TTC first baby thread 24

Hi ladies my period has stopped Now and all it was was Brown spotting, it only lasted around 2 and a half to 3 days long .... what is happening

Afternoon :D

So AF decided to let me get my hopes up this month....she was 2 days late. Usually period starts on 14dpo but this month was 16dpo 🙄. So CD1 for me today

We are almost 90% sure we arent ttc this cycle but will still be sticking around :) hows everyone doing?

@whatsthecraic91 have you tested??

@kiza if your OPKs had gone back to low I would be tempted to say you had ovulated but because they are still high I am unsure :S

@CoalCraft hopefully you have more of an idea of what your body is doing soon 🤞🤞

@Lottiepink yep wfh is a bit of a bore after a while but very thankful for the opportunity to be at home!

Hope everyone had a restful weekend xx Had a little personal victory - managed to find some pasta!

Think I might have spoken too soon re the period. There was one bit of bright red blood Saturday eve but then nothing but tiny spots of brown mixed with cm (sorry, tmi) all Sunday and this morning. Not really sure what's going on tbh but assume it's all part of the getting back to normal process

Good morning everyone,

Been a crazy few weeks, and only going to get worse!

Hope you are all coping in this awful situation 😭😭

I'm now wfh, and finding it very strange, but very lucky in the fact that it means I'm not going to be as exposed. I can't believe that so many of you are having to travel to work. That's dreadful, especially when not really given reasons why you can't. Hope you all have a chilled Sunday planned, before the chaos starts again tomorrow! Will try and go through the messages and catch up properly later 😊

Ladies what do you think? Do you think cd17 was my peak and I just had a super short lh surge or maybe I still haven't O yet? It's so odd as I'm usually like clockwork (except for last months HSG)

Hi all - I wanted to join this thread if that's ok :) I'm on day 6 of my first cycle since we decided to try and this would be our first child. I know the timing is terrible but I am fit and healthy and we have been waiting for years for the timing to be 'just right' and it never seems to happen, so we've had a lot of talks about life goals and priorities and here we are... I just read the most recent updates and noticed that ToCaden is a DWP civil servant too! I work in an office of EO's and none of us have laptops or any facility to work from home, despite it being completely plausible to do so. They just ask us to keep on as we are doing, going into the office. Scary times

@Lozzlepop ... I didn't even consider all the extra hand washing, I feel daft now! I also realised that in my cleaning blitz before we moved I was using lots of cleaning products I don't normally and didn't use gloves so that probably contributed too.

@ToCaden Uch I'm sorry that's awful that you and your colleagues still have to go in :(

@Fueledwithfairydustandgin Welcome! Hope it all goes smoothly and quickly for you ^^ I'm a newb too, still learning how it all works

@whatsthecraic91 Yes I think it might be the extra hand washing; feel silly for not realising! Luckily have seem to be back to normal now so perhaps they've adjusted (my skin is anything but dry normally!) I'm sorry about your fainting, must've been scary, and goodness a 70 hour week, you must be shattered! I hope you're able to get some R&R soon X

@Annny27 sounds sensible for you to miss a month under your circumstances, and I'm sure the break won't matter longterm. I just want this sodding virus gone from the world now and I'm sure everyone feels the same :(

@PeggyToo Welcome! Sorry I'm not familiar with Clear blues but wishing you all the best!

Well, think my first period after stopping pill has arrived! Bit surprised as it's quite soon - I only took my last pill (combined) around the 3rd this month - and also I didn't notice any ewcm or other ovulation signs so don't think I ovulated, but hey ho. Body's gonna take a wee while to sort itself out, no doubt.

Was 3 days late this month, had a very very very faint positive hen started spotting Brown discharge with lots of cervical mucus in it. 2nd day of this discharge and I'm about 70% sure it's my period but if it lasts more than the day after tomorrow I'll know for deifnlety as the spotting started yesterday around this time x

@whatsthecraic91 bless you, I hope you manage to get some rest, you need to look after yourself. What do you do if you don't mind me asking?

@Annny27 sorry to see it was another BFN, it seems very sensible to take a break with your history.

@Kiza that's ridiculous that there's no reason to be in the office but they won't let you wfh!

@ToCaden it's the same in our hospitals, there aren't many laptops and I don't know if they don't want to or can't buy more. It seems like some departments are all wfh and some are not simply because they don't have laptops. Hopefully I am getting a laptop next week and will be wfh most of the week. Most of my team will have to be in the office as we don't have any laptops to give them and we still need people in the office to do some tasks that can't be done from home. I have moved everyone to different desks so they are 2m apart, I'm not letting anyone else in our offices, they all have to sanitise their hands on entry and exit and we now come in a separate entrance. If you have to get public transport will they let you adjust your hours so it's not at rush hour? That is what we are doing for staff that have to be in.

