Ttc at 40 something!

Chemical pregnancy. Such sadness.

Sorry, forgot to add that after my section I needed a hysteroscopy to clear scar tissue and was told that I likely had a blocked tube so the chances of falling pregnant naturally were tough.....

Hello ladies...popping by with a happy story to hopefully keep spirits up ❤️

I didn't meet my DH until I was 37 and so we started trying pretty much right after getting married at 38 (DH being a year older). Had one chemical pregnancy and then a mmc before 12 weeks later the same year. Totally threw me as I'd naively assumed all would be fine. I then went on a bit of a mission to get tested for NK cells etc (just didn't want to have more losses if it could be helped). Spent thousands. Got very ill on a programme of steroids. Had another loss at 8 weeks while on the meds. Decided to give up the protocol as I was so unwell (had the shakes, palpitations, extreme fatigue) and let nature take its course. I carried on with ubiquinol supplements, gentle exercise and five elements acupuncture (not the same as traditional acupuncture). A few months later fell pregnant and had my DD a month after my 40th . Started trying again about a year afterwards (I had a section so had to wait). Had another early loss at around 8/9 weeks again. AMH tested and average for age. Fell pregnant and had DS early this year at the age of 42 and a half! It can happen 🙏🏼❤️

The only other thing I did besides the above was to use temperature tracking - for the last two pregnancies I bought an Ava bracelet. Due to DH's shifts we only managed to DTD a couple of times each cycle which is totally contrary to the advice of trying more regularly. On at least a few of those (including the cycle with my last pregnancy) I ended up self-inseminating as he was just too tired and I wasn't about to waste any days when we finally did end up in the house at the same time

Somehow we got lucky...but I hope it helps even if to give some moral support about pregnancy after 40. It wasn't smooth sailing but you can get there ❤️❤️❤️❤️ xxx

Hey everyone,

I'm halfway through AF and feeling really sad today 😔 just that it's so far out of reach for us now, we've been trying for almost two years. I know I should think myself lucky for the children I have. Ttc is just always on my mind.

So AF came yesterday in the end.
So here we go again!

@Mumof4andahalf thank you! fingers crossed...

Hello everyone. Hope you are keeping well. So I got a faint positive on my first response test yesterday. I tested again today and it is exactly the same. It is ok for the line not to be getting darker? I am still a day away from the expected start of my period. Thank you for your help.

@KellyMarieTunstall2 So reassuring - thank you!

Hi @mazdaz25. Yes, all well here, thanks. Yesterday I was worried that I didn’t feel as sick but it’s back with a vengeance today! Booking appointment with the MW booked for 30th March.
Hope everyone else is keeping ok.

Hi ladies
I'm not TTC but just wanted to wish you all well. I had no 2 at 42 and no 3 at 44. Keep trying, stay positive, it's not over until the menopause

@Mumof4andahalf any news?
@chickoletta hope everything is going ok?
I'm due AF either tomorrow/fri/sat. I do vary between 24-26 day cycles!
Been having tender boobs since last Fri but I do get that pre AF too!! Otherwise no other symptoms. Will wait till next week to test though!

What a lovely thread and refreshing to read.

I am 40 and TTC #2. 2 x miscarriages before our DD and 2 after as well and now just recovering from a failed IVF cycle. Me and DH decided we would stop trying if the IVF was unsuccessful but he really wants to carry on trying for another year. I'm not so sure. It's so bloody sad and I think deep down I am coming to terms with having an only child even though that wasn't our intention. I got married at 34 and we starting ttc straight away so that's 6 years so far of ttc/miscarriages/investigations/pregnancy etc etc and I think I want to move on now. BUT...if I was pregnant now it would be amazing.

Hi. I am also 41, turning 42 in July. Have been trying for a few months for a first (and only!) baby. Very low AMH but everything else looks ok. Not sure what my chances are but trying to keep some sort of balance.

@bb077 Same- trying to eat a little healthier, on the vitamins and I've just started on pilates at home. That's my other vain worry about getting preg again, especially when older- the weight gain. I always seem to blow up, and I'm afraid of what that will mean to my aged body! I'm just hoping for the best. I'd love to hold a little again! Good luck to you!!

@claire7930 thank you x
@PMB123 I also have 2 others 21 and 14 so the baby I lost was unexpected but so loved ....I'm just going to try and get my body and mind to a place where I'm accepting of what is to be . Got my hubby on those mens prenatal tablets with me and I'm now back at yoga and trying to eat well which is hard when I get in one of my moods. My yoga teacher said acupuncture is used a lot by those trying to conceive so I'm gonna give that a try and I just bought one of those clear view monitor things so if I do decide it's what I want to do I'm ready!

Just need my AF back ! Never thought I would say that !

Hi @Mumof4andahalf
I am pregnant at 41 so don't give up! I would recommend, however, that you try to get fertility testing done or recurrent miscarriage tests.... normally you'd have to have 3 miscarriages but my doctor got me referred after only 2, due to my age.... they check thyroid and various antibodies and as a result I've have various medications throughout this pregnancy (they found thyroid antibodies and blood clotting issues). Good luck!

Hi @bb077
I had a miscarriage at 42 as well. I was devastated, and surprised by how emotional it was. Decided to leave it at that, and didn't think of trying again.
Well, here I am now at 44, trying again. Yup, that desire to have a 3rd kid was still there all along, and we decided now or never.
Letting you know this, because I wish I didn't wait 2 years to try again, as now my chances are probably lower- I'm older, my other kids are older, etc, etc... I did get preg last month, but sadly, ended in a very early miscarriage /chemical this time... Waiting on ovulation now, to try yet again.
This is just my experience.
I'm so sorry you had to go through this, it does get better with time, and the sadness fades...but for me, the want for a 3rd kid was still there.

Great news @Chickoletta, keeping everything crossed for you! I'm trying to hold off testing until Friday, helped by the fact that my alarm didn't go off this morning so I wasn't tempted to test when I got up as there was no time!

So sorry to hear that @bb077, can totally understand your mixed emotions xx

hey all, I'm 42 have 2 children 21 was 14 . I had a MMC (missed miscarriage) 31/01/20 went for my 12 week scan and was told that there was no heartbeat, my husband and I were devastated. I opted for the tablets and later that day ended up in A&E and rushed off for an emergency SMM. my bleeding after the surgery luted about a week and a half ...now I'm unsure as to when my period is due when I will ovulate again. the experience was so traumatic Im in two minds as to if I even want to go through this again sad

Thank you so much.
@Mumof4andahalf - When it comes to ‘symptoms’, I’ve not had many really. Have felt sick over the last few days. Not carsick kind of nauseous, eaten too much and feel like I might throw up kind of sick! As I said before though, I’ve had other months when I’ve felt sick for various reasons, so tried not to think too much of it. Today I’ve had low down cramps pains and diarrhoea (TMI?) which I took as signs that AF was on her way, but it seems not. Keeping everything crossed for you and that mine is a sticky one...

@Chickoletta ooh that's so exciting - congratulations 🥳