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Fuck you TTC

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painintheholeSIL · 31/01/2020 07:45

Today should be day one of my period. No sign. We've been ttc dc2 since summer 2018. I don't have any tests in the house. I'm trying not to symptom spot, I haven't told anyone in real life that we're trying.
Our son is almost 4. I'm desperate to give him a sibling. I adore him. He's amazing.

But I am aching to have another baby. People keep asking when we're going to and we just laugh off the questions. They hurt. Every one of them hurts. I suppose I'm just looking for people who understand.

Every single thread I look at in relation to this ends up full of BFPs and I'm just not in the space where I can read those and not feel devastated.

So Fuck you to TTC.
Fuck you to months off slightly delayed periods
Fuck you to every fucker that asks me every time they see me if I have any news
Fuck you to the whole fucking lot of it.

Anyone care to add theirs?

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Minibow · 17/04/2020 19:28

Just saw this thread!
F you to the 'last bump pic' thread on social media 🤦

BabyMoonPie · 17/04/2020 12:00

Yesterday and today I have found out about colleagues pregnancies. Today my period started. We're moving on to month 17 of TTC and I've fucking well had enough. There's not enough wine in the world to drown my sorrows tonight.

RobinRose · 16/04/2020 16:58

FU when people aren’t ‘actively trying to conceive’.... and still manage to bloody conceive! 😑

zoomies1 · 16/04/2020 15:31

@peperethecat I feel you. 38, slightly more shit FSH then I should have and taking about 7 vitamins a day which might be forcing my body to get pregnant but with a crap egg that won't ever develop properly.

AmesK · 16/04/2020 10:43

@Icouldstillbejoseph

I feel this!!!

AmesK · 16/04/2020 10:39

Hi everyone!

I'm new to the forum and have come across this thread and all I can say is I'm in the same boat and honestly, Fuck you to it all!!!!

Sending everyone lots of love xx

Yutes · 16/04/2020 08:41

I’m so sorry everyone. Thinking of you all. I see you. You are heard. And it is all shit.

peperethecat · 16/04/2020 07:36

Fuck you to four losses in less than a year.

Fuck you to seeing everyone around us get pregnant instantly and give birth to healthy babies nine months later when we are back to square -38 and are losing hope of ever having our own family.

Fuck you to my slightly-shitter-than-average-for-my-age FSH and AMH scores.

Fuck you to all the money I'm spending on vitamins which won't make any difference because my eggs are clearly crap.

BabyMoonPie · 16/04/2020 07:18

@TigerJoy 💐 I know how hard it is to stay positive but all we can do is keep trying

TigerJoy · 15/04/2020 23:36

Never rains but it pours

My absolute best friend ever has just told me she's pregnant. She was super considerate about how she told me.

I am thrilled for her and simultaneously my whole body feels like an open wound. Have already chosen a blanket I'll knit for the baby and bought the wool.

Sorry I have noone else I can say such an ungenerous thing. I really AM happy for her but I also just feel such pain and despair at the same time.

Christ this is shit, isn't it?

I just keep telling myself that people can get accustomed to all sorts of things. I am sure I will get used to this. I honestly don't feel like I have a chance now (doc says less than 2%) and I'm just trying to get that thought settled. But then some little part of me thinks...but what if?

I've always been such a hopeful person but I think that this is not serving me well and maybe if I'd been less hopeful I would have got my arse in gear about ttc earlier. But then it feels so sad to lose that part of me.

Sonia2810 · 13/04/2020 20:11

Hi hope everyones well im the same, i have 3 children my eldest is severley disabled. We have decided to try for another one nearly a year ago with no luck. As we are always busy and tired its becoming a chore doing it at the right time rather than just enjoying things and seeing what happens. Im 35 this year so it worries me if it takes a few year than im going to be going onto 40 and higher risk of down syndrom when i already have a disabled child. Me and hubby have started taking procieve his and hers. Has anyone else took and supplements that have helped xx

BabyMoonPie · 13/04/2020 19:57

@PaininthewholeSIL thanks. I hate that TTC makes me so bitter and angry

PainintheholeSIL · 13/04/2020 14:18

@BabyMoonPie I'm sorry for you. It's shit.

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BabyMoonPie · 12/04/2020 15:12

Today's fuck you (probably repeating my earlier post) is to PMT. It's supposed to be a 2 week wait but 1 week in I start with horrendous PMT and know that's it. Maybe I should be grateful the hope doesn't linger for a full 2 weeks but I'm feeling too pained and sorry for myself for that

Icouldstillbejoseph · 09/04/2020 12:37

And while I'm here fuck you to my spotting which heralds another failed month.

Fuck off
Fuck off
Fuck off

There's a chance I have PMT rage

Icouldstillbejoseph · 09/04/2020 12:31

Fuck you to the sudden proliferation of 'line eyes' threads that are so completely, blatantly, obviously fucking positive.

I know that's unfair of me. I shouldn't even click on them, but it feels like it it the only fucking way I'm going to see 2 lines on a test

zoomies1 · 08/04/2020 12:05

Oh yeah and...

Fuck you to the woman who cries about being pregnant in the office because she can't afford to have a baby even though SHE WAS TRYING TO GET PREGNANT

Fuck you to being made redundant this year and not knowing whether to take a demotion so I would still qualify for benefits if I got pregnant again

Fuck you to DH's three - yes three colleagues who announced they were all accidentally pregnant with unwanted pregnancies aged 42+

PurpleDaisies · 08/04/2020 11:51

Fuck you to that stupid Facebook thing where mum's pat themselves on the back by posting a photo of their kids and nominating others to do the same - smug bastards

It’s awful isn’t it. There’s nowhere to escape from it. All my WhatsApp threads are the same.

zoomies1 · 08/04/2020 11:45

Fu*k you to MMC no. 2 last week and being back on these boards (but thanks for being here guys!)

Fu*k you to not being able to have the fertility tests done because everything is on stop due to C-19 (yes I know there are bigger problems out there)

Fu*k you to Teams conference calls where people's children keep popping in to say hi

Fu*k you to every call having someone say 'oh yes, I'm pregnant too' Of course you bloody are

Fu*k you to Teams calls which finish with 'oh while we have been on the phone I've just got this message to say so and so has had
their baby - look at the cute photos'

Fuk you to that stupid Facebook thing where mum's pat themselves on the back by posting a photo of their kids and nominating others to do the same - smug basards.

Fu*k you so called friends who I actually told about my MMC and then didn't even bother getting in touch for a week! Because obviously they are both pregnant as well. But I will be expected to be there with flowers and presents, and I didn't even get a 'how are you?'

Sorry - still in the angry phase and having a bad day!

PainintheholeSIL · 08/04/2020 10:48

@Yutes Thanks

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Yutes · 08/04/2020 06:29

I had an awful dream where I did a pregnancy test, which was positive. Wanted to do another and it was negative. At least it was a dream. But wow.

PainintheholeSIL · 05/04/2020 19:18

@gypsywater Jesus Christ. I've read the advice about not ttc now too but fuck that. I'm absolutely not going to stop trying. Can you link that thread?

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gypsywater · 04/04/2020 23:48

A whole thread on it now...vile Angry

AliSxo · 04/04/2020 21:06

@gypsywater do it!! Tag us all in 😂 xxx

gypsywater · 04/04/2020 20:14

I will be challenging them next time I see them. I actually think they're awful!

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