@PeggyToo welcome! Sorry I haven't used the monitor so not sure. Have you used any of the cheap OPKs alongside it just so you can compare?

@Kiza I know it's mental I'm stressed to the absolute max so I reckon it's to do with that. I will test in the morning anyway as I will be 13DPO. I am not eating properly or taking breaks 😥 Maybe your body is still stressed from the HSG? And all these happenings at the minute won't help either.

@Annny27 sorry about BFN, we are wondering if we should take a break next cycle if I'm not pregnant, makes me sad to not try too.

@ToCaden just home from work so not moving off the sofa the rest of the weekend 😌 my sister works in financial services and her workplace, delivered her own desk, chair and PC that she uses at work to her house and to everyone's houses so they didn't have to buy laptops which I thought was a brilliant idea. So she has her work station all set up in her living room 😂

@ToCaden it's so unfair isn't it? I work for the NHS and like you said these organisations are the ones giving out the advice but not always following it.
We have laptops and phones and all our therapy has been switched to video/telephone so no reason why a skeleton team can't be in as opposed to 40 of us! We used to wfh before all this but now he's said no with no justifiable reason?!
Some of our staff also use public transport and have said it's so busy due to reduced timetables. So unfair. I can understand why @Annny27 have decided to have a months break

@Anny27 I'm a essential worker (work for the DWP doing admin on UC cases), but it's all on the computer so if provided with an encrypted laptop would be able to do my role from home.

There are a few line managers who had laptops prior to the virus. They were able to work from home and need to access most of the same programs the main admin staff do. None of the main admin staff are allowed to wfh.

When we asked last week there were no laptops on order for us, and only a few laptops on order for the whole of the county which automatically go to higher grades.

Hoping it'll have changed when I go back monday. But considering staff have pushed for home working years prior to this (lots of disabled members of staff) I don't have much hope.

Thats made me angry to know some employers dont care :( are you an essential service that it's required to be in the office? @tocaden?

I am a keyworker but can do my job at home so my company have said ofcourse be at home. Frustrates me that other companies wont :(

Thanks guys. And nope. We asked directly last week and it was a flat no to wfh. Some of the higher ranks had laptops prior to the virus so are able to, but none of us main office staff.

I use public transport as well so it is a worry. And our office has always been a germ central due to staff being penalised for being sick (which I'm hoping won't continue).

We've never been given a good reason as to why we can't wfh. In the past it's been down to managers with old fashioned thinking, and possibly our branch of the government (I actually work for the government who's giving all this advice they're not following themselves!) not wanting to spend out on laptops.

It's also distressing as so many of the staff are disabled with risk factors so are sensibly isolating at home and are still not given the resources to continue their work.

We work on UC and are understaffed at the best of times so not nice being unable to do a good job when the solution is so obvious.

@Kiza that's a good idea. I'll see if there's somewhere I can report it to.

@whatsthecraic91 poor you. Please make sure to rest as much as possible. There is no such thing as too much sleep when you're unwell.

@peggytoo hello there. Welcome. Can't help you with the clear blue as I haven't used them, but I'm sure someone on here will be able to give some advice.

Hello! New here, not up on the acronyms yet, 18mths trying, slightly tearing hair out.

Got a Clearblue Fertility Monitor from eBay as they're supposed to last, yet have been testing and got two positive tests high fertility, all the rest have been errors!

I did spot some Clearblue Fertility threads but they all seemed ancient! Apologies if I've missed it.

Morning - 14dpo and bfn so waiting for AF to arrive now. My temps are still high so I imagine she will arrive tomorrow at 15dpo 🙄

We have decided to take a month break from ttc because of coronavirus - our local EPU has stopped seeing patients apart from ectopic and have also stopped miscarriage surgery. I needed a lot of care last pregnancy and so it makes sense for me to wait a month and reevaluate the situation after that. Feels rubbish to skip a month but hopefully wont make too much of an impact.

@whatsthecraic91 ooh it could be exhaustion or could be early pregnant ditzyness! Why not take a test 🤞🤞

@kiza sounds like another delayed ovulation then - perhaps the stress of everything going on has caused a delay?

