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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Anyone TTC first baby, aged 35 or over?

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Honolulu1 · 26/01/2020 14:43

Hello ladies,

Just looking for some pals who are in similar situation to me - hopefully we can support each other in this emotional journey. I'm 35, OH is 38 and we've been TTC first baby for over 12 months overall now (11 months trying). I naively thought it would be easier (emotionally and physically) than this. We sadly miscarried early in Sept so feeling even more cheated that we don't have out BFP by now. My GP has done tests which have all come back normal and have been referred to gynaecology, 1st appt in March. No idea what to expect from that Confused

Would love to hear from others in similar situations, for a bit of moral support. I'm currently 2dpo; feel I should be more than used to 2ww by now, but it doesn't seem to get any easier x

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Positivity2019 · 26/01/2020 20:48

@Honolulu1 it sure is the best time of all of this and I am usually at my most positive during the fertile days and through the TWW. I’d say the few days before AF is due I get incredibly high hopes tinged with an overwhelming feeling that we haven’t done it this time. It’s so conflicting. Then AF just devastates me and then it all starts again with a positive attitude for the new month.
Have you been using pre-natal vitamins and pre-seed etc?
@paintfairy good luck for your journey. I hope it’s a quick process for you guys.

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Honolulu1 · 26/01/2020 20:23

Hi @Positivity2019 that's good that your cycles have started to settle now. It's much more helpful when you have a handle on your patterns so you can start to predict dates and understand what's normal for you. My cycles were quite disrupted after the MC, but seem to be back to normal now. Like you I'm trying not to stress as much this month, as I've been really stressy with it since Sept. It takes over your life if you let it! So I haven't used OPK's and stopped temping and have just being going with the flow DTD regulary rather than scheduled. Still using my app though and I find talking helps. That's exciting you're almost in fertile week...happy bbdancing

  • the fun part of all this 🤣. I'm 36 in Sept also! Hopefully will have some happy news this year

Hi @paintfairy hope you had fun celebrating your 37th recently! How exciting to be beginning your TTC journey and hope it will be short and stress free. Where are you up to with your cycle this month? Are your cycles usually quite regular/predictable? x

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paintfairy · 26/01/2020 18:48

I'm 37 (literally just) and we've only just recently started trying. This is my first month intentionally. But last month we actually used no contraception without discussion, so really it's the second time. Lol. My DH is 9 years older than me though.

Positivity2019 · 26/01/2020 18:37

Hi @Honolulu1. Very sorry to hear about your miscarriage. That must’ve been a difficult time and I’m sure it still weighs on your mind. I
I’m 35, 36 this September and we’ve been trying for our first since June 2019. In our 6th cycle as we allowed 3 cycles for everything to get back to normal after coming off the pill. I’ve a sneaking suspicion it’s actually taken a little longer for my cycles to settle down as they’ve been quite irregular and only these past three months have I started to see a pattern in my cycles. I’ve not had a whiff of a positive and like you I went into this naively thinking I would be pregnant quickly. Never been on such a rollercoaster of emotions and had something consume my life so much.
I have just entered my fertile period, possible ovulation on tues or thurs next week. Trying not to symptom spot or stress this month and simply DTD every day and log my data as accurately as I can.
Fingers crossed 2020 is our year!!