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Anyone TTC first baby, aged 35 or over?

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Honolulu1 · 26/01/2020 14:43

Hello ladies,

Just looking for some pals who are in similar situation to me - hopefully we can support each other in this emotional journey. I'm 35, OH is 38 and we've been TTC first baby for over 12 months overall now (11 months trying). I naively thought it would be easier (emotionally and physically) than this. We sadly miscarried early in Sept so feeling even more cheated that we don't have out BFP by now. My GP has done tests which have all come back normal and have been referred to gynaecology, 1st appt in March. No idea what to expect from that Confused

Would love to hear from others in similar situations, for a bit of moral support. I'm currently 2dpo; feel I should be more than used to 2ww by now, but it doesn't seem to get any easier x

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Honolulu1 · 07/02/2020 10:44

Welcome to the thread @Adrianoska. It's so hard to keep your head together when TTC, I hear you that it really is mostly all I think about too! I'm not sure I can offer positives but I didn't want to leave you hanging for a response. My GP said it's normal for it to take 6-12 months to conceive if there are no problems, so sounds like you're well within that range currently. Hopefully you'll get there soon. It must be so amazing for you to have 2 children already....that's my absolute dream 😀 Fingers crossed we'll get there one day soon x

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Honolulu1 · 07/02/2020 10:25

Hey @claireb707, I've not heard of a nabothian cyst...had to Google it! Hope you get it treated soon if that's what it is. Keep us updated x

I'm the same cycle as you @EB211. I feel like AF is on her way today. I always get so devastated and emotional when it arrives, even though I know I should be seeing the positive that's it's the start of a new cycle and another chance! It's just hard to see that initially. Do you think you'll be doing anything different this cycle?

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Adrianoska · 07/02/2020 09:13

Hello girls... Please let me in.
I am quite desperate.. And trying to stay sane.
I am 36 and I have two kids from my previous marriage (12 and 6). Now my second husband and I are trying for outmr baby... He is 30.
I have been taking pregnacare for 2 months now switched to Proce Max. I was almost certain it would happen fast, but no... And now it is all I can think about. I am doing ovulation tests this month and I even bought some Conce Plus lube...
I don't drink or smoke, neither does my husband. I am so worried we will not get pregnant... Any positive stories here? Good luck to you all, xxx

EB211 · 07/02/2020 09:03

Flo is deffo in the way, probably today/tomorrow. Anyone in the same cycle?

claireb707 · 05/02/2020 12:51

@Adrianoska here's one 😊

claireb707 · 05/02/2020 11:08

Anyone had a nabothian cyst? Found a lump at the end of last week, saw doc this morning and she thinks it's one of those but is referring me to get it checked anyway.

Bearhug9 · 05/02/2020 09:45

That must have been so frustrating @Honolulu1, it sounds like your GP was supportive though. I waited ages to get my bloods done first time as I worried I would be wasting their time but my GP was also really helpful. @morgane777 I got the first flashing smiley on CD8, I'm day 10 now and it's still flashing....Last month I had 10 days of flashing and no peak so I stopped testing. I think I ended up ovulating about CD28 in the end Confused. Hoping for good news for us all too x

Morgane777 · 04/02/2020 15:16

@Honolulu1 I hope you'll get an appointment soon!
Hoping as well for positive news for all of us!

Morgane777 · 04/02/2020 15:14

Hello ladies,
I'm sorry @claireb707! Another period, another cycle of hope!
@Bearhug9 what CD are you?
@EB211, @Honolulu1... I also took a test yesterday, at 11 dpo! And got a BFN! :(
AF expected tomorrow and I know is coming! I started spotting a few days ago and that's always the sign it's coming!
And I'm having trouble controling my emotions... feeling sad and angry... I guess is PMS. Having a lot of acne too!
Well, not my best month! I hope that my cycle starting tomorrow will be better! Smile

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Honolulu1 · 04/02/2020 13:03

