Fuck you TTC

@56AdriannaP I get this all the time, people staying in the fertile window and OH then refusing to do the deed!
@58MrsP1989 I try and avoid people at all cost too. They are all self centred arseholes when it comes to yet another "helpful" comment that i am not getting any younger and it's about time I have another baby...

So fuck you scheduled sex on and off for the last 5 years.
Fuck you shit sex when I can't wait for it to be over so I can just go to sleep.
Fuck you OH who is never in the mood.
Fuck you people who keep announcing their surprise pregnancies.
URGH

Fuck you to being a week late and getting BFN after BFN

@Jeds55 people really are twats!! My coping mechanism for this seems to have been avoiding people at all costs recently haha!

So fuck you to my boss who has been bullying me at work for over a year
Fuck you to staying in a toxic work environment to ensure we get mat cover even though I don't know how long it will take to conceive
Fuck you TTC for impacting my mental health so it becomes impossible to come of meds which I was hoping to before conceiving

Fuck you to guests who come and stay on peak fertility days
And fuck you to peak fertility days who came late
And fuck you guests who stayed up chatting until midnight every night

Oh I have some! Fuck you grumbling period pain from 7 days DPO which is not implantation pain, just bloody pms cranking up. Fuck you later ovulation and therefore later period and therefore sliver of hope, quickly dashed. Fuck you to having no guarantee of ovulation unless you do stress inducing things like bbt while actively trying NOT TO STRESS.

Fuck you to...

My husband who thinks it'll just happen any old random day of the month

My SIL who has announced her new (unwanted) pregnancy

Well, I’m just frustrated with my body. I’m not sure I ovulate, so it’s really not as simple as just keep BDing.
Think I need to sort my lifestyle out.

How's everyone doing? Been quiet on the fuck you front so hope that means people have stopped being such twats to us all

Fuck you to being away from tomorrow and it coinciding with predicted fertile time
Fuck you for considering cancelling it and putting life on hold for something that may never happen

@MrsB2019x yes she does and she's being lovely about it

@TigerJoy I'm so sorry to hear youve gone through that. It's so shitty how long it takes us to get diagnosed. It took me a number of years to be listened to as well and is a fucking awful illness. Good for you for turning your anger to something constructive and sending out complaints. It is so needed!

Don't even want to call it a fuck you, but having had a shitty few weeks, feeling overwhelmed by it all and having a minor breakdown at work/taking a few days off last week, I went back in to colleagues saying "we've worked out you've had enough here so you'll get pregnant and go off soon" I wish it was that bloody easy. I wish working in a childcare environment I wasn't surrounded by pregnant parents and babies

Fuck you family friend at my Grandma's funeral today who asked how married life was and if we will be hearing the pitter patter of tiny feet soon.

Fuck knows. Fuck you.

@TigerJoy that’s bloody awful. Hope it’s something that can be worked on now though.
Today’s fuck you is... fuck you af for turning up bang on time (even though I’d prefer this to being late) then fuck you to dropping dc off at nursery to be greeted by one of the other mums & her brand new baby, I couldn’t even look, all I could think was & im definitely NOT PREGNANT standing there bleeding while everyone coos over a newborn. Fuck you ttc for making me feel like this

Can you imagine if men had periods?! There would be monthly period days allowed off work, free chocolate, massages, you name it. Gahhh all I ask.my partner to do.is take a zinc tablet a day, does he remember? does he fuck

Agree with a huge fuck you to the patriarchy, if men had to put up with all the shit we do around ttc the diagnostics, care etc would be a lot better (or maybe the human race would die out)

@TigerJoy I'm so angry on your behalf

Thank you @painintheholeSIL

I'm calm about it in real life. I'm as infertile as yesterday. I just didn't know before. Knowledge is power etc.

Inside I'm trying to work out what I can legitimately set fire to.

Current plan is to write to every doctor who dismissed me.

Fuck you endometriosis - diagnosed this week at age 41 after 21 years of pain

Turns out my ovaries are adhered to both my bowel and my uterus. I found out yesterday.

Fuck you fucking patriarchy for not listening when I complained for 15 years about unbearable pain

Fuck you for deciding that a scan was worth it when I was trying to get pregnant but not when i was crippled in pain half the month for FIFTEEN YEARS

Fuck the many many gynae who rejected my questions about whether I had endo and fobbed me off and refused a laparoscopy to diagnose me

Fuck you all for taking away the opportunity to have surgery earlier or make different choices about ttc

I cant say I would definitely done anything differently but it would have been nice to have had the fucking choice

@MrsP1989 Does the bride know you are TTC?

*now worrying

@Jeds55 Totally agree with that! Being brought up Catholic my mum used any scare tactics she could to stop a teen pregnancy - even telling me at one point you don't have to have sex to get pregnant!

Seems so unfair now I wasted so much time worrying about that when I'm not worrying about TTC!

@MrsB2019x @painintheholeSIL agreed on it taking over! I'm due to be a bridesmaid in August and keep thinking how nice a dress would look with a bump but also means I can't buy a dress yet as who knows!

Fuck you also to working in a horrible toxic environment but not being able to afford statutory mat leave so staying put just in case, but not knowing how long its going to take

Fuck you to endometriosis leaving me unable to move at least once per month and causing extra stress with having a horrendous sick leave record

@painintheholeSIL - I am at it for one year and still so much to learn ;)
I only told him because he was asking why I am so "stressed" ;)
I shouldn't have done that