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Fuck you TTC

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painintheholeSIL · 31/01/2020 07:45

Today should be day one of my period. No sign. We've been ttc dc2 since summer 2018. I don't have any tests in the house. I'm trying not to symptom spot, I haven't told anyone in real life that we're trying.
Our son is almost 4. I'm desperate to give him a sibling. I adore him. He's amazing.

But I am aching to have another baby. People keep asking when we're going to and we just laugh off the questions. They hurt. Every one of them hurts. I suppose I'm just looking for people who understand.

Every single thread I look at in relation to this ends up full of BFPs and I'm just not in the space where I can read those and not feel devastated.

So Fuck you to TTC.
Fuck you to months off slightly delayed periods
Fuck you to every fucker that asks me every time they see me if I have any news
Fuck you to the whole fucking lot of it.

Anyone care to add theirs?

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PainintheholeSIL · 11/07/2020 21:43

@Foodie2020 thank you. It's mad isn't it? I love the stuff too. I'm trying not to dwell on it this month. I was awake half the night with cramps though so hard not to feel sad. But, I did the shopping this evening. Bought a ridiculous amount of junk, and I'm going to eat my sadness tonight.🙈

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Foodie2020 · 11/07/2020 10:41

@painintheholeSIL pate is a defo bright side... can't believe that you can't even have the vegan pate because of the amount of Vit A still in it when pregnant. I'm sorry your AF has arrived, do something you couldn't have otherwise to cheer yourself up!! Wine works for me- but only in moderation otherwise, I move over to the teary/sad side and it becomes worse, lol.

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PainintheholeSIL · 10/07/2020 21:59

Fuck my period for arriving today. Day 29. Last month was 31. 35 the month before, 31, 33,32,29 before that. Fuck my cycle. @Foodie2020 I ate 2 full tubs of pate this week... bright side?

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Foodie2020 · 09/07/2020 16:11

@zoomies1 - Yikes it sounds like you have had a proper day/time of it. I'm sorry that you are having to go through this. I'm thinking of taking a month off so I can try and be 'me' again. I will be able to have a drink, pate, caffeine, and use the hot tub.

zoomies1 · 09/07/2020 15:10

Glad to see this back!

Fuck you to having to sort out all the baby collections for the team members who are having kids

Fuck you to someone announcing they are having a lockdown baby on a team call and then my boss saying, 'you're up next Zoomies - I bet you can't beat that'. She had no idea how right she was!

Fuck you to being told that there is nothing my GP can do even though I am on cycle five after my ERPC and am no longer having periods. Period pains, yes but no period. The ultrasound didn't show anything so I just have to wait. 'Perhaps you are just stressed' I wasn't fucking stressed!!! No hycosy until I bleed, so I am completely stuck.

Yutes · 09/07/2020 14:36

I agree. I love this thread as no one tried to fix anything. We just all agree that it’s rubbish.
Thinking of all my fuck TTC people

BabyMoonPie · 09/07/2020 10:41

@PainintheholeSIL 💐 it sucks

Foodie2020 · 09/07/2020 10:04

Hi Ladies.

I have to admit I like this tread as it matches how I am feeling perfectly. F you to people asking, to DP saying 'it will happen' and closing the conversation so I can't talk about it and F you to the loss of a sex life that now revolves around the TTC window and doesn't make you feel sexy or wanted at all

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PainintheholeSIL · 08/07/2020 09:21

Would anybody here know where 5mg folate/folic acid can be purchased online?

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PainintheholeSIL · 08/07/2020 07:47

@BabyMoonPie Thanks we have similar conversations here and it kills me too.

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BabyMoonPie · 06/07/2020 23:24

Can't sleep due to crippling period pain so here for another rant. Fuck you to another failed month. We had sex even though it was boiling hot, it wasn't fun and was apparently a waste of time. DD heard me telling DH I was in pain and she said it's because mummy has a baby in her tummy. She's only 3 so doesn't know we're trying but she wants a sibling and it breaks my heart that she's going to be an only child

Dizzttc · 03/07/2020 18:17

Have been feeling so low today. But this has just made me feel a bit better.

I had someone say they would of thought i would of got pregnant during quarantine... so yeah fuck you.

Had my sister ask me yesterday if im not pregnant yet, are you even trying.... fuck you

Im so fed up of doing opk's building my hopes up thinking every month is my month. Lying about not wanting another child. (DS is now 10) im just fed up and frustrated and its only cycle 7 i just wish i could go back pre ttc when I didn't have these worries. Sad

Yutes · 02/07/2020 13:28

I thought I was going to ovulate this cycle. But think my body has other plans Sad

jessstan2 · 27/06/2020 23:23

Tell people to mind their own business. Keep your efforts to conceive to yourself. Set a deadline. Enjoy the good things in your life.

ABC222 · 27/06/2020 23:15

Absolutely lost my shit on a quiz tonight with my wonderful friends over points.
Fuck you TTC.
Fuck you COVID.

Peace and love to you all.

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PainintheholeSIL · 27/06/2020 23:03

@Yutes 👋 I'm still here too. Totally missed the window this month. Totally pissed off. Trying so hard not to stress. I'm so stressed though. I just want it to happen. I'm fucking sick of people asking me when I'm going to have another one. I wish to god I could answer it.
I hope you get your cycle under control. Fuck this whole thing. It's so unfair.

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Yutes · 27/06/2020 22:39

Just giving all my “Fuck ttc” people a wave 👋🏻
This thread dropped off my list.

Fuck trying so fucking hard. Trying to destress and get my cycle under control.

Banoffeepie91 · 12/06/2020 19:12

Just what I needed at the moment!

Fuck the unhelpful receptionist who when OH called up today to find when he could book in a sperm test was just really rude to him and said she had no idea when they’d be doing them. I get that they’ve had to stop at the moment but she could have at least said it in a kind way and he was really upset after the call.

Fuck the girl at work who keeps talking about her plans to start her family like you can just press a button when you want a kid and one will pop out.

Fuck having no idea why it’s not happened after a year and constantly worrying that something is seriously wrong so it will never be able to happen.

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PainintheholeSIL · 12/06/2020 15:16

Fuck my period for arriving yesterday
That is all.

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Icouldstillbejoseph · 12/06/2020 14:42

Fuck my period being late for the first time ever and a barrage of wasted, negative tests.

Fuck it all.

MrsB2019x · 11/06/2020 14:01

Oooh I remember how much I loved this thread

Fuck my body for having an ectopic in April
Fuck having to wait 3 months to try again
Fuck having the odd twinge every now and then where my ectopic was to remind me of what I lost
Fuck someone I went to college with getting pregnant and being due the same week I would have been
Fuckshitbollockswankstainarse

Feel better now. Flowers

BabyMoonPie · 11/06/2020 13:21

Fuck you to my period arriving again this month.

Also fuck you to having to order more fucking Pre Seed lubricant. It's not worked yet but I feel we have to keep using it because we have to do everything we can or I'll blame myself for not getting pregnant.

Daffodil21 · 06/06/2020 23:24

Fuck you to the photos of fucking babies on fertility things. I'm looking at you Clear Blue, Conceive Plus and Preseed

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PainintheholeSIL · 04/06/2020 19:08

I'll add a fuck you to this dropping off my "I'm on" threads.
Fuck my sister for saying she thought I wanted loads of kids and couldn't believe I'd leave ds on his own.

Fuck her for telling me how easily she got pregnant and suggesting that it's probably Dh's "fault"

And fuck me for fucking telling her. I was doing so well keeping it to myself.

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