Ttc at 40 something!

Congratulations @bitheby! Keep us posted! And @Mumof4andahalf, I am sorry you are feeling down. For me, AF arrived today, 25 days after last month’s chemical pregnancy. I was expecting a normal or even a longer cycle, not sure why it would be shorter. I am also disappointed because I’d heard fertility is higher immediately after an early miscarriage, so had allowed myself to get my hopes up a bit...

Congrats @bitheby 🤞

Well it's still there...

I'm such a novice at this. Despite being in my 40s this is my first time TTC and my first ever positives.

It's not as dark as I would like but my wee was quite diluted this morning for some reason.

I still can't make myself believe or get excited yet. I want a nice dark line.

AF is due today. I'm about 13 DPO.

42 here and I'm testing tomorrow morning at 15 dpo - been on progesterone pessaries since ovulation to try to lengthen my current 9 day LP (which has worked), but I have absolutely no symptoms, not even anything from the progesterone which is weird, so zero expectations.
Hope that line is stronger today @CoronaVera 🤞

Not sock puppeting. Didn't remember that I'd been on this thread under my other name.

Plus I agree with everything CoronaVera says. She sounds like a bright young woman ;)

No. Stay positive. I'm 43. I had a faint line this morning. Still expecting it to have gone by tomorrow. Totally managing my expectations as low as possible to manage my emotions.

While there is a chance there is always hope.

Welcome and good luck to the new joiners.

Well, we did it - we moved house in an epidemic! I have never been so stressed
or exhausted in my life (had to do it all
completely by ourselves) and hope that the stress doesn’t affect the baby. Now to relax for a bit.

@bitheby it sounds like you're having a tough time at the moment - be kind to yourself, you're doing an amazing job! Maybe try a mindfulness app such as headspace, and give yourself 15 minutes each day to meditate and focus on yourself - I found it very helpful when going through my IVF cycles.
Looks like we're at a similar point - I'm 7 or possibly 6 dpo today too.

Hi

Am so completely exhausted I'm struggling to take in information but am also wired and struggling to sleep. Vicious circle. Work in NHS - not frontline but incredibly busy.

So I'm 6DPO on Friday but I didn't have time to track ovulation this cycle so that's only based on my best guess.

I'm 43 so have to keep pressing on. If this cycle doesn't work though then I don't know what I'll do because I'm TTC with a donor and won't be able to see him.

Really need some cycle buddies and to focus only on TTC for a window in the day so I can forget everything else going on around me.

Hi ladies, also wanted to just share a positive story as I’m currently 22 weeks pregnant with my 3rd baby and I’m 44. My other 2 were born when I was 37 and 38. This pregnancy was a complete shock as we hadn’t been actively trying and I’ve been ready for something to go wrong but fingers crossed all looks ok so far. I felt absolutely ancient at first but no medical professional has so much as batted an eyelid - I really do think 40+ pregnancies are not seen as particularly unusual now. Wishing you all the very best.

Hi ladies, mind if I join you? I'm 42 and am incredibly lucky to have beautiful 10mo twins from our last (second) IVF cycle, but despite an obstetric emergency which almost cost all three of us our lives 34 weeks into the pregnancy, almost from a few days after they were born the urge for another has been with me. I had PTSD, and assumed initially that the urge for another was something to do with that, but it's only become stronger, so we decided to go ahead and do a FET as we have two good quality embryos on ice from that IVF cycle. Was booked in to start treatment this week but obviously it's all been cancelled now so an giving it one last shot naturally. I have almost zero hope or expectations as I've never been able to achieve so much as a chemical pregnancy naturally (think I have issues with implantation and the endometrial scratch i had for our second cycle did the trick), and I have a short luteal phase at 10 days pre pregnancy, and 9 days max post pregnancy) breast feeding. Since I have an my drugs for the FET cycle in using the progesterone pessaries to lengthen my LP for the next few cycles to at least give my body a fighting chance! Currently 5/6 dpo.
So many people say it's wrong to be TTC'ing at the moment, but it feels like such a long shot anyway that there just isn't the time to waste. It's been nice reading all the positive stories on this thread though, and would be nice to have some company on the journey.
Sorry for the long post - feels good to get it off my chest a little 😊

Sorry to hear that things are stressful @Mumof4andahalf - if it makes you feel any better, they’re probably worse here! I’m fine and my pregnancy is progressing well as far as I can tell.
BUT...
We are in the middle of a house move. Not sure that there’s been a worse time in history to move house, but here we are. Removers have cancelled as they are now not allowed to operate any more and we are moving ourselves, whilst also trying to wfh (teacher) and home school the kids. We should have exchanged today, but one of the solicitors further down the line has gone completely AWOL. In the meantime, we have moved half our stuff out and booked an empty holiday let for 6 weeks with no guarantee that we’ll actually get the money tomorrow!! Trying to stay calm for the sake of the baby, but it’s not easy...

Oooh @chickoletta! How exciting. All good over here, I live in Milan (Italy) so pretty hard hit but just staying home and laying low. How is everyone else?

Hi ladies. Just checking in. Hope you’re all keeping well. Maybe self-isolation with partners will be good for TTC...?!
I am now 7+3 and doing well, I think. Will be glad to get to my scan. No date set yet. Take care in these crazy times everyone. X

I'm another who isnt TTC, but I had DC2 at 44. A lovely surprise, I thought I was going through menopause.

So pleased! It CAN happen! Dusting myself off, will try again this coming month and let you all know.

I’m really well thanks, @Anxiousbuthopeful. Very tired and struggling to keep on top of work, kids and impending house move as I want to go to bed at 9pm, but grateful to be still hanging on in there for now!

@Chickoletta thank you. How are you doing?

@Anxiousbuthopeful - so sorry to read this. Thinking of you. X

@Holidaywindowshopperaddict no IVF, natural conceptions fortunately.

I just had a baby & im 40 was trying for a year went & got a smear test & got pregnant just after that so i do think this is what helped me get pregnant
Good luck to u all x

@KellyMarieTunstall2
Hope you don't mind, could I please ask...were they through IVF?