

IWantT0BreakFree · 01/03/2020 18:05

If it turns out that you are pregnant, there is absolutely no possible way to tell which man is the father until such time as you can conduct a paternity test. It’s really as simple as that. You could drive yourself crazy guessing but that’s the bottom line.

Flutteringsatlast · 01/03/2020 18:01

Maybe explain 'covered fingers'...

GaaaaarlicBread · 01/03/2020 17:59

Firstly don’t stress until you’ve got the positive test (if you do get a positive even). Do a test today, you could go to any corner shop or 24hr supermarket . It could be either guy but the most likely would be man 1. If you’re usually regular and you’re 2 days late it could be very likely. But nobody knows until you do a test.
No judgment here

Rtmhwales · 01/03/2020 17:55

They're literally a day apart. It could be either and there's no real way to narrow it down.

Lynda07 · 01/03/2020 17:39

It sounds like man1 is the father of your child. Heavy smoking may decrease sperm quality but in years gone by when most people, especially men, smoked, plenty of babies were conceived. Many of us wouldn't be here now if that theory was universally true.

Do a pregnancy test and then decide whether or not you want a baby at the moment. No need to tell possible dad at the moment.

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NameChangedMarch · 01/03/2020 17:35

@Livinginhope20 I will do a test tomorrow morning, thank you. I am just annoyed as I have put myself in this position.

I am not sure if I am looking more at man 1 or man 2. I can't believe it Sad

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Livinginhope20 · 01/03/2020 17:17

In reality ofcourse you could be pregnant, if you are late by 2 days you would get a positive test by now

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