The waiting is awful. I'm 12-13dpo, and took a test this morning BFN. Feel like AF is on her way so feeling a bit rubbish. I had a letter from gynaecology this morning too, cancelling my appointment in March, and no replacement offered. When I called they said there were no appointment atm. But fortunately my GP has refered me to another hospital as just been to see her in tears 😢

Hoping one of us gets some positive news soon x

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EB211 · 04/02/2020 09:34

None from me. Expecting AF on Saturday. I stupidly did a test on Sunday and got a BFN which made me feel rubbish but it could have been too early. I guess I'll know in a few days! x

Bearhug9 · 04/02/2020 08:45

Hi @Morgane777, got my flashing smiley face this morning, just hope it turns static this month Confused. How are you doing? Sorry to hear that @claireb707 Sad.

claireb707 · 04/02/2020 08:27

Not from me yet 😢 period arrived yesterday

Morgane777 · 03/02/2020 19:33

Hello Ladies!
How's everyone doing? Any good news on this thread??

EB211 · 31/01/2020 09:40

@Bearhug9 I read that it's best to keep using the same holder with all the sticks because it remembers your baseline. It's annoying you can't buy test sticks separately!

Bearhug9 · 31/01/2020 08:37

Morning ladies, CD5 here, just gearing up to start OPK testing tomorrow or the next day. Does anyone know with the CB sticks whether you should use the same holder or start a new one? Last month I never got a peak reading so I'm wondering whether to just start afresh with a new holder or it's better to use the one which already has a baseline reading?!Hmm

wishing3 · 30/01/2020 23:01

Thanks for the tip Morgane777.

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Honolulu1 · 30/01/2020 17:08

Hey ladies - the symptom spotting struggle is real – despite my best efforts to refrain from it this cycle, literally every bodily sensation I’m having today I keep thinking ‘I wonder if that’s a pregnancy symptom’. I have a weekend away planned so hopefully can take my mind off it and keep distracted.

Sound advice on temping @wheresthehope, and definitely a good thing to do if you you're left wondering about ovulation. For me though, I found it just seemed to confirm what I already knew, and gave me more to stress about, so I’m feeling a sense of freedom from having ditched it this month :)

So sorry for your loss @SanFrancisco49er. I hope you’re feeling better soon also (especially by the end of weekend/Monday!)– nothing worse than being ill during fertile period. I had the same thing last month, and was taking cough medicine which weirdly affected my CM! I had no idea that was a thing!

I really appreciate the info @TigerJoy – that’s interesting you had internal scan under GP care (and on CD1 – can I ask if it was planned to be that day or just by chance?) – my GP has done the blood tests and OH sperm tests, so maybe I’ll be offered the internal scan at the clinic.

Now to avoid the temptation to test for the next week :)

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Morgane777 · 30/01/2020 14:30

@paintfairy LOL
I have a box full of cheap strips!! The temptation was too big! Grin

paintfairy · 30/01/2020 14:06

@Morgane777 😂 It was never going to say anything else? Try in a few days! Lol. You might get a better answer. Grin

Morgane777 · 30/01/2020 13:51

Hello ladies! I finally tested at 7DPO!! LOL :D
Of course it was a BFN!
TTC is madness!!

EB211 · 30/01/2020 12:41

@SJChief I know how you feel. I've been doing it like crazy this week (I'm 6 DPO). OH has told me off as he says I'm going to stress myself too much!

Bearhug9 · 30/01/2020 10:16

@SJChief I know what you mean, I was taught (or scared into thinking!) at school that it was so easy to get pregnant. So it makes sense that we expect it to happen straight away. It's also really easy to start paying attention to all the things that are going on in your body which were probably always there but we never noticed them before TTC...

TigerJoy · 30/01/2020 05:56

@SJChief I feel your pain. I'd convinced myself I was pregnant this month. No period yet but just test and negative

TigerJoy · 30/01/2020 05:56

@Morgane77 no point apparently. Nothing wrong with sperm that would indicate it's necessary.