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TMI- possible two fathers

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NameChangedMarch · 01/03/2020 17:10

Hi all, I have name changed for this as I really need some help.

I am late on my period today by 2 days.

Conceived date was 13th Feb. I have a 28 day usual cycle, no problem. I am not on any contraception at the moment...

I had sex with this man I am seeing at the moment (man 1) he finished in me 3 times over the course of 1 day/ evening. I had been staying at his for a few days. 13th was the only day we had sex (3 times).

Man 2 (my ex) I stupidly slept with the next day but we used protection. I was stupidly quite drunk, but the next day he told me he had w**ked himself off, and then put his 'covered' fingers inside me... I will not tell you what my reaction was to that AngrySad

This was when he was doing something to me....

I know this sounds really, really bad but please don't judge me. I feel silly for even asking this but I need some advice. If I do not come on over the next few days I will of course take a test.

Obviously man 1 has the most chance... but he is a heavy smoker of 15 years, I hear that can reduce the sperm quality? Man 2 is a lot more healthier Sad

Thank you to anyone who has read this x

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GaaaaarlicBread · 02/03/2020 12:48

Congrats ! (If it’s what you want ?!) xx

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NameChangedMarch · 02/03/2020 12:45

Just done a first response, so this is the second test showing positive x

TMI- possible two fathers
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NameChangedMarch · 02/03/2020 11:33

Thank you @LosingtheTTCplot that's very good advice x

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NameChangedMarch · 02/03/2020 11:32

I know it's a ridiculous situation. Thank you for all your comments.

ThanksBrew

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LosingtheTTCplot · 02/03/2020 11:32

Wow what a predicament and what a wanker for doing that to you, surely that is sexual assault and a serious breach of trust given you started with protection and then he chose to try and inseminate you!

I would think it’s partner 1, but as they were so close together it’s impossible to say.

I would be upfront with both of them, but you don’t have to do that yet. Sounds like you need to take a few days and stay away from the both of them until you have it sorted in your mind of what you want to do.

Good luck x

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NameChangedMarch · 02/03/2020 11:26

Man 1 I would like it to be. I just never thought it was possible to actually get pregnant with sperm on fingers. Sorry TMI.

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Ivysaurus · 02/03/2020 11:14

I would assume it was man 1's. Were you trying for a baby with him?

Giroscoper · 02/03/2020 10:40

Do you want to continue with the pregnancy? This is the first question before you move onto who the father is.

Both men sound awful, are you prepared to do this alone if needed? Or co-parent with whichever man it turns out to be?

Sunshineand · 02/03/2020 10:39

It's likely to be man 1. Who do you want it to be?

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NameChangedMarch · 02/03/2020 10:34

My situation is- I had sex with man 1 multiple times in 1 day.

Man 2 we didn't have sex... he finished and then put his fingers inside me without me knowing....

So sorry for TMI. Don't have anyone I can tell at the moment.

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NameChangedMarch · 02/03/2020 10:07

Thanks everyone. I am panicking right now.

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SlightlySleepy · 02/03/2020 10:02

Congratulations. It's still your lovely baby regardless if who the father is. I'd be very surprised if it was man 2 though.

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AnneJeanne · 02/03/2020 10:00

That’s positive?

Flutteringsatlast · 02/03/2020 09:58

Shit....

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NameChangedMarch · 02/03/2020 09:55

Update....

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NameChangedMarch · 01/03/2020 22:56

Not on contraception at the moment as I have not reacted well to the pill or implant.

I know it's a risk but, I am having sex when I don't ovulate only... it's worked for me before and friends. If I get BFP it's not the end of the world and I would be happy.

Thanks for all your comments x

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Heartofglass12345 · 01/03/2020 21:54

I'm not judging you I'm judging your twat of an ex for doing that to you Angry I bet you were furious! I hope you've learnt your lesson and don't sleep with him again!
It's probably more likely to be the 1st one, although why oh why did you have unprotected sex with him when you weren't on contraception? Hopefully it's a false alarm, unless you want a baby?

CassidyStone · 01/03/2020 20:51

Take a pregnancy test and see what the result is, before you start panicking about raising 800 quid for a prenatal DNA test. If the test is negative, then please get some contraception sorted so you don't have this dilemma again.

Do you actually want a child?

TorysSuckRevokeArticle50 · 01/03/2020 20:44

If you are not pregnant then please get your contraception situation sorted out.

Daisypod · 01/03/2020 20:37

That's not true about the DNA @emzie17 they take the dna from a blood sample of the mother not from the womb

emzie17 · 01/03/2020 20:32

Taking DNA from a baby in the womb can damage the development of the foetus... it can even result in a miscarriage.

It’s up to you... but it’s safer for the baby to wait until birth

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NameChangedMarch · 01/03/2020 20:25

@Babyshine2020 £800 oh my word 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

For peace of mind I would definitely have to pay that..

Thank you so much x

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Flutteringsatlast · 01/03/2020 20:24

Was thinking maybe the op's heating was broken and he had woolly gloves on!!

Babyshine2020 · 01/03/2020 20:13

@NameChange30 you can find out before birth (as early as 7 weeks) but they're around £800! I guess for piece of mind it's good, but that could be baby pram..!

Hard situation, If id have to pick I'd say man 1 is the father (presuming you get a BFP) but there is always a chance that man 2 could've impregnated you.

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