TTC after pregnancy loss - Thread 34 - huddle up and bring on the BFP's

Hi ladies thank you for all your well wishes. But I caved and count wait until Sunday to test again but the test was practically neg, so I waited 4 hour and repeated the test and negative so I believe its mc number 9. AF due tomorrow. Its going to be a tough weekend. Xx

Thank you @Tortiecat. I'm doing ok. My manager is generally supportive but asks stupid questions ("can they see a heartbeat at eight weeks?" "Are you sure the placenta wasn't left over from the previous time?" - that sort of thing. She has now said she will be referring me to occupational health (I work for a large public sector employer) because the miscarriages were off the back of some very stressful (unrelated) events that happened last year. As for taking time off, how long do you take? I just feel like I can't sit at home and cry anymore.

To those of you with bfps I truly truly hope it works out for you and to the rest of us I hope all our times comes soon

Hi @Timeforanamechangeagain1, sorry I didn't reply to you yesterday - was thinking of you. You are very brave being at work, I know needs must sometimes... is your employer supportive? I know it is easy for me to say but you have been able to fall pregnant twice, even though it took a little while the first time it was still within the 'normal' range of time...I am keeping everything crossed for you. It is hard to cope with post-procedure bleeding (which, in my experience does last longer than the medical professionals tell you it will!) but I do hope that your periods return again asap.

Keeping everything crossed for you@Avocuddles @Mumlili8 @Treaclepie19 @Sunflower1608 xx

Hi ladies, thank you for the tag @BunnytheBlueWhale

Checking in;
I lost my DD1 in January last year, she was stillborn at 30 weeks and no cause has been found. In September last year I got my BFP but at the 12 week scan we received the terrible news that the baby was very sick. We opted for further tests and received a diagnosis of a chromosomal disorder. Because of the nature of the chromosomal disorder we know that she was also a girl and we named her Gabrielle. DH and I took the heartbreaking decision to end the pregnancy and on 2nd December I had a TFMR.

We are tentatively starting to TTC again but both of us are feeling very raw and devastated. I’m using natural cycles app to track ovulation but I stop temping when I have a confirmed ovulation as I find the temping to be very stressful.

At the moment I think I am 8dpo. On 3dpo I had a bleed of fresh red blood, lighter than a period but heavy enough to need a sanitary towel. Part of my brain is obviously hoping that this might be implantation bleeding even though 3dpo would be way too early. As ever, the rational part of my brain doesn’t really stand a chance against the irrational part of my brain!

I’m also struggling a lot because next week is my DD1’s first birthday. DH and I have both booked the day off work but are not sure how we will mark her birthday.

I’m sending you all my good thoughts for a gentle start to the year and lots of bfps to come x

@Mumlili8 Pregnant after loss and dreaming of rainbows.... www.mumsnet.com/Talk/pregnancy/3801729-pregnant-after-loss-and-dreaming-of-rainbows

Hi everyone. I'd like to join this thread, didn't post very much on the last one.

I lost twin daughters at 16 weeks back in September. It was a MMC. I had my 4th AF arrive last Friday which was traumatic. This week I would have been giving birth to my babies by section at 34 weeks. I've coped surprisingly well but had hoped I might be pregnant again by now.

I also have a 2yo lb who is keeping me on my toes with the terrible 2s atm.

We're about to enter my next fertile window so will be dtd plenty during that time. I'm desperate to fill that huge gap that exists where my babies should be. I dont want to replace my girls, but I NEED to have a baby.

Keeping my fingers crossed for all of you.

E x

@Avocuddles thanks could you paste the link again please

@Mumlili8 yes of course! We're all in the super nervous club so feel right at home....
Waiting until Sunday sounds like a good idea. I've found if you wait at least 48 hrs between tests you get a far clearer idea of whether progression is happening. Testing early is both a blessing and a curse, the first few days are the slowest of all.....

Well, another failed attempt at dtd tonight. Positive opk this morning so guess officially no hope at all this month. Feeling so so rubbish about it all.

@Avocuddles Not until Sunday then I'll be officially late. Can I join your new early pregnancy thread. I might not be there long but I can hope

@Mumlili8 that definitely looks far stronger. The cramping and spotting could be implantation? I had a lot of cramping either side of my BFP. Wishing you lots of luck, when will you test again?

@BunnytheBlueWhale I think you might be right. Top test was yesterday afternoon, 2nd test this morning and 3rd just now. But why the cramps and spotting if the line is getting stronger confused 😕

Joining from the last thread, I'm mostly a lurker as I find this thread too fast paced to keep up with all the details.

TTC baby#2 Miscarriages at 16 weeks Aug'19 and D+C at 8 weeks Dec'19

Joining in from the other thread too 👋🏻

Had a miscarriage just before Christmas, tried again straight away with no success 😕 On CD9 now and back on the Clear Blues! I’m 37, DP is 27 (go me 😜) and we’re trying for our first baby.

Sending love and all that baby dust to everyone for this month! ❤️

Oh yeah thanks for the new thread @BunnytheBlueWhale

Lilimum8

38. Ttc since January 18. 8 mc's possibly number 9 now. Had a vf bfp yesterday, no darker hpt today, lots of cramps and now spotting pink too, yet another cp. I'll test again with fmu if bleeding doesn't pick up any. Not sure if we will continue after this one. As yet DH doesn't know about this cp I'm not sure if I should bother to tell him. I'm totally fed up. My boobs hurt, I feel like crap and I so tired. And now this on top.

Sorry to start the new thread so down.

Hope every one else is OK x

Hi all. @BunnytheBlueWhale thanks for tagging me. I have found this thread so supportive.

I'm 36, we lost our first born, a DD, in November last year at 41 weeks during early labour. No explanation for what happened so far but investigations are still going on.

This month we have started TTC again but suspect we won't be in with much chance as we haven't managed to DTD very much. I am in my FW but don't think I've ovulated yet. I don't mind too much, I'm focusing on getting fit and healthy but of course if does happen, I'll be over the moon. Fingers crossed we all end up on the graduates thread soon. X

Thank you @morganmom and I am sorry for your loss

@Timeforanamechangeagain1 I know your pain. I am so sorry. I am gonna hope for you right now.

Hi I’m here and still following! Luv this group.
I had preterm labor In Nov 19 and delivered my DS at 5 months. He was too young and didn’t survive. Now he’s our beautiful angel. We’re trying and this is our first official cycle! CD18 6 DPO and symptom spotting like crazy!!!
@Treaclepie19 congrats!!
I am a strong believer in the power of God! I continually pray for everyone here!
Anyone around my cycle time? Which day r u gonna test?

@BunnytheBlueWhale thanks for tagging me! I'm another member of the early days club, got my 3rd BFP last week but bricking it after two losses between 7 and 8 weeks. This is an amazing, supportive thread that has helped me so much over a period of about 8 months now. I hope everyone here gets their rainbow very soon.

Ditto to @Treaclepie19. I won't post whilst I am, but don't want to not be able to find this support if it all goes wrong and it's still very early days