@Lozzlepop yep I know what you mean I am feeling super anxious about the whole situation

@ToCaden hope they let you wfh soon :(

@CoalCraft my hands are super dry from all the extra handwashing so could be same for tou

@Fueledwithfairydustandgin 'as you were' 😆

@Lozzlepop she said 3 months as no tests are being done our way. Both the 2 hospitals in Birmingham are inundated with Covid patients and they are closing off some departments to help make room.
@XjustagirlX yeah it wasn't until my DP got his results that he started taking it more seriously. Sounds like the wfh will be really good for his lifestyle changes.
@ToCaden have they offered to give you a laptop to wfh? Our staff team have pushed back majority to our manager and I anonymously reported him to our local public health department as he's putting us all at risk unnecessarily.

@whatsthecraic91 oh no! 70hours?! Boy on top of the stress of work at the moment as well. Are you managing to eat well and take breaks or is it really full on?
CD 19 for me and still not reached peak for O again, 2 months in the row now after the HSG. I wonder if I've missed it this month? But I've had not had much ewcm nor felt the usually horniness this month so it's a bit weird 🤷🏼‍♀️

@Annny27 hey how are you? Have you tested again or has the witch arrived yet?

@Lozzlepop my nips aren't really sore anymore ☹️

11DPO today. I fainted at work today and had to be sent home I've been in bed ever since. Extremely dizzy and feel like complete shit. I'll don't know when to test. It might not even be related, I've worked 70 hours this week so it could be complete exhaustion 😥. Have had wee bits of pink spotting since yesterday so maybe AF is on her way.

@CoalCraft could be the washing and hand sanitiser my hands are cracked and sore from using it, my skin is peeling off around my nails 😢 I've been slathering in body butter and putting gloves on to bed each night it really helps.

Actually ignore me. Just read the thread title and it’s not my first as you were

Can I join in? We have not long started trying so not properly organised with cycles and things but I’ve just got the flo app to try and get a bit more of a clue. We are currently just DTD every other day

Not allowed to work from home here either. 1.5hr usual commute to work. All my work is based on the computer.

Hi ladies!

Happy Friday, although the days all seem to be merging into one at the minute.

@Factualmistakes sorry to hear it was a BFN, thats annoying- has anything happened this month that may have delayed AF? Any stresses aside from coping with a pandemic? 🙈

@CoalCraft thats good, moving house is stressful enough as it is, without any unnecessary delays. Thats good you have some wfh days, sound like you will be socially distanced enough when you do go in too. I found my hands were really dry from all the extra handwashing and the sun under my engagement ring was all starting to peel. Since I have been home and not going out and having to handwash less it seems better.

@XjustagirlX ah ok, thanks for letting me know. How long would you have to wait to get a private appointment? I am surprised they are not offering them to be honest as the hospital was cancelling everything "non essential" that involved face to face interactions. Did you ask for a phone consultation?

@Kiza he has now fully stopped drinking coffee and alcohol. Now we are both wfh he isn’t actually wearing any boxers anymore just loose joggers. We already make most food from scratch and he takes the pregnacare vitamins. I think the main one we will try and do is more exercise and he has stopped baths completely. It’s very frustrating that for months I have been asking him not to drink alcohol or have hot baths and he has only just realised the importance of it.

@Lozzlepop basically after our go results were “normal”. We waiting a couple of months and still nothing so my go referred me to the hospital for further tests. As my DH has a doctor in a different area we needed a copy of his SA to take to the hospital so we had to request it from the GP.

Unfortunately our fertility appointment with the hospital has now been cancelled. We are thinking of phoning up a private clinic as they are doing phone appointments.

@Lozzlepop It went well, thank you! Few delays but it all worked out. We were lucky given the circumstances. Am now allowed to wfh some days, roughly two days a week. Whether that changes pretty much depends on if the government make another announcement that basically means I can't. When I do go in though there's only like 5 of us on a floor that normally holds 40 and we're well spaced so I feel reasonably safe.

@Factualmistakes Sorry about the bfn, sounds like a confusing and frustrating scenario :(

Has anyone ever had dry skin as a symptom of coming off hormonal BC or as part of their cycle? I never usually have dry skin but a few days ago my hands suddenly got really dry and even started to crack, but now they're all better again - very odd!

Though of course it could be something unrelated. Can't think of any new products I've been in contact with but I guess you never know.

Hope everyone is ok today.

So I tested this morning and it was a BFN but there has still been no AF. Unless this month it has decided to disguise itself as a whole load of spotting. Now 4 days late and I have never had a cycle this long so who knows what is going on.