Fuck you TTC

@painintheholeSIL sorry to hear AF got you. I was in the exact same position last week.

Don't even remember the last time I tested as it's just not worth it anymore!

Fuck you fucking fertile Myrtle, who got pregnant at the drop of a hat 5 times by accident, telling me that you count your lucky stars you have your 'bubs' as people like me make you realise how lucky you are 🖕🖕🖕

Ladies,
There's some seriously sad and hard things written in this chat and you're all so strong! Much stronger than you think!
i am incredibly thankful for this thread anyway - @painintheholeSIL. It's so refreshing!!! It's probably the first time something to do with ttc has actually made me laugh. My favourite bullshit is when someone is asking how am i doing whilst clearly looking at my stomach area, trying to see if I've got news to share...fuck that! Mind your own business people!!!

I completely get it honestly , I genuinely would never in a million years ask someone if they’re giving their child a sibling , or are they ever going to have children, or try and tell them what they should and shouldn’t do. It’s so wrong . Especially colleagues ! You’re so bloody strong holding your head high!
@Lnix thank you, we regret even telling people what was happening as we had no support of friends with the adoption plan, and then when we were told things were changing and we told family , some of them were like ‘it wouldn’t have been a good idea anyway , you would’ve been miserable and it wouldn’t have been the same’ etc . We’ve learnt to just zip it and make friends online when we need personal chats like these ! X

Yeeesss Fuck you TTC!

I have been trying to keep my cool too, but all I want to do is to say
FUUUCK YOU :

mthfr and pai1
endometriosis
missed miscarriage at 11 weeks
chemical pregnancies
fuck me being the only one of my friends who did not manage to keep the pregnancy
fuck the short fertility window
fuck the doctor who said if I do not "relax" I will never get pregnant :o

Hope that makes me more "relaxed"
Thank you all :)

@itsemily 😲 horrific comments! How awful can people actually be?? Sending love! X

You’re very welcome , more people need to understand. It’s horrible having to smile and nod and pretend you’re ok with their ignorant remarks . When my husband and I were looking at the adoption process when we were told before that we ‘couldn’t possibly have children of our own’, people came out with ‘make sure you don’t look at adoption, you’ll get problem children and they’ll hate you when they get older because you won’t be their parents’ . You can’t win either way, some people are actual arseholes. And when it came out that we weren’t looking at adoption due to change in my health, everyone was like ‘you’d best get cracking ! You actual have to make a baby now not pick one from a book’ like what the fuck ?

Fuck you people who say "at least you have your lovely daughter" ...I know we are beyond lucky to have her and she is Next Level Amazing but it does not diminish the aching for another! And FUCK YOU to the Just Relax Brigade and FUCK YOU to the circumstances that had me working full time from when DD was 8 months and the guilt and sadness I feel at having missed some precious moments with my potentially only child. Oh and fuck you Age Gap Anxiety (DD just turned 4) and a MASSIVE fuck you to being 34 with the geriatric 35 beckoning. X

I’ve just never understood why anyone thinks it’s ok to ask you ‘when are you going to have a baby?’ ‘You’ve been married X amount of time now are you pregnant yet’ etc . I’d never dream of asking someone , it’s so personal and you never ever know if someone is struggling, with fertility , loss, anything . My husband and I got asked every time we saw certain family members for years ‘are you pregnant yet?’ Before we’d even considered trying and felt so pressured . It’s terrible I don’t see why anyone would think it’s ok.
Sending you so much love OP, and everyone else struggling too. I wish I could click my fingers and it all be ok for you x

I've found my people! TTC number 2 for over a year and not a sniff of being pregnant! DD is nearly 4 and would love a sibling. Trying not to worry each month but easier said than done!

I got really pissed last night and it felt great.

I hope you all have a lovely weekend and find a way to feel less fucked off!

My absolute favourite is when people tell me to be less stressed. A man recently made a sanctimonious little speech about stress and fertility and talked about resting heart rates and cortisol to me and basically said it was my fault I wasn't pregnant because I was too stressed. I said "women get pregnant in war zones, I don't think my 40 hr a week office job is the issue here".

It really pisses me off when people use infertility as a stick to beat other posters with, especially when they’re not even in the position of the people they are supposedly standing up for.

It was one poster and it’s been deleted. I don’t think you need to worry about more horrible posts.