Feb Bus Pt 2

@MrsTwentyEight yeah same. Every month I've thought we need to do extra days but it is difficult. All I'm thinking is I've been at it since December doing it the 'right' week and it's never worked yet. And this is the only thing I haven't tried. 🤣

How was Holland @Juno231 ?? Are you still there ? Sorry I forget what the plan was.

@Juno231 I tested today but I didn’t even do it properly as I had no faith ....didn’t use a sample cup like I needed to for the internet cheapie ...BFN regardless on 12DPO so I’m out for the month. Pretty sure AF will show her ugly face on Wednesday on time😖

@paintfairy you’re right and I was thinking the same. I always stick to the FW and I really should stop. I tell myself every month that we will DTD every 2-3 days and forget the FW but this never happens. Seriously going to attempt this in August but my worry is burn out during actually FW. But the more the sperm is replenished ...the better anyway right 👀 Ahh who knows! Maybe it’s just not our time just yet....

@Juno231 I've no idea. I just think we maybe don't work like clockwork. And so many people seem to manage it by accident. That by us timing it to that week is the actual reason we are failing? That's why i wondered if either of you dtd after. Because if you said yes, I'd think it can't be that. But if none of us ever do then it makes me wonder, is all.......

@paintfairy hm but do you reckon those are people who don't bbt and therefore don't know when they ovulate? I've seen a few on here who realised several months in for instance that their peak OPKs were actually just a first surge and therefore they kept missing their actual ovulation.

@Juno231 I was more thinking that I've read about people ending up pregnant when completely avoiding the FW. And therefore by doing it only then it'll never happen, if you are one of those people who's body 'don't follow the rules' as it were? So if you only dtd during fw you'll never actually become pregnant.

But yes- trying to carry on is a struggle a agree. Not enough hours in the day!

@paintfairy OH is dead after FW so we tend to pick it back up after AF pretty much. I've seen plenty about DTD around implantation potentially interrupting implantation (although it seems a bit fringe/unlikely) but don't see how DTD could be helpful? Doesn't hurt to try though!

@MrsTwentyEight have you tested again?

My AF did that thing again where I thought it started on Sat but I think was just heavy spotting in the end. Had nothing on Sun and had an even bigger temp drop today with actual AF showing up. That means I've had a 31 day cycle which is my longest yet since I came off the pill in Oct!

@MrsTwentyEight I don't get as upset now. But it is disappointing.

I've been thinking. Lol. Do any of you dtd after the fertile window has passed? @Juno231

We don't really. We start early after AF. But although we carry on until I'm sure the FW has ended (by temp) we never seem to do it after that really. I had one month (jan) where we did. And I had strange cramps and bleeding that month (technically 10dpo) that I've never had before or since. I put it down to it being a bad idea to dtd around implantation time. But what actually if its quite the opposite? And dtd later is actually what I need to be doing?

This month we kind of have. We dtd Tuesday (possibly ovulated Sunday or even that day) and then again last night. But we still missed the middle. Its just hard to keep it up all the time. But I'm beginning to wonder if I'm timing it wrong and following what is 'supposed' to happen and missing when I should be doing it?!

@paintfairy I know you’re right. I wish I didn’t feel so disappointed every time. Or spend time googling whether 11DPO is too early to test (every.single.time)

@MrsTwentyEight oh no, rubbish. I'm sorry, keep plodding on? At least you aren't on your own. It's frustrating though.

@Juno231@paintfairy 11DPO today BFN on cheapie ...looks like it’s August bus for me too! 😕

@Juno231 ffs. How hard can it be? 😂
Really annoys me how some people it just happens for. Why are those people not us?

Enjoy your time away though. At least you can get drunk and forget about it! Onwards and upwards x

@MrsTwentyEight it was indeed a FRER 😅
Fingers crossed for you for the next few days x

@Juno231 was it a FRER ? Not out till AF! Remember that!
9DPO BFN on a cheapie for me 😂

@paintfairy I did! Such a BFN 😅. Totally expected it though. Cycle 8 it is!

@MrsTwentyEight My heart rate today is 70. Which tells me nothing because I've nothing at all to compare it to. 🤣

Did you test? @Juno231

I believe as long as you're not exerting yourself, its considered resting? eg ..sat down on sofa

@MrsTwentyEight we've got a blood pressure thing that takes your heart rate. I'm tempted to try it! I'm not sure what resting means though? How long do you need to have been sat for?

Oh man now I'm obsessing over my resting 88 HR haha @paintfairy @Juno231

@paintfairy ha yes but through my fitbit so takes no effort on my part!

@Juno231 ah. So do you measure your heart rate daily? How? 🤣 Something else for me to obsess over!

@paintfairy resting heart rate! It drops before AF so is a pretty tell tale sign. If preggers it stays high and usually goes higher and higher in the days before a BFP.

@Juno231 what is RHR? I use FF but only have the free version.

@paintfairy I know but the odds are pretty decent for 11DPO - think it's nearly 80% at that point. Saying that at I'd figure it out pretty quickly if AF doesn't show as she's usually here at 12DPO

Chart for good measure! Note that my RHR has plummeted which usually means AF is round the corner.

@Juno231 I've had an app say that before too. But I'm not sure it looked as good as your chart.
10dpo is a little early to test maybe? As is tomorrow sometimes. You might not get an answer before you go. But I'd just have a nice time and forget about it!