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Ttc at 40 something!

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Mumof4andahalf · 11/02/2020 21:04

Probably the only place I feel comfortable enough to share details of when I had sex and what is going on with my vagina 😳
So as the title says I'm 40 and some extra and desperately ttc since 2017, I've had 2 miscarriages in this time 1 being a Mmc and the other at week 12 which was horrendous. If you want to join for some love, support and a chat please do!
Don't let me be Billy no mates 😢

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Mumof4andahalf · 19/05/2020 11:24

@lucieloos I'm so sorry if it's an evap. I always thought frer were the best.

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lucieloos · 19/05/2020 10:12

@Mumof4andahalf no maybe not but at 13dpo I would expect a decent line on a frer. I'm finding them so bad for evaps now which is probably what this is. They didn't use to be like this a few years back. Could always rely on them but not anymore.

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Mumof4andahalf · 19/05/2020 10:01

@lucieloos the digi's are not as sensitive as frer so dont give up hope yet x

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lucieloos · 19/05/2020 08:57

So 13dpo I did a frer with fmu. I thought a faint line came up straight away. Not too much squinting but not pink. Thought I would do a digi just so I knew once and for all and it was not pregnant so that's the end of that. Still no af though. I'm 3 days late now and just fed up and wish it would hurry up so can get all this over with.

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Mumof4andahalf · 18/05/2020 23:06

@Anxiousbuthopeful Thankyou so much

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Mumof4andahalf · 18/05/2020 23:05

@Sunshinelove8 yes I will, I took it after my miscarriage as it was supposed to help and it seemed to but when I looked online there seems to be so much conflicting advice as always 🙄 I will contact doctors tomorrow.

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Anxiousbuthopeful · 18/05/2020 23:01

Oh my god @Mumof4andahalf congratulations! I am so pleased for you. Fingers crossed.

Sunshinelove8 · 18/05/2020 22:46

It can help if mc is caused by something called sticky blood . Anti phospholipid (can’t spell it) syndrome . Some mcs are caused by this . I’ve read a lot about it . At the fertility clinic I got tests done out they give it as standard if you get bfp. The only negative I read is that a study found it could increase bleeds (haematoma) but it seemed to be in conjunction with other things like steroids. The dosage is so low (hence ‘baby’) my sister also took it and had two healthy pregnancies after mcs . I’m just going to give it a shot as I want to do something different after mcs. Why don’t you have a read and ask midwife x

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Mumof4andahalf · 18/05/2020 21:44

@Sunshinelove8 I'm not sure about baby aspirin, can it help and is it safe? Do I need to take advice from a m/w before starting it?
I'm very excited just apprehensive

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Sunshinelove8 · 18/05/2020 21:22

I’ve had three mc this last year - I totally hear you . Are you doing baby aspirin ? I’m going to do that if I’m lucky to get a bfp . Wishing you a happy and healthy 9 months , I know it’s hard to get excited and you probably won’t until 12 week scan but I hope you feel happy for now xx

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Mumof4andahalf · 18/05/2020 21:11

@lucieloos 13 dpo I think. I've had 2 losses in 2 years though so trying hard not to get my hopes up.

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lucieloos · 18/05/2020 21:03

@Mumof4andahalf wow that's amazing! What dpo are you?

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Mumof4andahalf · 18/05/2020 21:01

@Sunshinelove8 Thankyou and no nothing different x

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Sunshinelove8 · 18/05/2020 20:48

Did you do anything different this cycle ? X

Sunshinelove8 · 18/05/2020 20:10

Oh wow !! Congrats ! Good line ! X

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Mumof4andahalf · 18/05/2020 19:42

I've just poured myself a large glass of wine, 2 mouthfuls and something said to me to test!

Ttc at 40 something!
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Sunshinelove8 · 18/05/2020 12:16

Yeah I hear you hun. Despite the negative tests , I still always keep a glimmer of hope until af properly shows . It’s cruel isn’t it . As many have said before , I wish there was a clear sign straight after implantation happens to let us know either way , like your pee goes bright pink or something 😆 the waiting , wondering etc are so hard . I hope AF doesn’t come , let’s see 🤞

lucieloos · 18/05/2020 11:44

No I don't have a confirmed ovulation. I did the digi opks and had high on cd 12 and peak on cd 13 and so assuming I ovulated on cd14. They normally seem quite accurate for me. My cycles are pretty regular and on the shorter side normally between 23-26 days. I'm cd 26 today. I've been through so much with ttc though to know how it all works. You get a tiny bit of hope and then more often than not it's all dashed away so I know not to expect anything and it's generally one of those things sent to drive us mad. I feel like af will be here today so that will probably be the case.

Sunshinelove8 · 18/05/2020 11:20

Do you know when you ovulated - Do you do bbt tracking etc I’m due on today but despite opk think I ovulated later then it said based on a private progesterone test I had this cycle. That explains why I’m late (know it won’t be today as I get major cramps before it)

lucieloos · 18/05/2020 11:15

Thanks @Sunshinelove8 yes I don't know whether they were indents or not. I definitely don't have a luteal phase this long though. I'm too scared to test again. Maybe if still nothing by tomorrow.

Sunshinelove8 · 18/05/2020 11:11

Yes the frer are the best . I would test again in case you implanted late (I read the average is day 9) of course pg symptoms can only occur have implantation ( I also feel a tonne of symptoms and realise it’s progesterone - the other witch - mocking me !) I wonder about the lines on the early frers you did as unfortunately they are well know for indents , a few of my past forum had pink lines on occasion which were visible on photos so if I get a line I try other tests alongside frer x fingers crossed 🤞 hoping you get a bfp xx

lucieloos · 18/05/2020 11:02

Sorry frer

lucieloos · 18/05/2020 11:02

@Sunshinelove8 I tested with free and 9 and 10dpo.

CritterTamer · 18/05/2020 10:50

1DPO here. This is my last cycle of trying before we go back for the FET the was cancelled due to CV19 in March. I'll be using progesterone pessaries to lengthen my 9 day LP to give it one last shot.

Sunshinelove8 · 18/05/2020 10:47

Hi lucieloos what are you testing with ?

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