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TMI- possible two fathers

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NameChangedMarch · 01/03/2020 17:10

Hi all, I have name changed for this as I really need some help.

I am late on my period today by 2 days.

Conceived date was 13th Feb. I have a 28 day usual cycle, no problem. I am not on any contraception at the moment...

I had sex with this man I am seeing at the moment (man 1) he finished in me 3 times over the course of 1 day/ evening. I had been staying at his for a few days. 13th was the only day we had sex (3 times).

Man 2 (my ex) I stupidly slept with the next day but we used protection. I was stupidly quite drunk, but the next day he told me he had w**ked himself off, and then put his 'covered' fingers inside me... I will not tell you what my reaction was to that AngrySad

This was when he was doing something to me....

I know this sounds really, really bad but please don't judge me. I feel silly for even asking this but I need some advice. If I do not come on over the next few days I will of course take a test.

Obviously man 1 has the most chance... but he is a heavy smoker of 15 years, I hear that can reduce the sperm quality? Man 2 is a lot more healthier Sad

Thank you to anyone who has read this x

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onetime10 · 10/03/2020 20:33

@idiotseverywhere I hope you count yourself as one of those after that comment. Disgusting rude person.

idiotseverywhere · 10/03/2020 19:48

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Hoggleludo · 10/03/2020 18:05

It could be either. None of us were there

All these people saying it's man1. Giving the OP hopes up

The only way though. Is the dna test. In which case. You'd need to tell each man.

Hoggleludo · 10/03/2020 18:01

We can't tell you

No one on the internet can tell you

The only way you will know is anDNA test.

Lillipop87 · 10/03/2020 17:58

Don't see why she is getting so much grief she said she made a mistake and has learnt her lesson for it. No one's perfect and were all human. Op if you think a termination is what's right for you then that's your decision to make. However from previous things that you have said it sounds like you wanted to keep the baby so all I will say is be 100%sure before u decide. hope you are ok and that everything works out for you. X

WanderingTrolley1 · 10/03/2020 17:19

Not sure why mine was deleted...

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MummyNWife · 10/03/2020 15:43

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PickwickThePlockingDodo · 10/03/2020 14:51

Mummy my post was deleted for asking the same Hmm

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Windyatthebeach · 10/03/2020 14:35

Sperm quality /quantity won't answer anything..
My exh went for a vasectomy and was told it was unlikely he would have ever fathered a dc anyway. Deformed tube and low sperm count /mobility.
He had 3 x dc.
Please be more careful with your life choices op.
They may come back to bite you in future.
*non perfect mner here.
Flowers

WanderingTrolley1 · 10/03/2020 14:17

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JuanSheetIsPlenty · 10/03/2020 11:58

Why the decision to terminate, then?

Because she thought more about?

PickwickThePlockingDodo · 10/03/2020 08:57

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WanderingTrolley1 · 10/03/2020 02:09

If I get BFP it's not the end of the world and I would be happy.

Why the decision to terminate, then?

Raleighx · 09/03/2020 23:58

Seeing someone does not mean they are exclusive! Maybe they have never had that conversation and maybe man 1 has also been seeing other people. To come somewhere for genuine advice and get people saying that she should be ashamed I think is disgusting.

To make the decision to have an abortion is devastating enough. I guess OP knows how reckless they have been. People are so quick to get on their high horse.

Really hope this is not a trolling post. No idea what someone would get out of it...

MagnoliaJustice · 09/03/2020 22:33

Don't terminate this pregnancy unless you are absolutely sure you don't want a baby. If you are 29, with reduced fertility, you may not conceive again or it could take years. Think very carefully about what you want.

BecauseReasons · 09/03/2020 22:12

So, you want a baby and were trying to conceive but are aborting this one in case it has the wrong father, despite the fact your fertility is possibly sub-par to begin with? If you want a baby regardless, why not just keep this one (and report Man 2 for rape)?

JuanSheetIsPlenty · 09/03/2020 22:07

At least we agree that you didn't understand. grin

We don’t. I very clearly meant “misunderstand”. Which you know.

jazzibelle · 09/03/2020 21:38

Woah @MamaDane this is supposed to be a supportive place. You may feel a certain way based on your knowledge of her situation, but please don't leave it here. OP came here for advise, not judgement. Is there literally nowhere else to turn because even strangers on the internet are telling her to be ashamed. No-one is perfect, so be a bit kind hey?!

OneTimePrepper · 09/03/2020 21:15

Surely you mean two possible fathers and not possible two fathers.

MamaDane · 09/03/2020 21:13

@JuanSheetIsPlenty At least we agree that you didn't understand. Grin

JuanSheetIsPlenty · 09/03/2020 21:07

No I didn’t understand your point. You were trying to shame her for sleeping with two men. You can try and deny that all you want. And even if this turns out to be a troll the same goes for any other woman who has slept with two men in the same day. She has nothing to be ashamed of.

But if you think it’s a troll I advise you move on from the thread now.

MamaDane · 09/03/2020 21:02

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JuanSheetIsPlenty · 09/03/2020 20:54

Yeah that's not what I meant

Well then you should apologise because that’s exactly how it comes across.

FWIW- Op has stated that she didn’t cheat. Maybe try reading.