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TTC- I'm so sad all the time. AIBU?

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TeacherFarmerWife · 26/01/2020 14:03

Anyone else feel similar?

We are TTC cycle #7 which I know isn't a long time for a lot of people but I'm currently feeling so "down". I wouldn't go as far as depressed, but just sad/apathetic/tired in general.
I never realised TTC would cause such mental torment or stress on one's emotional well-being. Or marriage for that matter.

It's absolutely heart-wrenching watching my friend announce pregnancies, sending me scan pictures, daily updates etc. Don't get me wrong, I am so delighted for them but my heart physically hurts and they don't even know.

We have been married 2 years and have finished building a house and everyone is sitting on the bench waiting on an announcement from us which isn't going to happen.

I have been tracking my BBT and my temps are up and down like a yo-yo all month, causing concern over a possible thyroid problem? Maybe I'm not ovulating at all?

I have had a few friends ask me if I'm ok lately because apparently I'm not myself. I know I'm not. And I lie and say I'm fine. I can't bring myself to tell friends or family we have been trying as I don't want false hope, or sympathy.

I work out 4/5 days a week and I honestly think if I didn't do that I would be going completely insane.

AIBU? Do I need to chill out and stop being so dramatic? Anyone else TTC feel completely deflated and hopeless ATM?

I can honestly say I have never felt as lonely in my entire life.

OP posts:
jimjamjoo · 26/01/2020 14:51

Oh OP! I can totally relate to you and understand what you're saying. When we were TTC #1 I felt very much the same. I actually found that ditching the OPKs and BBT helped me to chill out and then I got pregnant the next cycle. The main thing I would look for is the CM- really get to know it. This was my only really indicator for whether I was ov and the other bits just drove me nuts and made me a bit psycho tbh. I also did acupuncture which really helped me to relax and I think it helped with conception. My SIL and friend had it regularly before they conceived for other reasons and both fell pregnant after the first cycle. Good luck! Try to distract yourself and enjoy DTD xxx

Anny27 · 26/01/2020 14:43

@TeacherFarmerWife That's good that you will be getting bloods done soon, will hopefully feel like things are moving in the right direction.

Yeah I love temping as it shows me when k ovulated but I really find I have a restless night waiting to temp to see if my temps have still risen so I think a break is a good idea.

I am 28 so similar age! Yep I also feel pressure haha. Not necessarily that I will be too old but I just really want a baby now and dont want to wait any longer!! I cant wait for the day when I am looking back at this period and thankfully that we have a baby and no longer have to ttc

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TeacherFarmerWife · 26/01/2020 14:39

I'm sorry to hear that @Anny27 I can't imagine what that feels like when I'm already so sad 😞
I'm 27, had been on the pill for 11 years until last June and started trying in July, knowing that it will take a while for my cycles to regulate. But I honestly thought we would have BFP by this stage (silly of me!).
I'm going for bloods at the end of this month to check if I am ovulating and for thyroid issues because of my mood, BBT yoyoing and tiredness.
They usually wait 1 year but my mum took fertility medication in order to conceive me and my siblings so they felt they should push me on for tests quicker than normal.
I have so much paperwork to do today for today and I just can't focus on it 😰
I know 27 is still young but I feel like the clock is ticking 🙈
I'm thinking of stopping BBT and OPK for next month as it's consuming me! I have a friends hen party and wedding coming up soon and I don't want to drink because I'm so scared it will reduce my chances of TTC. I honestly think I have become to irrational!

OP posts:
Anny27 · 26/01/2020 14:27

Sorry that you are also feeling down about ttc @TeacherFarmerWife
Not being unreasonable atall, it's a difficult time.

I am in cycle day 1 today so feeling especially sad haha. We started ttc for our first baby in June 2019, after 3/4 cycles we were pregnant but sadly miscarried in november. Just feels like it's been so long that this has consumed my every day thoughts.

Next month I am ditching the temping and OPKs and just going to try and relax a little bit. See if that does the trick.

How old are you as if over 35 your doctor will refer you for tests after 6 months usually

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