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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Fuck you TTC

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painintheholeSIL · 31/01/2020 07:45

Today should be day one of my period. No sign. We've been ttc dc2 since summer 2018. I don't have any tests in the house. I'm trying not to symptom spot, I haven't told anyone in real life that we're trying.
Our son is almost 4. I'm desperate to give him a sibling. I adore him. He's amazing.

But I am aching to have another baby. People keep asking when we're going to and we just laugh off the questions. They hurt. Every one of them hurts. I suppose I'm just looking for people who understand.

Every single thread I look at in relation to this ends up full of BFPs and I'm just not in the space where I can read those and not feel devastated.

So Fuck you to TTC.
Fuck you to months off slightly delayed periods
Fuck you to every fucker that asks me every time they see me if I have any news
Fuck you to the whole fucking lot of it.

Anyone care to add theirs?

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sh84 · 27/02/2020 10:45

@Whiffle77 yep living cycle to cycle, fertile week to fertile week 🙄

Whiffle77 · 27/02/2020 10:42

Fuck you to all the random cramps and twinges I get now following a MC

Fuck you for a complete inability to feel happy for other peoples pregnancies

Fuck you to a completely new sense of time and measurement of everything in cycles

Yutes · 27/02/2020 10:22

Fucking ovarian cyst or whatever the hell this fucking pain is.

PurpleDaisies · 26/02/2020 14:36

Fuck you to period pain and migraine today. I am so sick of all this.

Em4815 · 26/02/2020 14:33

Fuck you 7th day of flashing smiley when previous 4 cycles have been 2/3 days and then static!!

This is not fun.

sh84 · 26/02/2020 06:51

@Iwouldlikesomecake I’m a midwife too

Iwouldlikesomecake · 26/02/2020 01:52

I hear you all.

Fuck you to being a midwife working in antenatal referrals. Every month seeing women with my LMP dates- except I’ve had one since.

Being able to work out an EDD in your head isn’t always a good thing. And I walk past the scan department every day thinking ‘will it ever be me?’

Leodot · 25/02/2020 12:33

@painintheholeSIL

I would see if you can get a doctors appointment. If you can barely walk that might be something to get checked out to give you some peace of mind and hopefully something to stop the pain.
Hugs to you xx

Leodot · 25/02/2020 12:30

Hi beautiful ladies,

Can I add mine please as I’m really not in a good place today.

Fuck you to stupid fertility medications that sometimes make me throw up and make me nauseous all day long.
Fuck you to having to put up with winking faces and knowing smiles from people who think they’ve guessed that I’m pregnant because of said nausea and sickness when really I’m not.
Fuck you to wishing that it was morning sickness as that would mean I would finally be pregnant.
Fuck you to the way I know it destroys my incredible DH every time it’s negative as he wants this as much as I do.
Fuck you to the brave face DH has to put on when I have a bad day and can’t keep it together.
Fuck you to taking my temperature every day and it being constantly random.
Fuck toy to my bbt app for telling me that I’m clearly an idiot and doing my temp wrong as it can’t predict ovulation from said random temps.
Fuck you to 80+ day long cycles and doctors that wouldn’t listen to me when I first told them there was a problem.
Fuck you to having to wait 15 months before the doctor would refer me to the fertility clinic.
Fuck you to the doctor that didn’t organise any of my tests and meant I missed my first appointment and had to wait another 4 months.
Fuck you to 20 months of failure ttc.
Fuck you to my ovary that just doesn’t work.
So much love and luck to all you ladies
❤️❤️❤️

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painintheholeSIL · 25/02/2020 11:18

I have more too!
Fuck you ewcm on day 23. Day fucking 23. Not a sniff of ovulation before that.
Fuck you person who told me she got pregnant the minute she relaxed.
Fuck you horrendous stomach pain since last night that's left me barely able to walk.
Fuck you to another friend having her 2nd baby.
Fuck you to having no idea why I'm in so much pain and being afraid to go to the doctor.
Fuck you to the headache I've had since Sunday.
Fuck you to the utter misery I feel today.

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sh84 · 24/02/2020 11:09

Here’s some more
Fuck you to the mind fuckery of OPKs, anyone else get excited when they see 2 lines then think why the fuck am I excited it’s the wrong fucking test, there’s always 2 lines you idiot, then think what would I give to see those 2 lines on a pregnancy test. Then getting even more excited that the lines are darker than yesterday’s then realising you don’t want a positive OPK because OH is away till Thursday.

Fuck you to myself for waking up late today therefore temp is higher than it usually would be so have to disregard it because I don’t want it to fuck up my chart.

Fuck you to how much this is costing me in vitamins, food, OPKs, mentally, wouldn’t mind spending the money on pregnancy tests but don’t ever bloody need to, need to buy tampax instead.

Fuuuuucccckkkkk yooooouuuuu

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painintheholeSIL · 23/02/2020 12:39

@Elmlee Thanks

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Elmlee · 23/02/2020 10:53

Ah and fuck you to the birch herself who's finally decided to arrive on what was CD50! Just in time for me to go back to work tomorrow after a week off 🤦🏻‍♀️

Elmlee · 23/02/2020 10:44

Love this thread.

Fuck you to the whole TTC journey... it's still early for me but why is everything so confusing?

Fuck you Ovulation sticks, they are messy and a pain and I don't know if I believe them.

Fuck you to currently being on CD50...

Fuck you to the old lady who asked me if I was pregnant in work the other day.... no I'm jus fat love.

Fuck you to not coming off my pill earlier...

Fuck you to starting to convince myself I don't think I'll ever see 2 lines.

Fuck you to just being so tired sometimes to even DTD.

Love to you all ladies 😘😘

NoseringGirl · 23/02/2020 09:38

Fuck you OPK for getting my hopes up that I'd ovulate but my temps haven't risen so I'm probably stuck in another ridiculously long anovulatory cycle.

Moreinfopls · 23/02/2020 00:14

@MrsB2019x couldn't agree more! Many happy stories on Mumsnet and deep down i am happy for those ladies as some of them really tried for a long while... however it doesn't change the feeling of 'i deserve it too and this was supposed to be my month!'.

Instead, i caught a cold right on my supposedly ovulation day, so i am not sure if i actually ovulated - BBT chart is a mess and the opks too!

I'd also like to say fuck you to the planning in my head - we cant plan this and that at the end of the year because what if we have a newborn by then... it's not the first Christmas i am thinking about in that way...fuck that.

MrsB2019x · 22/02/2020 19:11

Fuck it seeming like EEEEEVERYONE is getting pregnant at the moment and we’re not!!!!

(I do feel a tinge of guilt about this fuck you as I don’t know their stories and they could have struggled too.. but still my heart sinks when I see another announcement)

MrsP1989 · 21/02/2020 11:09

@Painintheside30 Totally agree! I don't know how it ever become normal for random people who you barely know to essentially ask 'so are you having unprotected sex at the moment?' !

@Hannahb26 @painintheholeSIL @iswhois Agreed! Who on earth could decide they want a baby but then be blase about whether or not it happens. I cant cope with taking bbt or ovulation tests anymore, we're just DTD every other day the whole time and I'm resigning myself to being allowed a grieving process every month it doesn't happen (i.e. getting embarrassingly pissed and ugly crying over whoever I am with at the time).

iswhois · 21/02/2020 08:37

Fuck you to AF coming a week late
Fuck you to my diminished motivation
Fuck you to everyone who implies it's MY fault I'm not falling pregnant because I'm thinking about it too much

This is something which is going to change my life forever- how the fuck can I not think about it?!?!?!?! AngryAngryAngry

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painintheholeSIL · 21/02/2020 07:47

@Wishtobeamamma it's great to have the support here isn't it?

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painintheholeSIL · 21/02/2020 07:46

@Twitchett22 I know exactly how you feel. Dh told me a few months ago that he has a feeling that ds will be our only and he couldn't understand why I started crying.

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painintheholeSIL · 21/02/2020 07:44

@Hannahb26 I get that too. How are we supposed to ttc but be detached from it.

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Twitchett22 · 21/02/2020 07:42

Fuck you OH who, when I asked last night of he'd be upset if I'm not pregnant again this month, replied with 'why would I be upset?'
Because TTC means you want a baby and I'll be fucking devastated. Looks like I'll just have a cry by myself while you're at work and get on with it. Again. Prick.

Wishtobeamamma · 20/02/2020 23:32

Please may I join!!

Fuck you body for giving me pregnancy symptoms most months for AF to arrive a couple of days later!!

Fuck you to everyone saying just relax! You're still young you've got plenty of time!

Fuck you to the 'it'll happen when you don't want it to' people

TTC is a tough ride I'm just glad I've got mumsnet to share the ride with!

Hannahb26 · 20/02/2020 22:54

Fuck you to the people who tell me to stop being emotionally invested in this. Also to those who just say get drunk and have sex and it'll happen that way. NO. FUCK YOU.